The SpooMonkeys Have Spoiled Us!

[Mrs.PaganLovers]

Ok, here's what happened.
Our very first meet and greet was put on by the Spoos, they were the perfect host and hostess! They had the weekend planned with fun things to do, time to socialize, and party times with dinner and dancing. We really got to know the people that attended. We had the best time! But they have ruined us
Our second meet and greet was this weekend. As, the time was drawing near for this, I saw things that made me go ...hmmm. But, it was too late to back out, so I went with the mind set that we would go and have a good time.
To make a long story short, it turned out to be ...everyone show up at the club, listen to a bad bar band, and leave.
There were probably 20 to 30 couples there, the band was loud and not very good. We tried to start up conversations to no avail. We spent a lot of money to go see a band in another town.

Mr. and Mrs. SpooMonkey, you should write a book on etiquette for meet ups, and how to be the perfect hosts!


Blessings
Mrs. PL

[Mr. Truelove]

Or they could just host another!!! YEAH!

And I agree, they did a great job of hosting.



Mr. Truelove

[JustAskJulie]

I think what you'll find is that the type of meet ups that are usually set up through this site are completely different than those set up by other groups or clubs. I think, too, one thing that really helps our meet ups is that everyone has kinda had a chance to get to know each other before the meet up ever occurs, so it's not really just a bunch of strangers (even if no one has ever met in real life).

[MrsVan]

Originally Posted by Mr. Truelove

Or they could just host another!!! YEAH!

And I agree, they did a great job of hosting.



Mr. Truelove

The Spoo's did a wonderful job at hosting the Ohio Meet up and although we did not get to stay all weekend the night we were there was amazing. I think that we are all ready for another meetup...So how about it Spoo's????



MrsVan

[Mrs.PaganLovers]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

I think what you'll find is that the type of meet ups that are usually set up through this site are completely different than those set up by other groups or clubs. I think, too, one thing that really helps our meet ups is that everyone has kinda had a chance to get to know each other before the meet up ever occurs, so it's not really just a bunch of strangers (even if no one has ever met in real life).

I would agree with you on that. When we went to the Columbus meet up we didn't know anyone, except the couple that brought us. It was set up to be conducive to getting to know one another.
It was a lesson learned for us. We won't do another one of those! And, if we ever did one here, I will take a page from our first experience and our gracious hosts.

Blessings
Mrs. PL

[Spoomonkey]

I think it is easy to confuse a Swinger's Board "Meet Up!" with a typical meet and greet. We saw a lot of this before the Ohio Meet Up! and even a little bit afterwards. They are definitely different types of animals and as Julie said, having some existing relationships - along with the anticipation of meeting so many people that we already know virtually - makes our Meet Ups! so much fun!

But - they aren't the same as a meet and greet where the main goal is to find people to eventually have sex with... Instead, we are just giving substance to the friendships that already exist here.

We were worried about you guys coming since you weren't real active on the board. And - had it been anyone else - they might have been miserable! You and Mr. PL were so wonderfully social and interesting that after just a few minutes you guys were like long time friends and I am willing to bet everyone in the group felt that way about you both.

It didn't hurt that you came with LOL-OMG who are some of the most beautiful spirits you'll ever meet. What would have been a recipe for a miserable time for anyone else was one of the great strokes of good luck for us!

We will do another Meet Up! soon. We can't help it - they are so much fun. But it will be a little while - we are still getting ourselves together after the last one

We are very glad to have spoiled you two. You deserve a little spoiling!!!

But - in all honesty - Swingers Board Meet Ups! are successful not because of the hosts, but because of the people who attend - and we had an incredible group of folks! We could not have asked for a better turn out. There was not one person that showed up who we didn't wish we had gotten more time with!

Spoomonkey

PS - WOW!!! I just noticed your incredibly yummy new avatar!!!

[Mrs.PaganLovers]

oops...I'm here under wrong profile....see post below Mr.PL

[pagan-lovers]

We even asked the people hosting this about trying to do group reservations for dinner before going to a loud club and the idea was shot down. Call me weird, but even if you are just looking for people to play with, getting to know one another needs to be in the picture.

The Mrs. and I have discussed the fact that we are attracted by personality as much as looks. One of the prettiest ladies there, who's husband had been talking to us before the meet n greet, was nearly impossible to engage in any conversation, after that we were less than interested. Another couple I wouldn't have given a second look on (insert favorite hook-up site here) seemed fun and very nice. Most of the people there I couldn't give you there names. the club was about 70% swingers that night and most people just sat there. Thank goodness we had LOL_OMG with us, they are always fun.

I guess the Board meet-up had the best of both, beautiful people with great personalities as well. I didn't go to the Swingersboard Ohio Meet-up to hook-up, but after attending, we haven't ruled anyone out either

Mr.PL

[Mrs Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by Spoomonkey

But - in all honesty - Swingers Board Meet Ups! are successful not because of the hosts, but because of the people who attend - and we had an incredible group of folks! We could not have asked for a better turn out. There was not one person that showed up who we didn't wish we had gotten more time with!

