What do you think about this?

wcplnsac · 10-20-2003, 10:41 AM

A couple of weeks ago the wife and I started talking to another couple in a nearby town and were planning on getting together as soon as we could. While talking (via IM) we were using the web cams and more often than not he would train the cam on his privates and nothing else. He would then insist on my wife posing for him in front of our cam. He would sit there and jack off believe it or not and thought that was something we wanted to see, which it wasn't but we let it go and just minimized the view from him so we wouldn't hurt his feelings. Anyhow one night I asked if I could see his wife and was told she was gone. I accepted this and let it go. The next night we were talking again and he wanted to see my wife, unfortunately, as he had been previously told, my wife works security and therefore works mainly nights and she was working that night. I told him so and asked if I might see his wife. He refused and told me that I couldn't see her until he saw my wife. I then reminded him politely about the previous night. He still refused on the same grounds. This ticked me off but being a gentleman I just made an excuse about needing sleep and bowed out of the conversation for the night.

Now it is important to know that we each own three groups in yahoo and msn and we were members of all on each side as well as members here and in the personals section as well. The reason I say this is because the next thing I know, He kicked me out of his groups and not only resigned from my groups but deleted all pics and posts that he made on my groups at least to the extent he could. He then blocked me from IM and has been a total jerk.

I am now pissed off and am thinking about writing him a very nasty snail mail as he can't block that, but probably won't as I am not that nasty of a person as to act that childish, however I would like to know what you people think and what you would do in a similar situation?

Anxiously awaiting your replies.

Ted and Rose

angihay · 10-20-2003, 10:53 AM

Well to be honest and this is my opinion only here, but either he doesn't really have a wife and was looking for some cheap thrills or she doesn't know what he's been up to lately. I am very sorry you have had this bad experience, we have run into a few men with non-existant wives in the past. But as I said this is just my opinion here and I would just let it go if it were us in the situation chalk it up to a bad experience and move on. I do however understand your frustration. Hope this helps if not maybe somone else who's been in the same situation has more insight here.

wcplnsac · 10-20-2003, 10:58 AM

Thanks, that is basically what I am going to do, however I have seen his wife in the past and have even talked to her but he seems to have this attitude that it is either his way or no way and that, I think, is what ticks me off more than anything. After he did what he did I was, I admit, glad that we didn't get together as in my opinion now he is nothing but a pushy, piece of trash that needs to be taken to the garbage dumpster..... well you get the idea.

Elusive BiFem · 10-20-2003, 11:01 AM

Come on, Ted. Now really...he wants to see your wife, performs an unasked for masturbation show while viewing her...uses all of these excuses when you ask to see his wife....

What do YOU really think about this?

Why did he drop you, ban you, block you...whatever...because you "caught" him.

What to do now. Forget about it and chalk it up to a lesson well-learned. I don't have a cam, but if I did, no way would I talk to a "couple" unless both were present and accounted for. Even then, that's not a guarantee of the true "couple" status, but better than what was presented to ya'll.

Sorry...we've all learned a few lessons along the way. - EBF

Edit: you were posting as I was. Now knowing you have seen his wife, I'd be like the other poster and suspect his wife didn't know what he was up to. Again...drop it and move on.

Brit_Pair · 10-20-2003, 12:37 PM

Ditto the above. The 'net sometimes affords people of low moral fibre the opportunity to flourish. You ran into one such person. Chalk it up to experience, but make sure you learn from it.

**Alura** · 10-20-2003, 01:39 PM

Hell, the masturbation bit would have been enough to turn us off. Don't waste your time on a snail-mail letter. I'ts a permanent record which you probably don't want out there.

It seems to us the "on-line ad" method of finding partners brings more aching heads than throbbing hearts. The "Meet Up!" forum, unique to this website, seems to have produced very good results. You might try planning a "no-strings" dinner in your area. We have quite a few members from Sacramento.

Forget this guy.

Alura

Chicup · 10-20-2003, 07:01 PM

Yea this one is just a hard lesson learned.

Our main rule when we were looking for couples was until we talk to BOTH of them, we assume its a single guy or married guy who is not telling his wife.

You don't get caught that way.

wcplnsac · 10-21-2003, 03:22 PM

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Originally posted by Chicup
Yea this one is just a hard lesson learned.

Our main rule when we were looking for couples was until we talk to BOTH of them, we assume its a single guy or married guy who is not telling his wife.

You don't get caught that way.

I do agree with you and I saw her on the camera one time and talked to her at that time as well as saw her in the background another time but that was all. Thought that was enough to assure that they were real but guess not. Oh well. What will be will be.

fun_pairTX · 10-21-2003, 03:52 PM

You found yourself a wanker, forget him altogether.

