Bi Curious??

Mrs Spoomonkey · 03-21-2005, 09:31 PM

Okay, Mr Spoo and I have been joking with this girl at work about her repaying a favor to us by kissing me. We have had a running joke with her since we started that she is his mistress (long story) but it has escalated to this point. She found out that I have never been to a stip club and wanted to go so since she has been to one we are all planning a night out.

Here's the deal though, I am "bi-friendly". When we are swinging if the female wants to play I will but I'd rather be with a man and to be with just a woman doesn't interest me. I told Mr Spoo that if this girl at work turned out to want to do more than kiss me (she has kissed a woman before) that I could do more with her. Why? Well her and I were talking about how women are softer and gentler then men (this has not been my experience) and from what she said I think it could be that way with her.

When we are with a couple and the female wants to play with me I find she doesn't kiss as good and is very rough. One time Mr Spoo had to grab the woman's hand (just before I stopped her) because she was being way too rough. The only experience I have had that was the way a lot of bi women describe it was my first. Mr Spoo even commented after that when the men were watching it was a very intimate and tender encounter.

My question is this... I have yet (other than the first time) to encounter a woman that does it better than a man especially Mr Spoo. They are always harder, rougher etc. I read all these threads about bi women and how they love it and I don't see why. What are your experiences? Have I just been unlucky with who we have met?

Mrs Spoomonkey

03-21-2005, 10:16 PM

Mrs Spoo-
I have to agree with your term bi-friendly. Because as we all know....I definatly prefer men.

The woman experiences that pop to my mind.......not good. Way too rough like I was made out of silly putty or something

I don't mind some flirting, kissing & touching, but I haven't found anyone that would make me go beyond that since the last time I was chewed on.

I know I'm in the minority. I'll crawl off to my happy place now.

Just_us49 · 03-21-2005, 10:17 PM

I, like you Mrs Spoo, don't mind playing around with a woman some. It seems to work out well to do that in the public setting at the club, but once we get to the "private play" sessions I really enjoy the touch of a man. I don't feel like the women have been rough, I just have never been really turned on and heated up like I get with the menfolk.

However, I recently met a women who really did it for me and let me just say it was hot and awesome. From the kissing on down. I have never been into doing oral on a woman (this woman was not into women like that either) but together we just clicked. It might have helped that since she also is into men as much as I that the men were really involved the whole time too. I guess if you're like me it has to be the right women to get you going. Maybe that is what you've got with this gal.

-M

**LikeMinds321** · 03-21-2005, 11:14 PM

Two women, two different experiences.

The first woman was not a delicate kisser. But I think I was her first and she may have thought she was suppose to be dramatic and passionate. I really like her and her husband, and we continue to play. I intend to guide her towards something softer and slower next time.

With the second woman, we began by kneeling in bed with our men watching us, we whispered in each other's ear how we were new to girl-on-girl play. That helped both of us immediately relax. Kissing, touching, and undressing each other was all we did. But she had wonderful lips, kissed slowly--like I prefer--and we melded perfectly. It was very enjoyable for both of us.

The softness of the right woman can be very pleasurable. For me, it is a totally different kind of intimate encounter than what I experience with a man.

And I think it should be.

LM

growgirl · 03-22-2005, 07:09 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Mrs Spoomonkey

What are your experiences? Have I just been unlucky with who we have met?

Yes, you have

well, look at it this way... there's probably just as many female mashers as there are male mashers. You just happened to hook up with a higher percentage. I'm sure there are many soft, gentle women out there and maybe this girl will be one.

My experiences have been the opposite I guess. I lean towards the more aggressive end of playtime, and enjoy things more when the other girl is as forward as I am. Passive soft ethereal women, in my limited experience, are more interested in receiving and many have been upfront about that.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Just_us49

It might have helped that since she also is into men as much as I that the men were really involved the whole time too

Ditto to the above! Having the men involved during and with girlplay makes it more of a group encounter.

growgirl

Mrs Spoomonkey · 03-22-2005, 07:11 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Mr&Mrs-naughty

I know I'm in the minority. I'll crawl off to my happy place now.

