Mr Stud and Mrs Dead Fish

[Jim&Shelley]

Ok we were going to Memphis (for my Job) Shell was going along. We had meet a couple on "MySpace" about 9 months ago...we had chatted ALOT and actually meet for dinner and drinks 3 months ago in Nashville (Knowing we would not play since "Mr Stud" had just had back surgery 3 weeks before and was on activity restriction. That night we had fun, laughed, drank and had a great non-sexual time.
Jump ahead to our trip and we ask them if they want to meet in Memphis. They immediatly said yes.....so we meet in the lobby of the hotel, had drinks in the bar, went to dinner, drank, danced and then went to the hotel room.
So things get going and thus we nicknamed them "Mr Stud and Mrs Dead Fish".
"Mr Stud" and my wife had an AWESOME time....however me and "Mrs Dead Fish" there was something wrong....she just laid there eyes closed and did not seem into it....I asked her if she wanted to stop (several times) and she always said "No, I want you to screw me"....finally I came and she got up and went to the bathroom and closed the door. After about 15 minutes she came out (put panties and bra on) and sat in a chair while I sat naked on the bed....all the while Mr Stud and Shell are still going strong......
So they finish and Shell joins me in the bed I am in, KNOWS I am disappointed, and begins making out and jumps on me THANK GOD knowing I needed some real action....meanwhile I notice MR Stud and Mrs Dead Fish are doing it...once again she is laying on the bed eyes closed and seems totally not into him while he is watching us....a few minutes pass and she is up getting dressed and he is sitting on the bed jerking it.....so Shell gets up on all fours and takes us both on me doggy and him oral....after we finish we chat and talk and Mrs Dead Fish reads the freaking paper....after about 30 minutes she states they need to go.....and they leave......we get home and have an email from her about the GREAT time they had and they want to get together again.......but she never seemed really into it. Supposedly this are expierenced swingers.
Any thoughts of similar expierence

[LFM2]

Our first swinging experience was with a Mrs. dead fish, too. Highly doubtful it's the same one and it's too darn bad that there are two in the swinging world, but as much fun as we had with our Mr. Stud, we'd just rather not play with them anymore because we really want everyone to have fun.

We've had many more couples since them, and thankfully, no more Mrs. dead fish and our experiences have been pretty good.

Does it just make you wonder how they could have had such a "GREAT" time since she was just a ... well, a dead fish? *shaking head*

[babycole]

Yep, we've been there! Had great time with Mr. Stud, while Mrs. Deadfish just basically laid there. We were a good "friend" match, so we decided, maybe she was just "off" that night. Round 2.....well, again, Mrs. Deadfish made her appearance. We went away for the night with them, and the next morning while me, my hubby, and Mr. Stud played around in the bed, she packed!!! Well, needless to say, we cut out the play while remaining friends with them. They are now getting a divorce, and she claims that she never, ever enjoyed the lifestyle, she was only doing it because she thought that would help their marriage. Although, that was never something she communicated to her hubby or to us, her friends.......Oh well, just another person who wrongfully thought that swinging could fix what was already starting to fall apart! Becareful of the Mr. Stud/Mrs. Deadfish combos!!!!

[Jim&Shelley]

Yes it does, especially since she was alot of fun before clothes came off. We have thought:?did she have a headache from the red-wine she was drinking? or does just go along to "keep her DH" happy but does not really like swinging and/or possibly sex?
Like I said they were a blast socially, and Shell had a great time, but Mrs Dead Fish marks them off our playlist as far as I am concerned, maybe we should give it a second try....alot of questions.
Personally, I think life is to short for boring sex;-)

[hands4fun]

Life is way to short for boring sex.....no need for a second chance in my book. We have friends that we have played with that we are not in a hurry to play with again for reason like yours. No reason you still can't be friends.

[BiloxiCouple]

They may have actually had a "great time" in their version of reality. For some people that is the way things are.

Her version of sex is laying there and letting the man do the work. Or whatever her idea of sex is.

