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My husband is ultra-straight so it won't ever happen.

 

However, I get turned on watching him enjoy himself so if he ever went down that path, if he was enjoying it, I'd enjoy it. And I must admit, the voyeur aspect of myself was one of the surprises of the lifestyle for me.

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How many of you ladies would enjoy watching you man give another man a blow job as his ladie is eaten you pussy.

 

Captain, I too would like more info about your feelings on this subject. I'm straight but my wife is bi. I don't have much advice and really have just to begin seeing this topic brought up, even in a few chats on-line. I have noticed you post a question like this and usually never follow up with feed back to others.

 

I guess my only questions are,

 

Do you find it disappointing that you don't find this kind of play in your swinging surroundings ?

 

Or

 

Is this something you and your lovely wife enjoy with another couple ?

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1 of the major fantasies that got my wife into the idea of swinging. But it seems to ba very taboo subject with swinger males!?

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could it be the fact that the male as not had the appertained to explore that side of his sexuality? most men find that to be taboo, but is it? if you had a man tell you, you could do anything you wanted to him, would you?

 

women? if your (bi) did you have a women ask you if you wanted to explore her body? or did you ask her???

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i would like to try it,my honey is,well not against it.she loves to pleasure a woman,so it will probably go well.either way,we all will come,and come and come.to each is own!!

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How many of you ladies would enjoy watching you man give another man a blow job as his ladie is eaten you pussy.

 

I don't seek other men but I'm not cock phobic either. The ladies have done it for so long that nothing is thought of it now. If we are with another couple ( we are soft swap, no intercourse but touching Ok) - I am fine with physical interaction with the female and male. Personally, I don't allow penetration either way, however, to explore bodies in this setting is fine with us - 2 on one or 3 on one - it's all good in our book. Had some good times and hope to have some more! Socially acceptable? Not likely. Acceptable for us - yes. Since this is a nonjudgemental site/group - I feel very comfortable to say a true feeling.

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Okay, so some history on me. When I was in High School, close to 20 years ago, I experimented on both sides of the fence, including trying oral w/another guy. In the end of this experimentation I determined that I was straight as I am not interested in having/receiving anal sex with another guy (and its not my thing with women either), and oral isn't as pleasurable for me as is vaginal sex.

 

Okay, again, close to 20 years later and my wife and I are somewhat in the lifestyle of swinging (which we ran into from the BDSM lifestyle, but that's another topic altogether). At some point in the whole swinging conversations Mrs. Dulci and I have, she suggested that she would like to see me be with another man. This really just put me in a total sweat, and at first I respectfully declined. Mrs Dulci was already aware of my "experimenting" in high school well before ever asking this.

 

But I had quite a bit of time to think about it. Really, it turns me on that it is a turn on for her (we are very connected in feelings and emotions), and secondly, okay, I can handle having a cock in my mouth. I am NOT interested (again) in anal, giving or receiving. I have really explored the feelings of anal penetration with my wife (buttplugs, dildos, and the like), and though it is somewhat pleasurable, I really really REALLY have to be in the right mood for it, and this is few and far between.

 

However, there is far more of a social stigma attached to homosexual sex in society in general (including in the swinger sub culture) than there is for lesbian sex. To bring this up in the lifestyle is very very scary because it can definitely break a hookup deal for the evening that was a sure thing beforehand.

 

I personally have yet to find the guy to help fill this fantasy for my wife and I. I am kinda excited about it to be honest, that I can explore this again w/the consent of my wife, and I have gotten over my social stigmas about it. If it is going to happen it will happen. If its not, it won't, and so be it. You can tell when playing w/a couple how, um, bi the male is fairly quickly. Gaydar works, imho, 90% of the time for me, and in swinging situations, I was correct both times my gaydar went off. Granted, the male was bi (not gay), but the signals were there. Unfortunately I am no where near attracted to the men in either of those situations that I would consider doing that w/them.

 

In one couple, they came straight out and asked because Mrs Dulci and I were talking about playing w/a buttplug we have become fond of, and dropping hints like that is fairly benign in any swinger situation. The other couple I had my suspicions and once we found them on Swing Lifestyle, this suspicion was confirmed.

 

Really, the main couples we don't wanna bring up the conversation with are couples whose man is a homophobe. I am not name calling here, but there are men out there that don't wanna see it, hear about it, definitely don't wanna participate in it, and do not want to be suggested to participate in it either. Its like if you ask them their orientation, they are almost offended you'd ask. I will not pass judgement on them, but I find it strange to react so harshly towards the lifestyle considering that the whole swinging lifestyle is just as taboo within the culture.

