The female of the other couple may have issues

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Originally Posted by ohmygosh

Ok the wife and I are very new to the lifestyle and have only been with one couple. we met this couple online and went to dinner lied each other very much. and then hooked up for soft swap about 2 weeks later. At the time we all spent the day and that night with each other went to breakfast the next day. The girls did most of the playing and all was good.

Since then we have become pretty good friends we talk everyday via im and text sometimes all day long and then for a few hours at night. we have been to there house for cookouts and just to say hi we have met ther kids they have met ours we are all very comfortable around each other all is perfect. Right after our first soft swap incounter we set up a date about 3 weeks later for a full swap meet at our house. I and her talk everyday about it and the wife and him talk at night about it and at times we all talk toeach other. everybody can't wait. Ok the night comes. the kids are away we have a special dinner planned. we have little gifts for them the whole nine yards.
after dinner and a couple of drinks we all go get changed into something more comfortable and move to the couch to talk. we start with with a back massage for the girls and move on from the there the girls start playing a little us guys are playing with them all is good. Now mrs. ohmgygosh is very affectionate and out going she is all over him as far as touching rubbing nibbling ect. and he is to her as well. now I am doing the same to hrs other couple and she is all into it as well but not exactly giving anything back. that is fine maybe she is just nervous we will take it slow. this goes on for a bit and we move to the bedroom. same thing just more mrs. omygosh and mr. other couple are having a great time. and I am trying to mrs. other couple in the mood. she is not stopping me and is enjoying all the attention that I am giving her but nothing for me. I am starting to get very bored at this point and we all move on to the full swap part of the night me and him put on our protective suits and start going at it. well once again mrs ohmy and him are haveing a great time and that is good it is a turn on to watch them. but mrs other coulple is having a problem all of a sudden and I ask her if she is ok and she say yes everything is fine. But I can and mrs. ohmy can see that things are not ok. I stop immeditaly and just say sorry I just cant concetrate to try to take the pressure off of her a little and mrs ohmy and him slow down and I tell them to go ahead but they stop to to see what is up she says nothing I am fine I am just gettig tired. well this pretty much ends the night. they go shower and go to there room.Mrs ohmy and i hook up and make the best of it and finish ourselves wondering if there is a problem is she really just tired? who knows.

ok the next day we all meeting the kitchen we have a big breakfast planned and I he comes down and is happy sits at the table with us and say so I know this is your first time full swap and all are you guys ok with everything and then mrs other comes and sits on the couch not at the table putting her shoes on and we tell him yes we are fine. and he say so do you guys want to do this again, and we said yes that would be fun but I think you guys might need to talk about all that. he looks surprised as I point to her not sitting wiht us and she says that they dont want to eat breakfast she has to get her car in for service and they need to go. and then the light bulb comes on in his head.

So the that day I text her that I am concerned that she is not ok since we have not heard from them and we usually do. she send me back on ehtat say s she is fine. and she was just haveing a problem that it is not me and not to worry. I ask her if I can aske what the problem was last night since she really didn't seem into the whole time at least from the point where we started palying she was just fine up until that. she told me that she was nervous about the actually intercourse parts and didn't want to do it but knew it was coming and thought she would be fine but then when it started she wasn't but didnt want to ruin everything. I told her that I knew somthing was wrong and that is why I stopped almost as soon as we started and I wish she would have said something when I asked if she was ok. I felt like total shit. we didn't pressure anybody into anything. we all had been planning this for weeks talking eveytday for hours about it., she told me how he fucked her with a dildo and she pretended it was me and how good it was and on and on and on. and althoughthey don't have alot of experiecne they do have some she has done this before but only with one other guy.

she then said that she is fine with eveything else but would like to go back to soft swap. if we can and understands if we need to move on and find another couple to give us what we want. We are just confused as hell abou thte whole thing. I asked her if full would ever be in the future and she said at some point but just not right now she needs to be mor comfortable. Now she told me several timesin the past how comfortable she was with me and how glad she is that we got to know each other so well and on and on. and we have been with them for over 2 months and got to be really pretty good friends and once again talk everyday for hours.

So we told her them that we will wait for her but i need to know that she is into this and wants this and wants me cause I feel left out I love to pleas and give tons of attention just like mrs ohmy does but I do need to feel wanted to and need attention in ruturn. Then she says the next day well what if I nevr get to the point where i am ok with full? I told her I don't know if that will work for us forever we will just have to see I mean soft is fine with us but at some point we want to know that full is going to happen. is that wrong. Mr. other told me how sorry he was the next day and how he didn't know and he had aksed her for the last 2 weeks if she was ok with this and she kept saying yes she was and couldn;t wait. and her and I pretty much set this whole thing up so its not like she was kept in the dark. I don't know what do we do????? We do really like them but kinda feel like we are getting toyed with is that wrong. I don't want her to feel like she has to do anything and certainly don't want her if she doesn't want me. she says that is not the problem it is just the whole love and sex thing she is having a problem seperating.

Anything new going on with them, or have you guys just chalked it up to experience and moved on?