Spoo pretty much said it all for both of us but I wanted to Dito this part because it is so true. We had a great group of people who attended the meet up and everyone that came seemed to instantly start chatting like they'd been friends for years.

We will do another one but we are still coming down from this last one. Although, it was an "Ohio" Meet Up and you all live within driving distance so we hope we don't have to wait until another one to see any of you.

Mrs Spoomonkey
p.s. Mrs PL...Love the new avatar!!!

[Alura]

I'm very happy that Spoo's Swingers Board Meet-Up! spoiled you, Mrs. Paban Lovers. As moderator of the Meet Up! forum, and just because we love them, we enjoy seeing the Meet Up! idea become successful.

I might point out that Meet Ups! vary within themselves. While Ohio was a fairly large one, the Meet Ups! here in Tulsa have never seen more than about a dozen people. But we've had a wonderful time with the folks who have come and made enduring friendships.

Meet Ups! are really easy to organize and cost nothing except your own meals and drinks. It's the best entertainment bargain this side of little league football, and perhaps more fun!

I met the Spoomonkeys at a Meet Up! They are such a beautiful, charming, witty, couple that I suspect most things they touch are a Standard Deviation or two above the mean. But you still have the right to feel spoiled.

Mr. Alura

[Thrax]

The Spoos arranged an outstanding meetup as far as I'm concerned, even though I was only able to attend the initial event (drinks and dinner) on the first night.

I've been to some meet & greets arranged by a NE Ohio Yahoo Group I belong to. At those events, which usually hosted 50+ people (at least double the number of us in Columbus) everyone I talked to was friendly, and the M&Gs were held in bars where there were some finger foods, dancing, and there were nooks and crannies where it was easy to have conversations with other folks. So those were good, I got to meet some people, and had a good time.

In comparison, the difference with the Swingers Board meetup is that most of us who showed up in Columbus had at least a little background information -- if we read the posts on this Board -- on EVERYONE attending. We had an idea WHO would be there, and there was the effort made to introduce EVERYONE to EVERYONE else. The Spoos and others made an effort to engage everyone in conversation. As far as I could see, if anyone felt left out, it was their own fault.

So all of you other regular posters and/or lurkers, if you want a good no-pressure fun time to meet other swingers, Board meet & greets are a great way to go.

Thrax

[Tybee Swing]

Originally Posted by pagan-lovers

We even asked the people hosting this about trying to do group reservations for dinner before going to a loud club and the idea was shot down. Call me weird, but even if you are just looking for people to play with, getting to know one another needs to be in the picture.

We agree! We used to host an occasional (approx. monthly) casual meet-and-greet at a public bar/dance club. In order to facilitate talking and getting acquainted (being able to hear each other), we started very early, usually 8:30-9:00, well before the crowd got there. There was music, but the volume was down quite a bit until about 10:00. It was very easy to talk up to that point. The main crowd would get there around 10:30-11:00, and things were getting louder and looser by then. For the group, the evening would just gradually evolve from talking and getting acquainted, to more flirting and lots of dancing. Worked out well! Every single time, new people we were completely unfamiliar with would show up. This thing was run through a Yahoo group.

The thing with most meet-and-greets is that unless it's a closed very private group, anybody can come and many will be strangers to each other. This is nothing at all like a Board meet-up situation would be. It sounds like you all had plans for the whole weekend with the board meet-up. Very organized; sounds like great fun!

A meet-and-greet is kept very simple out of necessity, because it's virtually impossible to know how many are coming, or even who all is coming....so the dinner reservation idea would not work in situations like what we were hosting. However, the idea of setting the arrival time at the club/bar early really works. Maybe your local meet-and-greet organizers would go for this idea?

[Gena]

Hey PL, it was nice meeting you that night.... It was our very first meet and greet, although we had a nice time, getting out and away from the kids it wasnt everything people had told us to expect at m/g


Maybe we should attend the Spoons when it comes around


Gena
~SEOH on Swing Lifestyle~~

[Mrs.PaganLovers]

Originally Posted by Gena

Hey PL, it was nice meeting you that night.... It was our very first meet and greet, although we had a nice time, getting out and away from the kids it wasnt everything people had told us to expect at m/g


Maybe we should attend the Spoons when it comes around


Gena
~SEOH on Swing Lifestyle~~

Hi Gena,

Damn, I wish I could remember meeting you! There were so many people and the music so loud, that even when someone did introduce themselves I couldn't hear. The only person that we did get to meet during dinner, we really enjoyed talking to and getting to know. Now that part was fun
Ok, Mr. PL and I are talking...did you guys come earlier and stop in the room, while everyone was getting ready? If it is, it was nice to meet you too!

I would definitly recommend the next Ohio meet up, it was a blast and lifelong friends were made!

Blessings
Mrs. PL

[Gena]

Yup.. that was us... We pit stoped by your room early while Mr P was still getting ready.