Wifes first bi-sexual/Bi-curious experience ruined.......

[kissnhuggzpa 17]

Well where do I start, About a month ago my wife came and told me how Girl/Girl porn secretly turned her on for years. She wanted to be with me and another woman and she knew who she wanted to be with for the first time. We have a friend whose 21 and shes Bi so I said ok lets try with the 3 of us. We talked to her, everything was ok she said shed love to, so we booked a room with a private pool. The room set me back a good piece but whatever it was for my wife so I bit the bullet and got it. So then the friend decided that She wanted to bring another dude she was friends with and we said fine. It wasnt the original plan but were flexible and we didnt want her to feel like the 3rd wheel. He was cool with Him and I watching, Now mind you This was a month ago. My wife and I bent over backwards after plan over plan changed to suit them and agreed with everything.. They were ok with everything and told us they couldnt wait to go. In the month timeframe they started dating and then got engaged but we were told that it was gonna happen while we were there. We found out the dude pretty much is a yesman and agrees with everything and that He told her that we were a bunch of freaks and that since they were engaged that my wife even touching her was cheating and he thought it was disgusting, so about 30 minutes before it was supposed to go down he got mad didnt say 2 words to us and walked out..... I really wish they coulve been honest with us and and told us what was on our mind because honesty is important,SHE STAYED..... She said she still wanted to but she wouldnt perform now on my wife she just wanted my wife to do her instead. We asked her at least six times if she was ok with it she said yes she wanted to....Just dont tell her new fiance ever because he said its over if she did... So my wifes first time with the same sex got shorted because she didnt get any pleasure from this she got stuck just performing oral and thats as far as it went....and now were all stuck keeping secrets, We know better next time I guess, Just hope the next time is drama free...

[BiloxiCouple 694]

You failed because you let it fail. It wasn't the other people's fault. You are in charge at all times of your own personal experiences.

 

When other people go wrong, bad things happen. First warning sign was them changing YOUR plans. Don't compromise, just to get to the end result. There are plenty of other fish out there with no drama.

[cplnuswing 4,711]

sorry it didn't work out like you hoped, but it's a perfect example of why trying to make swingers out of friends usually doesn't turn out well. If she still wants to pursue this, then I would go to where the swingers go, clubs or online sites, and then start over from there. You can never be absolutely sure about anyone of course, some swingers can do some drama too, but I'd much rather take my chances with someone who knows the game and how it's played versus someone who doesn't.

[kissnhuggzpa 17]

Like i said it was an experience, being newbies, we definitely know better next time, but its not gonna bring us down. my main concern with everything for the reason I think we let it all happen is we didnt want to seem too pushy.

[cplnuswing 4,711]

That's the spirit Sometimes the less than great experiences do more for you in the long run than the really good ones, especially early on.

[mauijanedoe 1,414]

Like i said it was an experience, being newbies, we definitely know better next time, but its not gonna bring us down. my main concern with everything for the reason I think we let it all happen is we didnt want to seem too pushy.

 

I think that's exactly the right attitude. As far as being pushy, saying what you want and then holding to it is about deciding what works for you as a couple. So long as you don't coerce, force or try to change someone else's mind about what they want, it's not pushy.

[kissnhuggzpa 17]

Well thank you all for your advice and we both agreed we wont be bringing any friends into the bedroom again, And she really wants to try again with another girl so it all good and not wasted..... just a learning experience thats all... is a mistake really a mistake if you learned from it??? I think not :p

[funcoupledayton 2,707]

Well thank you all for your advice and we both agreed we wont be bringing any friends into the bedroom again, And she really wants to try again with another girl so it all good and not wasted..... just a learning experience thats all... is a mistake really a mistake if you learned from it??? I think not :p

 

Great attitude. I'm sure next time will go better and can't wait to hear about it! Another positive is that you'll be less nervous next time because now you are experienced!

[junglecouple 127]

The whole "making swingers out of friends" is a tough road. Sometimes it would work, but as a general rule.. DON'T EVEN TRY. I've lusted after a lady friend of my wifes, for a few years. I know the lady would join us, and both ladies would be fine with it, but, and here's the BUT, she "claims" her husband (whom I've met) is a cuckold. Having met him, I don't think that, I think he's gay and in denial. He warns her about how it bothers him that she dates others, but he doesn't ever stand up to her. That being said, if I didn't know both members of the couple, I wouldn't know better. She's just out fucking around. Thus... DON'T MAKE SWING PARTNERS OUT OF FRIENDS..

[Hippiegirlie 276]

As a single female, I would have to agree that even for me, making partners from people who were previously only friends does not often work (I have only 2 friends with whom I can still remain friends with AND play with, without it affecting our friendship.) I think the advise above is correct. If you want to try adding a third into your mix, you are best finding a female on a site or at a club who has experience. I would also add that it might be good to ask the female if she has experience with couples who are new to FFM experiences. It does help if the third party knows your status, so she isn't just diving in and thinking you have experience already. When I am a "third party", I always ask what the experience level is of the couple I am with. This way I know what questions to ask and I can go slowly and let the experience unfold with ease.

Best to you and your wife

HG

[kissnhuggzpa 17]

Thanks for the advice everyone:)