Bi - Bi Curious on profile

[reed&diana]

We are new at the lifestyle and just curious. We have bi curious on our profile for both of us. We say in our profile that we repect other's limits. Does this scare off others, especally other men? This is something that we want to explore but it is not important. I have talked to other males who have taken that off of their profile.

[fun_pairTX]

While bi/bi-curious is widely accepted for women, it is not for men, no I offer no explanation, just observation.

[xxoticangel]

If you are interested in playing with non-bi male couples I would recommend that you leave it out of your profile or create a seperate profile for hooking up with bi males. As openminded as most swingers are the old taboos about guy/guy sex still reigns. Our profiles state that she is bi. We have been with a few couples that stated that the woman was not interested in bi sex and not had a problem. On the other hand a lot of couples will avoid you if you say something like "can be bi with the right guy." For some reason it is assumed (that word again) that if a guy is bi he wants to have sex with every guy he meets.

Just my $0.01 (it aint worth much today)

[20ishCouple]

Mr. 20ish is a tad bi-curious....we do tell people that when asked. I am straight...without a doubt, but he is curious. In our experience we've gotten quite a few responses from men for a MFM....and none of them seemed to be freaked out about the bi-curious thing. But who knows how many guys haven't messaged us for that reason. But hey, for us, we'd rather get it all out in the open. Of course Mr. 20ish wouldn't even try to explore that side if the other guy wasn't into it, but we've been suprised by the number of guys that have responded.

[misterbates]

Be yourself..express what you are looking for and what you dont want....anybody who has a problem with that is probably not a person you want to be with anyway!!!!

Mr B facelick

[Greg & Sheryl]

Originally Posted by reed&diana

We have bi curious on our profile for both of us. Does this scare off others, especally other men?

To be frank, yes it does. There is a certain percentage of swingers who will avoid couples with bi or bi-curious men. However, don’t let that stop you from being honest about yourselves to others. You have an obligation to yourselves to find playmates who will accept and appreciate you for who you are.

[Vespertine]

Originally Posted by xxoticangel

If you are interested in playing with non-bi male couples I would recommend that you leave it out of your profile or create a seperate profile for hooking up with bi males.

Dito

I think a seperate account would be your best bet.

[jcbicouple]

We've expressed our opinion on this subject many times. We are both bi, and you will find that in any ads or profiles we have. We think being open about what you are interested in is important when looking for sexual playmates. We've heard horror stories of the other guy finding out the male was bi or bi curious and throwing a fit, or being very upset: The only way to fully avoid situations like that are to be honest to begin with. If the other guy is scared of playing with, or turned off by, a bi or bi curious guy you shouldn't be putting him into that situation anyway (even if you think his opinion or fears (whatever you want to call it) are irrational....That's not your decision to make, it's his. Second, if they are really turned off by it; are they (or he) really the couple you are looking for to play with anyway?

[reed&diana]

Thanks for the replies. This seems real interesting. By not putting it in your profile, you are not being completely honest about who you are. If you put it in, others can not believe you when you say that you will respect their limits.

I don't see where making seperate profiles are really an answer. It wouldn't be hard to find both profiles on the same site. Unless one or both of the profiles have no pics, you can tell it is the same couple.

I would not want anything forced on me and I would not force anything on anyone else.

Do straight woman shy away from couples with bi woman? That would seem to greatly limit their contacts.

[jcbicouple]

Originally Posted by reed&diana

Thanks for the replies. This seems real interesting. By not putting it in your profile, you are not being completely honest about who you are. If you put it in, others can not believe you when you say that you will respect their limits.

What we've found is that the people we talk to believe we'll respect their limits, and that's why it has worked with the straight people we've played with. They weren't bothered by it and everyone had a fun time. Those that don't believe you'll respect their limits, are probably not going to be much fun as playmates. We don't set up meetings with "straight" people from the internet, so the only non bi people we actually play with are chance meetings, "meet and greet" type things, or at the swing club. We're pretty open about being bi, and usually ask if they are. If they say "no" we tell them that we are, and that if it bothers them we understand. We've never had anyone act like we had cooties or something.
We get contacted a lot by "straight" couples or couples where only the male is listed as "straight" that tell us he is really bi. We usually politely explain that we aren't interested, and wish them the best of luck.

[shivers68]

new to this site. would love to talk more to you.

[dave1234]

Most people rate sexual preference in three categories: straight-bi-gay. In reality preference is a continuum. Google the Kinsey Scale for details. I call myself Bi in our profiles but I am really around a 1.5 - 2 on the Kinsey Scale. That means I am dominantly straight but will play with men sometimes. I would never date or get in a relationship with a guy. When we swing with bi couples I don't "check out" the guy - women are my major turn on. My wife is closer to 3 - she has dated women in the past. She tends to be more interested in finding couples with a cute woman and doesn't pay much attention to the guy's looks.

Labeling ourselves as bi doesn't seem to reduce our contacts (in fact they picked up significantly when we switched from cpl to bcpl). I have noticed, however, that the private board for our on-premise spot has a large number of bi-couples. The place is also very lesbian friendly and gay tolerant.