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[sweet_tna]

Originally Posted by bbarnsworth

Ok, allow me to rephrase while I try to digest my toes.

I don't mean to suggest that childfree couples are willy nilly do whatever they want whenever they want, and it's good and easy. I'm just saying that scheduling is easier when you don't have kids in the mix. Having spent considerable time as an adult without kids, I've seen it from both sides of the coin. At home, it amazes me that it can take up to two hours to get out the door from the time we decide to leave. Before kids, a fraction of that.

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Fail. He dropped the ball again. He's toast.

If it makes you feel better, I knew what you meant. We have kids, and one of our regular play couples is childless. We've found that THEIR schedules are just as tricky as ours to work around.

And I'm sorry to hear the flaky guy bailed again. HIS LOSS!!!

=)

[The Fuse]

Originally Posted by bbarnsworth

Ok, allow me to rephrase while I try to digest my toes.

I don't mean to suggest that childfree couples are willy nilly do whatever they want whenever they want, and it's good and easy. I'm just saying that scheduling is easier when you don't have kids in the mix. Having spent considerable time as an adult without kids, I've seen it from both sides of the coin. At home, it amazes me that it can take up to two hours to get out the door from the time we decide to leave. Before kids, a fraction of that.

Yes, I have no quarrel with saying that spontaneity is easier for people who don't have kids. That is surely very true. I don't think you put your foot in your mouth at all. Just that we like to have plans even though we don't have kids.

Originally Posted by bbarnsworth

And merging posts with another response to something above (since this additional response is short).



Fail. He dropped the ball again. He's toast.

Sorry to hear that. I hope you find a good playmate soon.

[bbarnsworth]

Sweet and Fuse, thanks for adding some delectable sauce to the toes I feel a bit better now.

I know singles and child free couples can have tricky schedules too. A dear friend of mine is child free by choice and married. Trying to get time with her (vanilla) is difficult, at best, even for a phone call or e-mail sometimes.

Originally Posted by sweet_tna

And I'm sorry to hear the flaky guy bailed again. HIS LOSS!!!

Originally Posted by The Fuse

Sorry to hear that. I hope you find a good playmate soon.

He doesn't know he's toast yet, as we've not contacted him. We won't make the effort though; if he contacts us, then fine. But, I think he'll realize his loss. Single males don't get all that many opportunities. He really liked my wife, and said as much after the meet and greet.

We've got another single male lined up. I know the rule is don't get your expectations up. We've not met him yet. But, he's hitting on every major and minor cylinder for my wife. She's very excited about him. This guy is the opposite of flaky, so the meet will happen. We're both really looking forward to it. Trying not to get my hopes and expectations up though

[rpu3]

Ok, allow me to rephrase while I try to digest my toes.

I don't mean to suggest that childfree couples are willy nilly do whatever they want whenever they want, and it's good and easy. I'm just saying that scheduling is easier when you don't have kids in the mix.

I don't think you need to rephrase or digest your toes. My point was only some of us do like to make plans in advance and some of us still have scheduling issues, childfree or not. I'll grant that having children is an extra hurdle in scheduling. I don't have kids; I have a delinquent nephew that stays with us during breaks at boarding school (or when he's suspended). That periodic obligation is not moveable or negotiable unlike perhaps my volunteer work, or an outing with a friend, or even my job with its occasional flex time.

Sorry Mr. Flaky flaked again on you, regardless.

[IvoryTowers]

Originally Posted by bbarnsworth

Ok, allow me to rephrase while I try to digest my toes.

Just agreeing with everyone else that you don't need to digest your toes (and loving that phrasing). I have a (vanilla) friend who has a 4 year old and it amazes me how much advance planning is needed and how long it takes him to do things some times.

But I think we all agree that even the childfree can have very busy even regimented lives. In most cases, it isn't as unrelenting as childcare, however.

And I'm sorry that the guy flaked on you again--although you are obviously well rid of him!

[Mr.Essex]

This is ridiculous. I traveled across Minnesota to meet a couple, and this guy couldn't be bothered to give more than half an hour's warning?

Well, this explains a lot. The couple that I met was so excited about the fact that I actually showed up, they paid for my dinner and drinks. See, promptness and reliability works out in the long run.