SexhoundDog · 10-21-2003, 05:24 PM

Sounds like Little Johnny only wants to play if it's by his rules. Ah, what the heck! Send him a brief e-mail letting him know you don't wish to play with children, as his behavior has let you know that he is a child. Then forget the worthless asshole.

I'd say that some guy who only wants to show himself beating off in front of a webcam has some serious issues anyway.

Just my 2 cents.

tinceltoes · 10-21-2003, 08:25 PM

E-mails will do no good when you have a Block that you can put on an address.

Good Luck! with this one.

OhioCouple · 10-21-2003, 09:49 PM

This guy sounds like one of those that I like to call "armchair masturbationists". It is doubtful that his wife had any idea what he was doing, but as EBF said, "you caught him". Of course he is going to run like the wind.

As the female half of this couple, there is no way in hell that we would engage in that sort of behavior, be it cam or online chat. Frankly, I find it disrepectful and I would find it disrepectful if someone requested that of me. Perhaps it is because I don't care for porn movies or viewing naked pictures. But that is just me and my opinion.

wcplnsac · 10-21-2003, 11:09 PM

He actually had the nerve to apply under a different name to join one of my groups again. I check out all profiles before I approve anyone and there he was, sure as sh_ _! Under a different name and he thought he would slip by me I guess. Oh well, I banned him from the group and sent a note from the moderator that he isn't smart enough to get past me then dropped it. Maybe that was wrong but it sure did make me feel a WHOLE LOT BETTER!

Maybe he will try again but I doubt it.

Thanks for letting me blow some steam. I think all of us half to at one time or another. Thanks again.

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10-20-2003, 10:41 AM	#1 (permalink)
wcplnsac Active Member Join Date: Jul 2003 Posts: 46 Location: Sacramento, CA Status: Couple	What do you think about this? A couple of weeks ago the wife and I started talking to another couple in a nearby town and were planning on getting together as soon as we could. While talking (via IM) we were using the web cams and more often than not he would train the cam on his privates and nothing else. He would then insist on my wife posing for him in front of our cam. He would sit there and jack off believe it or not and thought that was something we wanted to see, which it wasn't but we let it go and just minimized the view from him so we wouldn't hurt his feelings. Anyhow one night I asked if I could see his wife and was told she was gone. I accepted this and let it go. The next night we were talking again and he wanted to see my wife, unfortunately, as he had been previously told, my wife works security and therefore works mainly nights and she was working that night. I told him so and asked if I might see his wife. He refused and told me that I couldn't see her until he saw my wife. I then reminded him politely about the previous night. He still refused on the same grounds. This ticked me off but being a gentleman I just made an excuse about needing sleep and bowed out of the conversation for the night. Now it is important to know that we each own three groups in yahoo and msn and we were members of all on each side as well as members here and in the personals section as well. The reason I say this is because the next thing I know, He kicked me out of his groups and not only resigned from my groups but deleted all pics and posts that he made on my groups at least to the extent he could. He then blocked me from IM and has been a total jerk. I am now pissed off and am thinking about writing him a very nasty snail mail as he can't block that, but probably won't as I am not that nasty of a person as to act that childish, however I would like to know what you people think and what you would do in a similar situation? Anxiously awaiting your replies. Ted and Rose

10-20-2003, 10:58 AM	#3 (permalink)
wcplnsac Active Member Join Date: Jul 2003 Posts: 46 Location: Sacramento, CA Status: Couple	Thanks Thanks, that is basically what I am going to do, however I have seen his wife in the past and have even talked to her but he seems to have this attitude that it is either his way or no way and that, I think, is what ticks me off more than anything. After he did what he did I was, I admit, glad that we didn't get together as in my opinion now he is nothing but a pushy, piece of trash that needs to be taken to the garbage dumpster..... well you get the idea. __________________ Be good to yourself first then it's easy to be good to others. Ted and Rose

10-20-2003, 11:01 AM	#4 (permalink)
Elusive BiFem Active Member Join Date: Dec 2002 Posts: 3,400 Location: Texas Status: Single Female	Come on, Ted. Now really...he wants to see your wife, performs an unasked for masturbation show while viewing her...uses all of these excuses when you ask to see his wife.... What do YOU really think about this? Why did he drop you, ban you, block you...whatever...because you "caught" him. What to do now. Forget about it and chalk it up to a lesson well-learned. I don't have a cam, but if I did, no way would I talk to a "couple" unless both were present and accounted for. Even then, that's not a guarantee of the true "couple" status, but better than what was presented to ya'll. Sorry...we've all learned a few lessons along the way. - EBF Edit: you were posting as I was. Now knowing you have seen his wife, I'd be like the other poster and suspect his wife didn't know what he was up to. Again...drop it and move on. Last edited by Elusive BiFem : 10-20-2003 at 11:03 AM.

