Grossed out, and maybe even burned out?

[SecretAsianMan]

I've only HEARD about "horror-story" incidents like this one occuring in the lifestyle ... and it saddens me to know that those days aren't "long past" or gone by the way of the dodo-bird.

While I do think it's within everyone's rights to raise their own kids as they see fit (maybe they're the kind of folk that believe that sex shouldn't be hidden from their kids - I dunno, I can't speak for them)... I certainly wouldn't want to include kids in any kind of "adult-party" regardless if it was a swing-event or not.

(I get a bit twitchy when I see adults letting themselves get DRUNK in front of kids - much less getting high or having sex)

The best I would hope you got out of that situation was - maybe the contact info for the couple that you DID find a good connection with ... and these folks can serve as an example of "what-not-to-do" EVER

[SW_PA_Couple]

Originally Posted by WildHogs

Maybe swinging isn't for us?

Seems to me you might simply need a new set of swinging acquaintances. Most of what you describe in your story is outside of the norm.

~Michael

[Miss Sunshine]

Once the kids showed up, party over. I have heard similar stories and stories where a party went on while the kids were awake and upstairs. Not for me.

[bbarnsworth]

Originally Posted by hippykid

i probly shouldent read some horrible posts on my first day exploring kids drugs and herpes? thats all horrible kinda makes me scared a little

Well, as another poster noted, the experience related here is far from the norm. It's good to be informed of potential dangers, as with any activity. So, in that sense it's good. But, you shouldn't necessarily say swinging sucks because there's dangers. There's very serious danger driving to the grocery store.

[Edison Carter]

Susan here---Don't play pool at a place called Mom's, don't eat at a place called Pop's and do not swing with kids around.

This is why resorts can be great or parties where you are much more familiar with the hosts and the environment. I have to admit, we are not good at improvising an evening or having 'faith' in people we do not know well that are also hosts. Your mileage may vary.

[WonderWhat]

This is why we never go to a private house party without previously knowing the hosts, or at least two or three of the invited couples.

We always meet people for the first time either at lifestyle clubs, or at public places for meet & greets or for first dates. Only once we're comfortable with them do we accept invites to private homes.

I think that's why we haven't had these kinds of unsavory experiences.

[Meetussoon]

We have been fortunate enough to make very close friends in the lifestyle. With those couples we have been invited to family events, BBQ, etc., with all sorts of kids and family present, but it was well known it was a family event, so no play, flashing, groping or even obvious flirting was considered.

Tom