should you give advice when someone totally blows it?

[fun4Ds]

we were at a club recently and had intentions of hooking up with a couple we had met before.our plans were to play back at our hotel after the club.


we arrive at the club and went to the changing/shower area together, we knew the couple was there,but hadn't actually made eye contact because they were in the dancing area, so when we get to the dance area and sat with them, 2 men are sitting at the table also(large table). we make small talk and they say their wives will be around soon ( they were actually in the changing area while we were there). so im the closest to these guys and we are havin guy talk while mrs.fun was chattin with the female of the couple we had definitly made plans to play with facelick. we introduce, and these guys are new to the lifestyle and the guys are totally consumed by mrs.fun. in a way that went like "o.k. we pick you guys no need to look any futher...as soon as our wives get back"(bear in mind and in a slightly funny way i am aware thes guys are newbies to the lifestyle (6 months) all that is cool with me. i'd be the first to admit and be proud that mrs fun is so hot. guy #1 is 37 yrs old and his wife we find out now is 21 and in good conversation we didnt want to play (we knew, because of their inexperiance and definatly her age
guy #2 is what the thread is about, he is a trucker and is letting us know that he only (wears black) and i tell him thats cool i like jonnie cash and the reasons HE wore black.but this guy is gaining some yellow flags now and his wife is still not present, this is all going on in the midst of some pretty loud music and the girls wanting to get on the dance floor , he still has mrs.funs attention and he is definatly wanting to play with mrs fun. now bear in mind this guy sat beside me (his choice,and there were other chairs avail) to my left, and mrs.fun is on my wright. his wife came to the table and he is like "here is my wife she is so sexy" and an introduction and just acted like iv picked mrs.fun "i pic her"... now he didnt get how his actions had changed things in a negitive direction there wasnt going to be no mrs.fun now
now in fact, i did find the actractiveness and his wifes character and deminor was far above his, that things would have been fine with me, but now mrs.funs choice is no way . but now he blows it with me totaly, he tells me, just to let ya know im "homophobic" i cant be around men, it freaks me out and in fact he says, im going to have to move, we are sitting to close .i tried explaining that im straight as hell but im not homophobic. so he gets up goes clear around the table and sits beside mrs fun (because he's homophobic) BULLSHIT TO ME that was my take on this now... practially ignores his own wife.
we know what was goin on clearly and me and mrs fun knew how to get ourselves out of this, im going up to the food \bar room, and mrs fun is gonna hit the dance floor with the ladies,easy way out for us.
the rest of the eve went well, i like to socialize in the more quiet areas of the club and met a new couple, and got to visit the owners a bit.

i guess the thing is ? through out the evening as he tried to pursue us more, i wanted to just tell him where he went wrong as a more expierianced couple

but the little devil in me wanted to wink and blow him a kiss every time he looked at me

[Lovethenights]

You appeared to handle the unwanted advances well, without making anyone uncomfortable or causing a disrupting scene. Your experience and your wife's understanding and ageement helped that go smoothly... As to counseling the guy, you did well to avoid the urge. It's not likely that a Johnny Cash look-alike will adopt a "Gee, you're nice for making me so well informed" attitude while he is obviously out and on the hunt...

[Tia Vampire]

Sounds just like the way we would have handled it. Everything from the though of the evil look and getting out of the situation.
Like the first respnce said. You did well in your actions and better luck next time.

[sexcupid]

Originally Posted by fun4Ds

but the little devil in me wanted to wink and blow him a kiss every time he looked at me

rotflmao that's too funny.

agree that you left the situation as gracefully as possible....but the "I'm homophobic and can't sit this close to you....sooooo, I'll go just over here and sit by your wife" routine? Uh huh. He obviously wanted to sit closer to Mrs. Fun...maybe someone should have taught him the bathroom trick (get up go to the bathroom then when you come back sit where you'd like) or something, instead of him bumbling along making himself look bad. But maybe that's a little too subtle for some?

how did the rest of the evening go?

Maria

[DBL D]

I'd probably have blown him a kiss... ...Ya know, he may well end up on this board looking for reasons as to why he's not having any fun. And his "wife"...poor thing. Maybe he's been reading too much penthouse.

Male D

[fun4Ds]

yea, honestly he was trying to interact the best he could.... i think.

mrs.fun says i try to find somethin good in even the worst people. a part of me realy wants to say he just needed to seperate confidence from motcho. then when he was seeing that his act was failing, his last ditch effort to sit with mrs.fun.... he went hobaphony

as far as the rest of the evening, things went sooooo great. we even met a new couple that we are hoping to make contact with again. we left a little early since we had made arrangments for some fun at the hotel. mrs fun had some new outfits still for our modeling pleasure and i actually got a new pic for our profile .

[DBL D]

I know what you mean. And, I'm like you looking for the best and never giving up when people really are jerks. Hit me with a 2x4 why don't ya.

Still, If this fella really had thoughts about playing with you, I might have taken him aside and let him know the best way to do it, and how his way wasn't it. If not, well, you had a swell evening anyway. Came out smelling like a rose, I'd say.

Male D

[good times]

Note to self - Homophony thing bad, phony bathroom ploy good.

[LikeMinds321]

Title: should you give advice

Not unless they ask.

And if asked, they may not like what you have to say.


LM

[JustAskJulie]

Originally Posted by DBL D

I'd probably have blown him a kiss... ...Ya know, he may well end up on this board looking for reasons as to why he's not having any fun. And his "wife"...poor thing. Maybe he's been reading too much penthouse.

Male D

I totally believe you would have.... lol... and I can't say I wouldn't be right there with you. Unfortunately, this happens a lot and I think sometimes people just don't know what they are doing wrong unless they are told. I think at some point after he kept tracking you down through the night I would have had to say "Look, we just aren't interested in you.". Then if he asked why, you could tell him where he went wrong with you. Bear in mind that what turns one person off another may find attractive and just because it failed with you doesn't mean his personality won't be a hit with someone else.

[DBL D]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

...Bear in mind that what turns one person off another may find attractive and just because it failed with you doesn't mean his personality won't be a hit with someone else.

Excellent point!

If this is the case he'll soon be able to tell when something isn't going his way (maybe) a bit sooner. We all learn something new every day, right.

Male D