Well I posted this because I feel like I'm in the minority too - so we're there together Mrs-Naughty

. I like men, soft or rough they are by far the best for me

Quote:

Originally Posted by Just_us49

It might have helped that since she also is into men as much as I that the men were really involved the whole time too

This is my preference too, I think that's why I am comfortable playing with a woman in a swing situation because we always play together so if it ends up we are all four rolling around on the bed together I don't mind ff play since the men are involved with us too.

Mrs Spoomonkey

graygo98 · 03-22-2005, 09:23 AM

This is from a man's perspective, but for what it's worth...

Every woman is different. Some, during oral, can't even stand a direct touch until they're really cookin'. Others like it hard and fast from the get go. If you have been with a number of women, as most men in the Lifestyle probably have, you will know this and (hopefully) be very tuned into your partner and what seems to be working.

A woman who has had very limited experience with other woman may not know how to do this. Or, if she likes it pretty rough herself, may not even know that other women can be extremely sensitive.

Did that make any sense?

Vespertine · 03-22-2005, 10:10 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by graygo98

A woman who has had very limited experience with other woman may not know how to do this. Or, if she likes it pretty rough herself, may not even know that other women can be extremely sensitive.

Did that make any sense?

You made perfect sense!

I completely agree, I think it's lack of experience.

Mrs Spoomonkey · 03-22-2005, 07:17 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by graygo98

A woman who has had very limited experience with other woman may not know how to do this. Or, if she likes it pretty rough herself, may not even know that other women can be extremely sensitive.

Did that make any sense?

Yes it makes sense. Mr Spoo and I talked about it and figure if a woman likes it a certain way (rough) and isn't use to playing with women then she may be rough with them.

I don't want to make a mistake either by insinuating that women are use to men being rough and that's why they are. While I have run across a few men who are, most know how to please orally in a tender way and I have more pleasure with men adjusting to gentle or rough as needed than with women.

Mrs Spoomonkey

**mrs good times** · 03-22-2005, 09:08 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Mr&Mrs-naughty

Mrs Spoo-
I have to agree with your term bi-friendly. Because as we all know....I definatly prefer men.

I am one of the minority too, at least thats the way it seems lately. I have never had a good experience with another woman. The ones I've met are to aggressive and don't understand NO!

Mr. GT and I were discussing this a couple of weeks ago because we were at the club and every couple we talked to the woman was bi. At the end of that night I decided to get a really tight T-shirt and stencil "STRAIGHT" across my chest to see what the reaction is at the club. I'll let you all know.

EmpyreanPleasur · 03-23-2005, 07:32 PM

I"m definitely bi...but I hate it when women are rough. It seems to be pretty common, though I'd not guess at how many or what percentage like it rough.

For me, being with a woman is all about softness, gentleness, sweetness. MUCH softer and gentler than with a man, though plenty of men are gentle too. It's just that with a woman, I expect soft and gentle in return because that is what I enjoy about the way they feel when I caress or lay with them.

I've been disappointed by aggressive, rough women often enough. Mr. E has also had to stop women (even before I have myself) for getting too rough.

On the other hand...I have YET to have anyone be less than happy with my techniques and touch which is all about softness!

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03-21-2005, 09:31 PM	#1 (permalink)
Mrs Spoomonkey Disney!All rides are open Join Date: Mar 2004 Posts: 1,755 Location: Ohio Status: Married Swing Lifestyle Name:spoomonkey	Bi Curious?? Okay, Mr Spoo and I have been joking with this girl at work about her repaying a favor to us by kissing me. We have had a running joke with her since we started that she is his mistress (long story) but it has escalated to this point. She found out that I have never been to a stip club and wanted to go so since she has been to one we are all planning a night out. Here's the deal though, I am "bi-friendly". When we are swinging if the female wants to play I will but I'd rather be with a man and to be with just a woman doesn't interest me. I told Mr Spoo that if this girl at work turned out to want to do more than kiss me (she has kissed a woman before) that I could do more with her. Why? Well her and I were talking about how women are softer and gentler then men (this has not been my experience) and from what she said I think it could be that way with her. When we are with a couple and the female wants to play with me I find she doesn't kiss as good and is very rough. One time Mr Spoo had to grab the woman's hand (just before I stopped her) because she was being way too rough. The only experience I have had that was the way a lot of bi women describe it was my first. Mr Spoo even commented after that when the men were watching it was a very intimate and tender encounter. My question is this... I have yet (other than the first time) to encounter a woman that does it better than a man especially Mr Spoo. They are always harder, rougher etc. I read all these threads about bi women and how they love it and I don't see why. What are your experiences? Have I just been unlucky with who we have met? Mrs Spoomonkey __________________ Love is friendship set aflame Last edited by Mrs Spoomonkey : 03-21-2005 at 09:42 PM.