 

I am comfortable w/my sexuality, and I realize that as I have matured, my sexuality has also. If your real question is, "could I be bi now? I didn't think I was..." then my answer is quite frankly, yes. Things change as they mature, and our sexuality is no different.

 

 

On a side note: bi people have more options at parties. One plus to the whole bi thing which I somewhat envy...

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Really, the main couples we don't wanna bring up the conversation with are couples whose man is a homophobe. I am not name calling here, but there are men out there that don't wanna see it, hear about it, definitely don't wanna participate in it, and do not want to be suggested to participate in it either. Its like if you ask them their orientation, they are almost offended you'd ask. I will not pass judgement on them, but I find it strange to react so harshly towards the lifestyle considering that the whole swinging lifestyle is just as taboo within the culture.

 

As one of these men let me explain.

 

Its not that we are really homophobes, we do not fear homosexuality, I'd guess most of us dont' care what other people do to each other. What it is, is a MAJOR turn off, it just disgusts us on a visceral level.

 

Honestly speaking, I fine bestiality LESS disgusting then seeing two men together, its just how I'm wired.

 

This is why we are so against seeing it in a club or even talking about it. It will completely put the breaks on any sexual possibilities, much like telling me you like to be peed on.

 

If you want to do thats fine, I really have no problem with it intellectually, I know my brain has a bias, but in casual sex that bias is all that matters.

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Yeah I am with Chicup (on everything except the beastiality thing); I don't care what anyone wants to do, but I find it a turn off to see or consider. I don't care if someone wants to ask me if I am open to that. I will tell them I'm not, and whether we play with them or not will depend on their reaction to me declining. Hopefully this is something that is brought up very early on in the process. We had a couple ask if I was open to that wihle we were still talking online. I said no and they never made mention of it again; we met them and played a bunch of times and I never felt like he was even looking at me lustfully. No big deal really. If it was sprung on me in a play situation then it might be a different story as to whether we'd play or not. Leaving it that late is quite dishonest IMO.

 

In any event; not everyone who is turned off by it is homophobic ;)

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so you have no physical contact with another man? like guiding his cock in your lady or DP, or be in a situation that is just sex, everyon hot and sweaty in a big ball of sex everyone touching each other? Or is it just swapping for you?

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The Mrs. has a fair amount of baggage from growing up, I have managed to get her to explore alot, hence our being in the lifestyle (on the fringe, really)

She/we enjoy MFM's, and she has on several past occasions, made comments about seeing me sucking cock (she is AGGRESIVELY str8...whats up with that?!)

Enough of the background...she has a new fantasy of us 69ing while she is getting fucked, if and when this happens, I will make the attempt to go down on the guy for her, will I like or enjoy it, will she? Dont know, cant really say, but we will find out if and when it happens.

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so you have no physical contact with another man? like guiding his cock in your lady or DP, or be in a situation that is just sex, everyon hot and sweaty in a big ball of sex everyone touching each other? Or is it just swapping for you?

 

Do I ever guide the guys cock into her? No, I don't touch the other guys cock. I'm not squeamish about being in close proximity and incidental contact etc. Intentional contact would make me uncomfortable.

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Do I ever guide the guys cock into her? No, I don't touch the other guys cock. I'm not squeamish about being in close proximity and incidental contact etc. Intentional contact would make me uncomfortable.

 

Exactly, incidental contact is one thing but I'm not handling his penis.

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Do I ever guide the guys cock into her? No, I don't touch the other guys cock. I'm not squeamish about being in close proximity and incidental contact etc. Intentional contact would make me uncomfortable.

Wouldn't bother us at all. I've gotten over the psych barrier, it's just skin.

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How many of you ladies would enjoy watching you man give another man a blow job as his ladie is eaten you pussy.

 

When we first started swinging, we encountered this question....

 

We answered a profile and met a couple. He was straight and she was bi..... well, until after we met and headed to their house, then the tables turned.

 

He shared his bi-ness with me and she chimed in that she thought it was hot.... that what is good for the goose is good for the gander.

 

We were both raised absolutely positively straight.... though my wife has found that she really loves women.... I've just never found ANY attraction for men.... not homophobic in sexual situations, just not turned on by guys...

 

But.... in order to wrap my head around this... I asked my wife if she found it erotic for me to do another guy for her.... she was pretty much repulsed.

 

So.... as with 99% of things in swinging... there are divergent attitudes....there are those women that get off watching husband give head..... there are those that are repulsed by the very thought. There will be some middle ground.