[screaminggood]

Kind of makes you pity Mr. Stud, doesn't it? No wonder some men are so eager to push their wives into swinging....imagine living with Mrs. Deadfish every night of your life!

[iapr]

What would be the point of a repeat of that? Sounds like she may just be a sexual dud in general and a repeat performance isn't going to change that. For all you know they may be perfectly happily married and she may have in fact had a great time, it's just that she is a lousy lover and a dud in bed.

Or it may be something more troublesome going on. Maybe he is so tired and frustrated over her being such a dud that he is out looking for someone else or looking to get his needs met elsewhere. Or it could be as suggested that she is getting her arm twisted into swinging and is just tolerating it untill the divorce papers get filed.

Either way I agree with the earlier poster that said to stay away from Stud/dead fish-combo couples. The best you can hope for is that you have bad sex with them. At worst there can be a drama bomb waiting to go off.

BTW we have encountered Stud/dead fish combos too but more often it has been the fem half that was the tiger and the male that was the dud.

[JustAskJulie]

Couples like this always make me wonder if that isn't why they are swinging... did he bring it up because he wanted the opportunity to have more life in bed?

[good times]

I personally think that this is really what some women think sex is. We have not only been with a couple with a "mrs. dead fish", but we have been with many of them. Not the majority of women in the lifestyle, but a lot more than I would ever guess.

I actually thought at first that these women just were not into me, but have come to know that this is not the case. I came to that conclusion because in almost all cases the women continue to pursue me to play with them again. I have finally come to the conclusion that laying there like a dead fish and being serviced by a man is really what sex is about for these women. Unfortunately, that really doesn't do it for me.

Funny thing is, it isn't uncommon to hear these same women complaining about all the guys that "can't get it up".

[IvoryTowers]

Originally Posted by good times

I have finally come to the conclusion that laying there like a dead fish and being serviced by a man is really what sex is about for these women.

You mean...IT ISN'T?!?!

I guess that a woman could be in swinging and think that sex should be no work for her, but wouldn't that require just a massive amount of editing? Wouldn't she notice the other woman/women doing stuff and making noise and having fun?

I still think that if a woman just lays there, her heart isn't in swinging, or possibly in sex at all.

[it'sso]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

Couples like this always make me wonder if that isn't why they are swinging... did he bring it up because he wanted the opportunity to have more life in bed?

Good point. Maybe he got into it just to see if she would react in a lively manner with ANYBODY.

[LOL_OMG]

I myself think that Mr GT has a very valid point. There are IMHO alot of women who don't know what sex can be like. They haven't been told or read or taught that sex can be good for both parties. I was one of those women, WAS...

When I first met Mr LOL, I thought that a blowjob was just to put a cock in your mouth and try not to be disgusted. With some trust and honesty he taught me that it takes a bit more Now, not only do I like sucking cock...I think I'm pretty darn good at it.

I'm guessing, but I think Mrs deadfish has been a bit sheltered...sexually. She probably is a bit embarassed to ask advice. Sometimes a good couple can talk frankly and honestly, and see where she's coming from, if you are so inclined

Mrs

[Chicup]

Had this once myself, though I just assumed she just wasn't that into it/me.

She was a loud party type prior and then she just laid there.

Ah well.

[WildMiCouple]

Originally Posted by Jim&Shelley

Like I said they were a blast socially, and Shell had a great time, but Mrs Dead Fish marks them off our playlist as far as I am concerned, maybe we should give it a second try....alot of questions.

I haven't run into Mrs Dead Fish yet But I wouldn't hesitate to meet back up with them. You know that Shelley will have a great time....so all you've got to do is worry about yourself. Lets you concentrate more on Mrs Dead Fish and you. So switch it up the second time around. Maybe separate rooms and tie her up to the bed ....try some hot candle wax.....bang her on the kitchen counter.......jump in the shower with her when she's washing off. Maybe slip it in her ass if she still enters the Dead Zone (just kidding ladies ). Surprise her with something she probably hasn't done before. Take her out of her "Dead Zone" and see if she responds.

If none of that works.....time to move on.

Brett