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This is a discussion on Stood Up within the Bad Experiences forums, part of the Swinging Experiences category; Originally Posted by Dynamar Or just the beer... it sounded like he was just going to a party, not the ...
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| Swingers Board Addict Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 280 Location: Adelaide Australia Status: Couple | Quote:
), all i can say is sometimes i'm not sex obsessed... but i have never cancelled plans for reasons other than personal or family emergencies. | |
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| Julie's Helper Join Date: Aug 2005 Posts: 2,285 Location: Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania Status: Married Man: I post; she reads over my shoulder Swing Lifestyle Name:SW_PA_Couple Blog Entries: 15 | Three Strikes and You're Out OK, here I sit at my keyboard, JoAnn is propped up in bed flipping channels on the television. We were supposed to have visitors at the house tonight. Nobody showed. Nobody called. As late as noon today, one of the two confirmed by a text message that they would be here at 7 pm. We had a good date with them last August. In September, they skipped out, called later in the evening and offered the explanation, "I had to work late." In November, they we so eager to see us that they ran their car into a ditch (in retrospect, wondering about that story). Tonight, the roads are clear, the weather is good, all cell phone and land lines are functioning perfectly. But no swinger couple at our door and no phone call to say they have been detained. No explanation need be offered this time. Three strikes and you are out! ~Michael |
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| Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 1,023 Location: South Central Indiana Status: Couple | We're running into a bit of a similar situation. We're trying to work things up with a single male for an MFM. We've met him for a meet and greet. He's nice, intelligent, well spoken, etc. For my wife, he hits on all the major cylinders. My wife said if she were single she'd possibly date him, and she does want to have sex with him. So, we worked to set everything up for a date some weeks ago. It didn't pan out. I won't go into details here, but it didn't pan out. The reason given was believable enough though, so we decided to give it another go. Right now, we're waiting to see how things go for this second setup. So far, it hasn't been so good. Drops in communication being the biggest thing right now. We've got a tentative date set up in the near future, and are expecting to hear from him soon. My wife isn't as jazzed about him as she was, but is still willing to play if he doesn't drop the ball again. If he does drop it, he's toast. |
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| Julie's Helper Join Date: Aug 2005 Posts: 2,285 Location: Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania Status: Married Man: I post; she reads over my shoulder Swing Lifestyle Name:SW_PA_Couple Blog Entries: 15 | Quote:
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| Being good is overrated Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 3,782 Location: Poconos, PA Status: The boss of Mr. Sweet Swing Lifestyle Name:Sweet_tna | Quote:
I seem to attract friends who are a bit flaky when it comes to making plans (mostly in regard to vanilla stuff, though). For someone like me, who goes out of her way not to disappoint anyone, it really stings. I've gradually gotten a bit of a thicker skin about it and have learned with certain folks to just keep my expectations low. (shrugs). http://bestsmileys.com/hugging/1.gif =)
__________________ I'd rather go to hell for doing something I enjoyed than heaven wondering what it's like. Last edited by sweet_tna : 01-04-2009 at 05:44 PM. | |
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| Julie's Helper Join Date: Aug 2005 Posts: 2,285 Location: Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania Status: Married Man: I post; she reads over my shoulder Swing Lifestyle Name:SW_PA_Couple Blog Entries: 15 | Thanks for the kind words and encouragement.
__________________ It's Tom's and Trina's world; we just live in it. |
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| Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 1,023 Location: South Central Indiana Status: Couple | Quote:
At any rate, in trying to assuage my wife's concerns of this single male we're trying to set things up with (who keeps dropping the communication ball) I told her not to fret too much about the flakiness. "Do not attribute to rudeness/stupidity/etc. that which can be attributed to innocent flakiness" Flakiness by itself isn't bad. There are personality types out there who are the life of the party, who don't think about much more than the here and now in any particular serious way, and live life moment to moment when not focused on work, etc. These people are often labeled as "flaky" and there's really nothing bad about them. They're just fun loving people. My wife isn't holding her breath over this guy. If it works out, it works out. Personally, I think she's going to have a great time having sex with him if it works out. I think he'll be a lot of fun in bed. It's just getting there that might be the problem We were hopeful that this guy might be a regular. He's local to us, which makes setting up play time easy. But, he probably won't work out as a regular. C'est la vie. It if happens, it'll still be fun. | |
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| Being good is overrated Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 3,782 Location: Poconos, PA Status: The boss of Mr. Sweet Swing Lifestyle Name:Sweet_tna | Quote:
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| Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 1,023 Location: South Central Indiana Status: Couple | Quote:
For our part, we've never stood anyone up in swinging. If we make a commitment, we stick to it unless a serious emergency arises. If that ever happens, we will inform our play partners as soon as we are able to. If it doesn't, it doesn't. There's other prospective play partners in the works anyways, so it's not a big deal if this one doesn't work out. One in particular we're quite interested in. Still, though we're not wildly experienced in swinging, we've been around long enough to know not to get your expectations of anything up, and just go with what comes your way. | |
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| Being good is overrated Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 3,782 Location: Poconos, PA Status: The boss of Mr. Sweet Swing Lifestyle Name:Sweet_tna | Quote:
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__________________ I'd rather go to hell for doing something I enjoyed than heaven wondering what it's like. | |
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| Retired Mod Join Date: Dec 2005 Posts: 1,000 Location: where we're at Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:LOL_OMG | One thing that we have noticed is that lately more of the people we have met do things at the spur of the moment. That's usually not our style so needless to say we have not gotten together recently. we understand life getting in the way sometimes but it still puzzles us that so many people are having trouble making plans and keeping them. ![]() Mr. Lol
__________________ Somebody better go back and get a shitload of dimes!!! |
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| Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 1,023 Location: South Central Indiana Status: Couple | Quote:
We've received several offers inviting us to spur of the moment meet ups. We've politely declined them all. On the other side of that, any date that we set up to meet and/or play, we keep it. | |
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| Doing it our way... | Quote:
The fact is that some of us just like having plans and schedules for whatever reason. I have to have a schedule or plans in place in advance in order to make sure my obligations at work, home, family and friends are met. I'm committed to meeting the expectations and obligations I take on and I can't do that without a good schedule and without proper advance planning. While I could occasionally just do something spur of the moment, it's not in my nature and not my preference. I know there are a lot of others like me, child free or with children.
__________________ I'll give up my bad habits as soon as equally satisfying good habits become available. A. Brilliant | |
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| Way too opinionated | Quote:
If there's someone we're interested in, or current friends, we get a warm glowy (okay, wet) feeling knowing that we will see them on a certain day. The activity doesn't have to be known in advance. Just the expectation of good company. I can also make sure I'm prepared with all the right girly preps (paint my nails, pluck my eyebrows, give myself a good shave, and the gray roots covered ). Not to mention having whatever I want to wear in a clean condition. All of that stuff takes effort and time. I don't keep everything "done" all the time, but when we have a date, I think they appreciate if I've made the effort.
__________________ Through every dead and living thing, Time runs, like a fuse. -- Jackson Browne | |
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| Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 1,023 Location: South Central Indiana Status: Couple | Ok, allow me to rephrase while I try to digest my toes. I don't mean to suggest that childfree couples are willy nilly do whatever they want whenever they want, and it's good and easy. I'm just saying that scheduling is easier when you don't have kids in the mix. Having spent considerable time as an adult without kids, I've seen it from both sides of the coin. At home, it amazes me that it can take up to two hours to get out the door from the time we decide to leave. Before kids, a fraction of that. And merging posts with another response to something above (since this additional response is short). Fail. He dropped the ball again. He's toast. |
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