My Bad Experiences

[spiritualuk]

The Worst Couple We Met – Some years ago now we got talking to a couple online that seemed fantastic, they were around our age, enjoyed very similar music, and even had similar builds and bodies to us, was fair to say everything matched perfectly apart from them living about two hours away, however regardless of distance we still chatted for ages and shared a variety of emails, texts and discussion about what we would like to experience with each other, and over that first few months actually got to know each other really well, they were a young couple with one child, had there own home, both worked, and as stated were around the same age, into the same things, and seemed perfect, so we decided to take the plunge and travel two hours to meet them.

The trip down there was really exciting we had talked with this couple for ages (due to distance) we all seemed to get on really well, and we were finally meeting up in person, and its fair to say that both me and my partner were gleaming, not only with excitement but also gleaming from a physical hygiene point of view, both of us were fully showered, groomed and pampered, had shaved, trimmed, cut our nails, cut our hair, was both wearing new cloths, nice aftershave / perfume, and was basically clean, fresh and gleaming from tip to toe (we really had put in some effort) so after a few hours on a train and a short cab journey we finally arrived at there house, and were both very excited as we knocked on the door, we were finally going to meet and maybe even play around.

HOWEVER all of that rapidly changed and the entire night started to plummet down hill as soon as they opened the door, and what followed shocked us to say the least, on opening the door everyone had big smiles and greetings, until we were hit by the stench of rotting putrid milk mixed with baby sick, and this is (no lie) but as soon as we stepped into there house my fiancée was the cleanest thing in that entire house, with me coming an extremely, extremely close second, we literally walked into here home and became the cleanest things in that entire house. The living room was totally filthy, that bad you couldn’t even see the carpet because of stains, plates, children’s toys, old cloths, food wrappers and whatever else (the entire place was crawling) the curtains were filthy, the seating was filthy, everything was covered in nasty smelling stains, even patch’s of wiped up baby sick on the sofa, the place was a TOTAL DIVE it literally stunk.

But rest assured things got worse from there, trying to find a clean spot we sat down on the edge of the sofa and was clearly not impressed at all, they had literally not put in any effort whatsoever and was clearly filthy people, so we sat down (didn’t get comfy) and met this new couple and began to talk, and again was totally shocked, looking at the male half of the couple he was totally filthy, he had not shaved in days, was wearing a torn, bleached shirt covered in food stains, and his entire skin looked greasy and unwashed, even his finger nails were dirty, he was a total slob, a complete mess, not even bathed or anything (actually made me feel a little sick looking at him) there was certainly no way he was coming near us, and we both knew that instantly.

However we stayed friendly, and chatted for a while, until things tuck another HUGE swan dive into the abyss, these people could hardly get any worse in our eyes, the entire house stunk and was literally caked in germs, grease and filth, however after been there about 30 mins the male half of the couple who seemed agitated and restless basically opened his mouth to show yellow un-brushed teeth and asked if we would like to go upstairs and have full sex with them (there and then) we had literally only been in the place half an hour, HE THEN explained (and this is shocking) that him and his girl friend like to take cocaine / ecstasy when they play around, and he basically said him and his girl friend want to get totally smashed on coke / ecstasy and have full sex with us both in this filthy and stinking house (was F*****G shocked to say the least) was horrified.

Out of total shock I asked where there young child was going to be during all of this event, or in other words where would there baby be while they got drugged off there minds and had full sex with another couple, and basically the short answer was locked in its room alone while mommy and daddy got high and had sex with strangers, locking a three year old child in a room alone while you take drugs and f**k? WHAT!!!! Was not only disgusted, horrified and pissed off with the entire thing, not only felt sick at the thought, but basically felt totally offended and insulted. Needles to say we quickly made our excuses and left, but that trip actually cost us a lot of money and we really did put in some effort, only to be met by some hard drug using filthy people who was clearly out of there minds, they hadn’t even bothered to have a bath and was smelly and pushy.

What a bad experience that was, as please understand there pictures online looked good, the emails we shared sounded great, like they were a hard working, clean young family, but in reality they were smelly, sweaty, filthy hard drug users, who were pushing towards sex from the moment we walked in the door. I can remember walking out of that house and scurrying into a black cab, and me and my fiancée hardly said a word to each other for about 5 mins, we literally opened the windows and breathed clean air, we felt filthy after leaving that place, could have easily picked up lice, fleas or anything during our little visit, leaving there house literally felt like we were escaping to freedom because it smelt that bad and was so filthy, we obviously never went back, but did return home to find an email describing how well things went (lol how well things went) how they really liked us, and wanted to have sex with us there and then, and so on.

I will be honest thinking about that greasy, unwashed, sweaty scrubber even touching us still makes me a little sick today, he would literally come within about two feet and I’d start to gip (HHHUURRLLGGH) lol. This experience taught us that things are not always as they seem and that meeting people, seeing there home, and finding out more about them would usually be better than just rushing in, this couple seemed perfect on paper, but in reality were one of the worst possible choices, and think meeting people quickly in person is a key factor, we wasted weeks of time, money and effort working towards that couple, only to get totally shocked and disgusted when we finally met, and if possible would suggest meeting people early before making any big decisions.