 

Bottom line? Talk... no, COMMUNICATE with your SO....YES! If he isn't terrifically repulsed, he may accommodate your passion......

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I have allowed a guy to suck me, it as very very strange. I was with the couple in a motelroom. I wanted to do her in the ass, she said ok. Only after you let my hubby suck you. Another time I jacked a guy off. At parties and in 3some's I have let th hubby guide me into wife. One guy wouldn't do his wife anally butt he let me do her anally and he lubed me & her, then he held her cheeks open for me. So some limited touching doesn't bother me.

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I discovered that I liked performing oral on another male quite by accident. I did not mind incidental contact or guiding another guy into my wife's fun parts or eating my wife's or a playmate's pussy while she was being fucked. In fact I had had cocks slip out of the ladies and bump me on the chin in such situations.

 

Mrs. YZF was getting tagged by a playmate doggie style while I was on my back beneath her eating her out.. The guy's wife was between my legs blowing me. His cock slipped out of the Mrs. and went right into my mouth. He went a couple of strokes before he noticed and it took me that long to get over the shock. Later when he slipped out and bumped my chin I opened my mouth and took it.

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We are both bi so this is something we have done many many times. It is very erotic and a huge turn on for both of us to watch each other enjoying sex with a same sex partner.

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Hi, this is Petra. No philosophizing, just an answer - it wouldn't do anything for me to watch my guys do something gay, even though I now regularly do lezzie things with my (our) gf. Just the way it seems to be - among heteros, girl play is more exciting/accepted than guy play.

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girl play is more exciting/accepted than guy pl
and we have double standards. Girls can do it with girls and it's HOT, but guys with guys it's wrong.. Both are " gay" actions , the way we look at it, Sex is sex.

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What is most fascinating is how many read and answered this post in the negative. It was phrased in the positive, "How many ladies would enjoy..." and yet a number had to write in that they were repulsed by it.

 

Seems as if even among those repulsed there is a definite curiosity in men giving blow jobs. Other threads about male bisexuality have a similar component of men and women writing in to emphasize how straight they are and while not homophobic in the least, are repulsed by males sucking males.

 

One gentleman went so far as to say he would be less repulsed by bestiality than by a man sucking a man. In another thread this same gentleman compared male oral sex to bestiality. It's so interesting the perspective that some of the repulsed by male oral sex crowd has.

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My husband is not repulsed, but he admits that it's not his thing, which there is nothing wrong with either way.

 

I however, am very turned on by men performing oral sex on each other and he has no problem even watching porn with me that includes this, but has no desire to do it himself. He watches the porn with me because he knows that it turns me on to the extreme, and he gets to reap the benefits.

 

He knows that if it ever becomes a curiosity that I will wholeheartedly support him and would be more than happy to do so! ;)

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One gentleman went so far as to say he would be less repulsed by bestiality than by a man sucking a man. In another thread this same gentleman compared male oral sex to bestiality. It's so interesting the perspective that some of the repulsed by male oral sex crowd has.

 

That would be me :D

 

Since you don't get it let me try to explain.

 

Its not the equation of bestiality and MM activities, its my personal level of desire for either.

 

Bi males and females with bi males seem to have a hard time grasping that someone wouldn't just try bi. Its their kink and one obvious thing is that people always assume their is 'the' kink. So trying to explain this is rather difficult when it is the bi couples with the blinders to use someones language :rolleyes:

 

So the comparison is this.

 

Bi-Couple: You are just afraid of your own sexuality, until you have a cock in your mouth how will you know if you like it? Try it and it will change your views on sex!.

 

Me: Would you blow a goat?

 

Bi-Couple: No, thats disgusting!

 

Me: Thats the same level of sexual appeal having sex with another man is to me.

 

Bi-Couple: You are judging us as equal to bestiality!

 

Me: :bangdesk:

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This thread is about hubby giving a blow job. The question was women, do you enjoy watching your hubby give a blow job. Chicup, you felt inspired to read this thread and tell us (those hubbies who enjoy giving blow jobs) that your level of disgust at hubbies giving blow jobs to men is equal to hubbies blowing a goat.

 

Where does that come from??? Why do you feel this need to enter your disgusts in a thread about woman enjoying watching hubbies give blowjobs?

 

I could give a flying fuck whether you try a cock or not. What I'm curious about is whether you understand why you feel the need to enter this thread with your disgust. Why does a preacher preach about the sins of prostitution and then go out and patronize a prostitute? I wonder whether the same psychology is at work within you. You've habituated more than one bisexual thread with negative posts and your trademark disgust. Why? What fascinates yet repels you at the same time about male bisexuality?

