Stood Up

[MoonLightKiss]

I posted earlier last week about how we weren't looking for a single for a MFM but that one kinda fell in our lap, and we decided to enjoy the situation. We both thought he was quite respectful and understood the "lifestyle". Apparantly we were wrong.

Friday the 13th we had our date all planned, dinner at 7, drinks, hotel room. We made the reservation, he had claimed to make a reservation for his own room. Friday afternoon, I am getting ready; going through the whole "get really pretty" process. Hair done, nails done, shaved and trimmed properly, blah blah.

As we are walking out the door, my cell phone rings. Its him canceling plans. Under some circumstances I would understand it. Life does get in the way sometimes. His excuse "The cards are playing saturday and I am going up to St. Louis tonite with a friend to a pre game party." I wanted to scream "HELLO, are you really like that? You make plans with one person and then blow em off last minute when something better comes along?"

Is it me or was this just plain rude? I have made plans with people, had something that sounded better come up, and kept my original plans, because I told them I would be there. Did I miss out on some fun stuff? Maybe, but ya know, I sleep well at night knowing I didn't go out of my way to hurt someone. Anyway, that night hubby and I went out anyway for dinner drinks and did some Christmas shopping for the kids since they were at Granny's for the night. No sense in sitting home and moping and not taking advantage of no kids for the night.

Three days later he writes me this email apologizing for leaving us hanging. I sent him one back saying "thanks for the apology, but it turns out we may not be compatible after all. I wish you all the best."

He sends one back saying "Just like a damn woman, always playing a game."

So my question, Did I play a game and not realize it? Should I feel bad about changing my mind?

[VanHlebar]

Shit HELL NO!!!

This is the type of thing that give the good single guys a bad rap. Hell, I wouldn't tolerate this type of behavior from anyone, single or couple, in our out of the lifestyle. This is just a lack of class and I would have done the same exact thing.

What the hell is that supposed to mean..."Just like a woman..." give me a break. He cancelled the plans on you, last minute no less, and then blames you for tell him that you don't think you are compatible.

I guess to me I would leave it at that and say good ridance. No point in wasting anymore of you time on a jerk like this.

Just my opinion of course.

-Van

[dayhiker]

Well, all I can say is now he confirmed that he isn't who he was letting on he was. No repect. Better to know before hand that one the playing begins.

bummer tho, get your hopes up and then be let down!
dayhiker

[havefuninsun]

Just like a woman, always playing a game? Well that statement alone shows what a moron he is. Arrogant, no respect for others' time, seems to only think of himself -- yeah. You're playing the game alright. <<insert rolling eyes here>>

It's so tempting to write back and get into a pissing contest with these people, but I'm glas you resisted. He's not worth YOUR time.

[rudrjunk]

Put his emails in the junk folder and report him for spamming...What you did was not incorret at all. It was he who was the problem and I would thank god that you did not get to meet him.

What ever happens happens for good. Good riddance to bad rubbish. Well I can go on, but you've got the idea.

[Roundstic]

That guy was an idiot you did the right thing and let it go. If it was my wife I would have been so glad that we didn't was time on a smuck like that.
You go girl!

[Chicup]

Some people are single for a reason.

[looking2swing]

I agree!! He must have forgotten his manners along with any respect for other people. As the F in a MFM, I think that you should try to find another compatable male, but don't be afraid to be picky.!!!

[pumpkins1970]

No, you're not wrong, but that single male is an ASSHOLE!

[LFM2]

He really does give single males a bad name, doesn't he? Boy, I would have done the same exact thing you did.

If that's bad, I guess we'd both be in the wrong.

[JP51]

have to agree with all the other posters...you did the right thing...really sad...am sure he would have met a wonderful sharing couple to have a great time with....

[prettylady]

Originally Posted by MoonLightKiss

I wanted to scream "HELLO, are you really like that? You make plans with one person and then blow em off last minute when something better comes along?"

You know MLK, I only know you from your posts, but I absolutly adore you.
There was nothing better to do! How could there be? Giving up an evening with a woman as beautiful as you, is giving up the "something better" not the other way around. facelick
Chin up girly, Your single guy will come along.
You don't have to look far to see that they really do exsist. Problem is they are in another country. Damn you Americans for not living in Canada!!

Your friend,
Prettylady

[JustAskJulie]

Evidently it's just like a woman (all women with brains that is) to not sit around waiting for him to call when he's ready.

[Sweet_Candy]

Your were correct to inform him you didn't feel compatible after is lack of respect towards you and your SO. If swinging were a game then I would say you played it fairly well.

[Mr.T]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

Evidently it's just like a woman (all women with brains that is) to not sit around waiting for him to call when he's ready.

Nicely put,Julie