The Worst Single We Met - We have had a few bad experiences with singles over the years, two that defiantly stick out in my mind above all else, the first was rather bad, upsetting and scary and actually did us a lot of emotional damage where this lifestyle is concerned, in short we were very young, met another young lad, played around a little bit and shortly after he began to stalk my fiancée to a rather epic standard, he turned up at the house while he knew I was at work numerous times, even tried throwing stones up at our bedroom window to wake up my fiancée while she slept, and worst of all this (w$%&#$) also turned up at my fiancés work, and made her feel that scared she ran inside the office and was going to call the police. This carried on for about three weeks and every time I was at work he would come knocking at our door, and would shout up at the windows trying to get my fiancée to open the door and talk to him, she clearly opened the window and shouted she wasn’t interested and would call the police if this carried on.

However he still didn’t stop and within a few weeks it was clear we had a serious problem on our hands, we had assumed that after been told to f**k off by my fiancée and having police action threatened that he would GET THE PICTURE and move on, but sadly for us he didn’t, and still carried on stalking my fiancée (really upset us and scared us, she daren’t even leave the house without someone with her) that’s how bad it made us feel, and it was at that stage I arranged some emergency time off work, and had an entire week off work to catch this idiot in the act and face him myself. So obviously this idiot was assuming I’d be at work, and honestly on my first day off work something weird, horrible and totally strange happened (really freaked us out) but this was my first day off work and at about 9.00 in the morning I glanced through the window and spotted something move in the bushes over the road, so standing back out of sight I focused a little and was totally shocked, this lad was actually stood hid in the bushes over the road from my house waiting for my fiancée to leave.

I stood there from behind the blinds and watched him for about 10 mins and was totally shocked and horrified (what a psycho this lad was) he seemed so nice yet ended up been a total freak who was obviously dangerous, anyway within about 10 mins this lad assuming I’d already left for work a few hours early started to approach my house, he quietly walked up the passage and then knocked on the door and stood where no body could see him, well lets just say he was bloody SHOCKED when I opened the door and what followed was me storming out and psychically tackling this lad, literally dragged him off of my property and using brute force pushed him up the passage way with various threats, including possible police and criminal action, got his arm behind his back and literally had to remove him from my land pushing him out into the road with some severe warnings, that could have easily turned violent or dangerous.

That one lad did us a lot of damage, and its clear that not all single people are like that but we defiantly had an unlucky experience, imagine someone hiding in the bushes over the road and stalking you to that extent (was horrible and frightening) but after tackling him physically he never retuned, and since them we have moved house and moved on to meet people that have been a lot better, but that alone was perhaps our worst experience of this lifestyle, and that alone set us back maybe a year because after that we did have a very long break from this lifestyle, actually shocked and scared us a lot, went out and bought my fiancée a rape alarm after that just incase, even had a panic alarm button fitted to the burglar alarm in our new house so we can just set it off within seconds, really did freak us out, but am glad to say we had some great experiences after that and that this lifestyle certainly isn’t all bad, but you defiantly have to have some bad experiences to find the really good ones.

From there we certainly became more cautious about who we invited to our home, and after that had lots of hotel fun which proved more expensive but cut out a lot of the problems, and we have ended up playing in hotels with lads, girls and couples, we actually met one single lad and had a string of hotel meets with him and things went so well we ended up inviting him to our house, what followed was a very long and very fun friendship where he respected us 100% and we still know him to this day, had load of fun together and never once did he make us or our relationship feel threatened, so it goes to show there are some GREAT people out there, but some total idiots as well, and part of this lifestyle is encountering bad experiences, but there not all bad. My advice is to be cautious when meeting new singles / couples, try and get to know them properly first, share emails, meet in person quickly (somewhere public and safe) and DON’T be to quick to invite hem to your home, instead consider having several social meets before hand, or even some hotel fun and see how things go.

I’d not be to quick to invite people back to my house anymore and would rather get to know them better first, that has proven a very successful rule for us, one that has avoided more trouble than imagined, meet them as friends, but seriously only take the right ones home, and defiantly not if your unsure about things, anyways those are a few of our bad experiences with this lifestyle, hope they helped in some weird way lol.

[Infidelsgonewld]

I am sorry to hear that you had these awful experiences. Makes me feel very lucky that my fiancee and I had a mild eyeopening experience(discovery of hard drug use in the first couple we met) to help us learn instead of having experiences like those that would have probably have destroyed any curiosity about this lifestyle after that.

Looking back, were there any red flags that you might have missed during the correspondence phase of those experiences that in retrospect make you *facepalm* now? It's an important question I think. My girl and I are pretty cautious, but there may be things that we aren't looking for when we start to talk to people.