03-21-2005, 10:16 PM	#2 (permalink)
Mr&Mrs-naughty Posts: n/a	Mrs here- Mrs Spoo- I have to agree with your term bi-friendly. Because as we all know....I definatly prefer men. The woman experiences that pop to my mind.......not good. Way too rough like I was made out of silly putty or something I don't mind some flirting, kissing & touching, but I haven't found anyone that would make me go beyond that since the last time I was chewed on. I know I'm in the minority. I'll crawl off to my happy place now.

03-21-2005, 10:17 PM	#3 (permalink)
Just_us49 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Nov 2004 Posts: 153 Location: Ohio Status: Couple	Re: Bi Curious?? I, like you Mrs Spoo, don't mind playing around with a woman some. It seems to work out well to do that in the public setting at the club, but once we get to the "private play" sessions I really enjoy the touch of a man. I don't feel like the women have been rough, I just have never been really turned on and heated up like I get with the menfolk. However, I recently met a women who really did it for me and let me just say it was hot and awesome. From the kissing on down. I have never been into doing oral on a woman (this woman was not into women like that either) but together we just clicked. It might have helped that since she also is into men as much as I that the men were really involved the whole time too. I guess if you're like me it has to be the right women to get you going. Maybe that is what you've got with this gal. -M __________________ D (male) M (Female) The problem with popular thinking is that it doesn't require you to think at all.

03-21-2005, 11:14 PM	#4 (permalink)
LikeMinds321 Let's get comfortable... Join Date: Jan 2004 Posts: 8,629 Location: On the couch Status: Married to Mr LM	Re: Bi Curious?? Two women, two different experiences. The first woman was not a delicate kisser. But I think I was her first and she may have thought she was suppose to be dramatic and passionate. I really like her and her husband, and we continue to play. I intend to guide her towards something softer and slower next time. With the second woman, we began by kneeling in bed with our men watching us, we whispered in each other's ear how we were new to girl-on-girl play. That helped both of us immediately relax. Kissing, touching, and undressing each other was all we did. But she had wonderful lips, kissed slowly--like I prefer--and we melded perfectly. It was very enjoyable for both of us. The softness of the right woman can be very pleasurable. For me, it is a totally different kind of intimate encounter than what I experience with a man. And I think it should be. LM __________________ There are so many more interesting ways to be than right. ~ Robert Rauschenberg

03-22-2005, 09:23 AM	#7 (permalink)
graygo98 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Mar 2004 Posts: 383 Location: Toronto Status: Couple	Re: Bi Curious?? This is from a man's perspective, but for what it's worth... Every woman is different. Some, during oral, can't even stand a direct touch until they're really cookin'. Others like it hard and fast from the get go. If you have been with a number of women, as most men in the Lifestyle probably have, you will know this and (hopefully) be very tuned into your partner and what seems to be working. A woman who has had very limited experience with other woman may not know how to do this. Or, if she likes it pretty rough herself, may not even know that other women can be extremely sensitive. Did that make any sense?

03-23-2005, 07:32 PM	#11 (permalink)
EmpyreanPleasur Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 161 Location: Illinois Status: M. Female	Re: Bi Curious?? I"m definitely bi...but I hate it when women are rough. It seems to be pretty common, though I'd not guess at how many or what percentage like it rough. For me, being with a woman is all about softness, gentleness, sweetness. MUCH softer and gentler than with a man, though plenty of men are gentle too. It's just that with a woman, I expect soft and gentle in return because that is what I enjoy about the way they feel when I caress or lay with them. I've been disappointed by aggressive, rough women often enough. Mr. E has also had to stop women (even before I have myself) for getting too rough. On the other hand...I have YET to have anyone be less than happy with my techniques and touch which is all about softness!

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