Does BI Curious Mean NO reciprocation?

[dutch51]

Originally Posted by EvilMJ

my opinion was that Bi means Bi and BI courious means that you are not sure yet and are still in the learning stages. But I also thought that it meant that you were into giving and recieving.

I personally take it case by case, it if happens and I am enjoying it, then fine it's all good. If I am not attracted to the woman in any way, then I don't want it.

That sums it up well for us too, EvilMJ. To us, Bi means you seek sexual contact with the same sex and you really enjoy the act, Bi-curious means you're open to it and interested, but perhaps not actively seeking it. And then it depends on the attraction between the females. But it does include giving and receiving or whatever both parties are comfortable with.

We play with couples with bi, bi-curious and straight females. If the female is adamantly against any ff contact, then we pass because that's just too much stress. We don't want to risk accidentally touching or looking and making someone uncomfortable or having them freak out. Likewise, if the female seems to expect it too much, then I get leery and we pass, but that doesn't come up often in profiles we've seen.

[tracy1878]

after i had had 4 or 5 bi experiences, i updated my profile to read bi. As far as giving and not receiving... I've only been in one instance where that happened, I gave, but I kinda wore her out... lol... she has promised to return the favor next time

[northindycpl]

So.... me thinks reciprocity is only expected from women whose profiles read BI or Situationally Bi?

[Zoe&Wash]

I'd describe myself as "curious" because I'm potentially interested in exploring. But because it's unfamiliar territory, I really don't know how far I will or won't go.

It's hard to know what boundaries to set when you're curious, but have no real experience.

Personally, I'd hate to draw a hard line from the start, then get involved in something truly fun and have the other person put on the brakes because I'd said I didn't want "X, Y or Z" to happen. That'd take all the fun out of it for everyone.

I figure it's better to say I'm curious and open to experimentation and suggestion. Then, if something starts heading in a direction I'm not comfortable with, I can just be honest and say "thanks, but no thanks" and remember in the future to draw the line there. That way, nobody walks away with hurt feelings because of any misunderstandings!

Z

[cpl23]

Hi. A bi curious chick here.

I used that label because I am curious about experiencing a woman and haven't had the opportunity yet. That means I'll reciprocate within her boundaries. Otherwise, what's the point?

I think communication can halt this problem. If rules or guidelines are established before the fun begins, there shouldn't be any problems or uncomfortable moments.

[wedday]

Originally Posted by cpl23

Hi. A bi curious chick here.

I used that label because I am curious about experiencing a woman and haven't had the opportunity yet. That means I'll reciprocate within her boundaries. Otherwise, what's the point?

I think communication can halt this problem. If rules or guidelines are established before the fun begins, there shouldn't be any problems or uncomfortable moments.

Now I agree with that...get things straight at the beginning and there is no confusion.

[bedbugs]

Everyone should play the goose and gander game. Whats good for one should be that much better for the other. Besides, Try it you can't help but like it.

[Nice N Spicy]

Originally Posted by cpl23

Hi. A bi curious chick here.

I used that label because I am curious about experiencing a woman and haven't had the opportunity yet. That means I'll reciprocate within her boundaries. Otherwise, what's the point?

I think communication can halt this problem. If rules or guidelines are established before the fun begins, there shouldn't be any problems or uncomfortable moments.

Yes, that's a fabulous way to put it I think.
From my personal experience, twice when I have met someone who said they were 'bi-curious' I ran into more of a girl that only wanted to put on a show when she was drunk and there were men around. That hurts a girl's feelings badly I tell you. Most likely it was because I was in college still at the time, and we all know how that scene is LOL! :rollseyes

Though just to contradict myself I had a fabulous relationship w/ a gal for about 7-8 months who started out 'bi-curious' on a personal ad. So it really must be different for every person

[northindycpl]

All great posts!

What I am finding is really common, and what prompted my frustration and this post; Meeting couples whose women describe themselves as Bi-Curious. In communication with them they say they are up for anything and find it all enticing. When the time comes, It is me doing all the work, and they end the night with a polite thank-you. To futher the fristration the women that we meet who simply state they are BI, seem to be a little too aggressive for me. They seem a bit too into me, and not Mr. Indy.

It just seems I can't win! As an example, there is a couple we play with that claims the woman is bi-curious. All night long she will be all over me. Flirting, touching, dancing, making suggestions, etc. When the time comes, inevitably she will kiss me or touch me, but never go down there!! I am not saying I go 'down there' on her a lot either, but I have and I could tell she loved it! She will ask me for it, and I think to myself, Whats in it for me?

In a situation recently, she was sucking Mr. Indy, her husband was inside her, and I went down for a bit until she came. To me, that is no big deal. The situation was one where I felt comfortable doing it, and for her to have the best experience, I wanted to do it.

Situation reversed on one of the next times we played, and she simply rubbed my left tit.

Time and again that seems to be the outcome. Men have no issue going down there, and infact seem to really like me. I have even tasted myself, and think I would be one taste pretty good.

This scenerio seems to be the norm, not the exception. No matter how much communication exists.

It's hard not to develop a complex about this! IF it's not me, then what is it?

[Dynamar]

Originally Posted by northindycpl

It's hard not to develop a complex about this! IF it's not me, then what is it?

Hate to say it... because it's not really an answer... but I'm thinking it's just bad luck. As we've been reading on this and other threads... there's so many "types" of bi-women that it almost makes one's head spin.

Heck, IMO... if everybody would just go with the flow, do what feels good, and all get naked and get in a pile, the world would probably be a better (and not to mention, more fun) place. facelick

[northindycpl]

My thoughts EXACTLY!

(thinking of creating a pile for Dynamar to join)

[WildMiCouple]

I always thought that bi-curious meant just that....curious about exploring it. But seeing how we've only played with couples we met at dances or on vacation...we really didn't know how they would classify themselves in an online ad. Sounds like bi-curious has different meanings to different people as seen here in the responces. So, maybe, you...Mrs. NorthIndy Couple, have just run into a little bad luck.

A little about us.....Tammy has always considered herself straight. While we were at Hedo III this winter, she grabbed me one day and pointed to this beautiful woman and said "...if there is a woman that could make me bi-sexual....there she is" Well, lo and behold, this woman ends up seducing her and Tammy had her first taste of a woman. Since then, if the woman half of the couple goes down on her, she has always returned the favor facelick ....just doesn't initiate it. She doesn't consider herself bi-sexual or even bi-curious as she often says " I just love a big hard cock too much", but she will return a favor .

Brett (and Tammy)