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What is most fascinating is how many read and answered this post in the negative. It was phrased in the positive, "How many ladies would enjoy..." and yet a number had to write in that they were repulsed by it.

 

What, so people can only respond in the positive to the question?

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People can and do post negatively, sometimes very negatively in threads about fantasies and enjoyment that they find repulsive. The question is what fascinates them so much that they feel compelled to be negative toward what others enjoy? Why are very straight men fascinated by threads on male/male sex? I feel that if they understood their own compulsions about what repulses them, the repulsion might begin to have less compulsion.

 

I find the psychology of people endlessly fascinating. Do repulsors need to be very negative toward what they find fascinating but shouldn't? Is their negativity a form of denial about an attraction they could never admit to themselves?

 

In a more simple vein, negativity is tiresome when it offers no real information or insight, only negativity. It does point out those who many of us are happy never to meet.

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Some people just don't like to give or watch blow jobs being done. They have every right to assert this opinion as well. Especially when asked if they LIKED something. The last time I checked liked, as well as attraction was something based on a personal bias. Some people like freckles, some don't. It's about attraction. Plain and simple.

Personally I like watching my guy give a blow job whether or not I'm having my pussy eaten. I'd rather see to girls go at it though, but hey I'm female. I like watching other females experience pleasure.

That's me though, and I don't expect anyone to like the same things as me.

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I suppose it would be less interesting if Chicup only gave a negative response to the question. After all, he's not getting his pussy eaten and he's not watching his hubby give a blow job.

 

What is the psychology of someone who needs to tell us that giving a guy blow job has equal desire for him as giving a goat a blow job? Why would someone need to tell us that? Perhaps, just perhaps it has something to do with the negativizing of sex of our society? Especially the negativizing of men giving blow jobs to men? Is it really a factor of choice to equalize bestiality to guys blowing guys?

 

Chicup is an intelligent person. I find it sad he seems so unaware of where his own negativity springs from. I do hope he can someday step away from that passion for negativizing sex. We sure get enough of it from the anti-swinging, anti-enjoying-sex crowd.

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I love watching my husband giving another man a blowjob....what makes it even better is to have that man giving me oral!!!!! love MFM!!!

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as a swingers couple we believe all should enjoy it i am staight male but will not be against sucking a dick if all were in favor

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I am bi and would love for the lady to sit on his cock facing his feet, then I would lick her clit and lick his balls :facelick: I would pull his cock out sometimes and suck it , then put it back in her pussy!! I haven't done this but would love to !!!

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I love to share my women and it is very erotic to have her make me suck his cock off when we are with another man. We often fantasize being in a motel and both of us meeting men at the motel pool and sucking cock all day long

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first thing homophobic for me is when men freak out or offended when asked their sexual orientation. If man isnt homophobic and confident in his sexuality he would simply asnwer "no im straight" and that will be it. Now if his orientation isn't respected and the people asking starts to pressure him to try it anyway well thats a different issue in itself. i will never be pressured into something i dont want to do and im not interested in being associated in any form of activity sexual or not with those type of poeple.

 

I understand what the intent of the comparison of besteality was intended but the topic to chose for the comparison was a wrong choice.

 

if you are repulsed by bi male activity then why are you checking out this portion of the board? That to me doesnt make sense to me unless your just trying to start drama and feel the need to impose your opinion on someone else that wasnt asking for it. he was asking the women. It would be different if you were answering for your spouse which again you would still be viewing a area your not interested in and it doesnt make sense. the question was posed to the ladies let them give their opinion.

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first thing homophobic for me is when men freak out or offended when asked their sexual orientation. If man isnt homophobic and confident in his sexuality he would simply asnwer "no im straight" and that will be it. Now if his orientation isn't respected and the people asking starts to pressure him to try it anyway well thats a different issue in itself. i will never be pressured into something i dont want to do and im not interested in being associated in any form of activity sexual or not with those type of poeple.

 

I understand what the intent of the comparison of besteality was intended but the topic to chose for the comparison was a wrong choice.

 

if you are repulsed by bi male activity then why are you checking out this portion of the board? That to me doesnt make sense to me unless your just trying to start drama and feel the need to impose your opinion on someone else that wasnt asking for it. he was asking the women. It would be different if you were answering for your spouse which again you would still be viewing a area your not interested in and it doesnt make sense. the question was posed to the ladies let them give their opinion.