10-20-2003, 12:37 PM	#5 (permalink)
Brit_Pair Active Member Join Date: Feb 2003 Posts: 3,635 Location: UK Status: Couple	Ditto the above. The 'net sometimes affords people of low moral fibre the opportunity to flourish. You ran into one such person. Chalk it up to experience, but make sure you learn from it. __________________ *It's not going to be an orgy. It's a toga party . . .*

10-20-2003, 10:53 AM	#2 (permalink)
angihay Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Sep 2003 Posts: 124 Location: michigan Status: couple	Well to be honest and this is my opinion only here, but either he doesn't really have a wife and was looking for some cheap thrills or she doesn't know what he's been up to lately. I am very sorry you have had this bad experience, we have run into a few men with non-existant wives in the past. But as I said this is just my opinion here and I would just let it go if it were us in the situation chalk it up to a bad experience and move on. I do however understand your frustration. Hope this helps if not maybe somone else who's been in the same situation has more insight here.

10-20-2003, 01:39 PM	#6 (permalink)
Alura T-Town Playmates Join Date: May 2001 Posts: 6,165 Location: Tulsa, Oklahoma Status: Married to Mrs. Alura	Hell, the masturbation bit would have been enough to turn us off. Don't waste your time on a snail-mail letter. I'ts a permanent record which you probably don't want out there. It seems to us the "on-line ad" method of finding partners brings more aching heads than throbbing hearts. The "Meet Up!" forum, unique to this website, seems to have produced very good results. You might try planning a "no-strings" dinner in your area. We have quite a few members from Sacramento. Forget this guy. Alura

10-20-2003, 07:01 PM	#7 (permalink)
Chicup Not a potential *** Join Date: Nov 2001 Posts: 2,442 Location: Under the bed Status: Tired	Yea this one is just a hard lesson learned. Our main rule when we were looking for couples was until we talk to BOTH of them, we assume its a single guy or married guy who is not telling his wife. You don't get caught that way.

10-21-2003, 03:52 PM	#9 (permalink)
fun_pairTX Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jan 2003 Posts: 1,185 Location: Ennis, Texas Status: Couple	Wanker You found yourself a wanker, forget him altogether. __________________ fun_pairTX

10-21-2003, 05:24 PM	#10 (permalink)
SexhoundDog Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jan 2002 Posts: 357 Location: Colorado Status: M.Male	Sounds like Little Johnny only wants to play if it's by his rules. Ah, what the heck! Send him a brief e-mail letting him know you don't wish to play with children, as his behavior has let you know that he is a child. Then forget the worthless asshole. I'd say that some guy who only wants to show himself beating off in front of a webcam has some serious issues anyway. Just my 2 cents.

10-21-2003, 08:25 PM	#11 (permalink)
tinceltoes Active Member Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 20 Location: Boston Status: Couple	E-mails will do no good when you have a Block that you can put on an address. Good Luck! with this one. __________________ 4Beauty2C

10-21-2003, 09:49 PM	#12 (permalink)
OhioCouple Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Dec 2001 Posts: 6,616 Location: Ohio Status: Married Female	This guy sounds like one of those that I like to call "armchair masturbationists". It is doubtful that his wife had any idea what he was doing, but as EBF said, "you caught him". Of course he is going to run like the wind. As the female half of this couple, there is no way in hell that we would engage in that sort of behavior, be it cam or online chat. Frankly, I find it disrepectful and I would find it disrepectful if someone requested that of me. Perhaps it is because I don't care for porn movies or viewing naked pictures. But that is just me and my opinion. __________________ Remember that human beings are complicated creatures. We like our bedtime routines but dislike routine in our bed times. - Sallie Foley, M.S.W.

10-21-2003, 11:09 PM	#13 (permalink)
wcplnsac Active Member Join Date: Jul 2003 Posts: 46 Location: Sacramento, CA Status: Couple	guess what He actually had the nerve to apply under a different name to join one of my groups again. I check out all profiles before I approve anyone and there he was, sure as sh_ _! Under a different name and he thought he would slip by me I guess. Oh well, I banned him from the group and sent a note from the moderator that he isn't smart enough to get past me then dropped it. Maybe that was wrong but it sure did make me feel a WHOLE LOT BETTER! Maybe he will try again but I doubt it. Thanks for letting me blow some steam. I think all of us half to at one time or another. Thanks again. __________________ Be good to yourself first then it's easy to be good to others. Ted and Rose

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