Bad Experience - Are there nice people out there?

[subtoMistressT]

Originally Posted by nice_cpl_n_bama

Hello,
Mrs. Trixie I would suggest that you add a firm "NO BDSM" to your profile. The guy you're describing seems way over the top even for the BDSM crowd.
Laurie and I know a couple who is into that but they know we are not so it's never even discussed.
As far as whether there are nice couples out there, we try to live up to our screen name. I've found that if a talk to 10 couples, 3 or 4 of them will be nice normal people. The rest will be unacceptable because they are wierdos, fakes, or have big relationship troubles in their marriages. It's a drag to wade through the bad ones, but the 4 out of 10 who are great, fun, sexy people make it all worth it.
We've had our best luck with on-premesis house parties. You get the chance to observe peoples play styles and there's lots of folks to vouch for the good people.
If the party is well run the host couples usually make sure that problem people only attend once.
Good luck and have fun.
Jeff & Laurie

Another great response. If anyone who has been interested in the BDSM lifestyle will know the hallmark mantra is SAFE, SANE, CONSENSUAL! Anything less is a receipe for disaster.

[hfire269]

Well my first reaction to the whip would have been " I told you I dont like that. NO." The moment he put it around your neck I would have kicked him in the balls and We'd be gone for good. But then again if Im not comfortable in a situation Im like a cornered animal. I'll do what I have to to get out.
Thats disrespectful and uncalled for. No means No. If hes truly in the BSDM he'd respect that.
But yeah we would have told them that we have decided that we are not compatible and got our stuff and given theres back. After that we'd try to find some one else and maybe next time ask a ton more questions..lol
Good luck in your search.