 

The OP of this thread seemed to be continuing to post on this theme for a few threads in a row. Then threads take a tangent, so we can discuss those as well.

 

This too is the bisexuality forum, not the male bisexuality forum, but more importantly I don't' check out 'each forum' the swingers board has too many subfora for my taste, I only look at new posts, not the forums they are in.

 

Finally, yes bestiality is the perfect example. Most people are grossed out by it, and I try to explain to bi-furious 'you are only afraid of your own sexuality' types that no I'm not afraid I just really don't want to because it seems rather icky.

 

I could have used necrophilia, copraphilia or any of the various gross 'philia's' to make the point, but the reaction would have been the same so it doesn't really matter.

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Chicup

I completely understand what you meant regarding the comparison. you were just trying to give them comparison the level of repulsion bi or homosexual activities affect you. I completely understand. However, I just believe a lesser (i dont really know how to explain it) type of topic to compare with. Maybe alittle more tactful. In other words you could have given an example of that would have given the results you intended without the risk of insulting someone (whether intended or a perceived insult) thru a misunderstanding)

 

As for the rest of your response it makes sense.

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Chicup coined a wonderful new word to describe his feelings - bi-furious!

 

Jactncpl, Chicup intends offense in his comparisons with male bisexuality. Using the example of bestiality, sex with an entirely different species, demonstratest that point. That he says he could have used the other philia's nails home that point. Simply and clearly homophobia.

 

When you click on New Posts, the title of the thread is right there. He knows very well what thread he's posting in. Chicup is a very intelligent and often quite perceptive guy.

 

I feel it important to be clear and honest on these threads. Chicup posts very good advice on many threads. I could enjoy exchanges with him face to face as much as I do here. But let's be honest about how he feels toward and treats bisexual men on this forum.

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But let's be honest about how he feels toward and treats bisexual men on this forum.
yep . Chicup seems to put down any male male idea's maybe a hint of some religious beliefs or male insecurity. After all it gets pretty old.

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yep . Chicup seems to put down any male male idea's maybe a hint of some religious beliefs or male insecurity. After all it gets pretty old.

 

Well in defence of Chicup, he did say this in the alternate perspective thread in response to a male questioning if he was bi or not:

 

Personally I'd have to say bi but who cares?

 

If you like it and she likes it and he likes it, then what difference does it make?

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:lol:

 

As usual so many people miss the point.

 

The problem isn't bi-male's or me no liking them Mr. 1 post. The problem is bi-males and their wifes who seem to think the only reason some of us are not bi is we are afraid of our own sexuality and secretly we would just LOVE to have our cocks sucked by a man or love to give a blow job and if we only tried it we would see the great world of sexuality we are missing.

 

Personally I'd rather blow a goat and I really don't want to blow a goat. Likewise my wife does not find MM activities in the least bit attractive, so we don't want to see it when we are at a swing club.

 

I'm also apparently evil because we don't play with couples with bi-males knowingly even if they say there will be no male-male play. Being bisexual males have a much higher STD rate than straight males, and we don't trust strangers to be honest about their sexual history, we play the odds and pass.

 

Stating this apparently makes me hostile to bi-males and a bad person, who thinks male bisexuality is bestiality or some such nonsense.

 

The reality is that I don't care what you do, have at it. I don't want to see it, my wife doesn't want to see it, but thats our problem. Just stop trying to convince everyone that your kink is secretly everyone's kink, its not.

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Perhaps you truly don't get it, Chicup, but I doubt anyone as intelligent as you or as well written isn't aware of exactly what you mean with your words.

 

It's not about your sexual preference, whether you swing with known male bisexuals, or swinging at all. It's about your words and their obvious hostility toward male bisexuality. "Personally I'd rather blow a goat and I really don't want to blow a goat."

 

Then don't. You are the only one here bringing up blowing a goat. Or bestiality. Or necrophilia. Or copraphilia.

 

Most of those posting here are on the subject of watching hubby give a blow job. A live human sucking on another live human. The bisexual men posting here want nothing to do with sucking on you. They enjoy sucking on men who actually enjoy being sucked.

 

A person who expresses bestiality, necrophilia, or copraphilia is not a human with attractive desires to most.

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it only happened once as he is pretty straight but I has to admit it was a turn on for me

 

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Did you guys ever think that Chicup aggravates you "cause he can". That's what I told the guy at work who asked why we give him a hard time all the time. "Cause we can". If you just stop responding to his entries, ignore him completely, then his fun will stop and he probably will too. Just saying.............

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