Single male admitted to being in love with my wife

[r_poseidon]

Amanda69 - sorry, I totally skipped over your post, so this is in response to your comment:
I have been really busy lately, and all this guy does is sit on the messenger, basically saying sweet nothings. So she has been missing that from me (when I say I am busy, I am *VERY* busy... mortgages!). After hearing that, of course, I started multi tasking even more.
As for why we got into this... we were both very sexual people before we met, with our fair share of partners. We clicked immediately. Literally love at 3rd sight! We moved in shortly after, and have been inseperable. I never thought I could do anything like this w/ any of my other girlfriends, and neither could she, with her other boyfriends. We just feel very secure with each other. I admit I was jealous/possessive when we first got together, but when I realized finally that we weren't going to fall apart... that ended. So why I may be younger than the average age... the feelings are probably pretty close to the same thing. Like I said earlier, the first time I saw her with another guy, I was both very horny, but almost physically sick. Not becuase I was worried, but that was my baby dammit! :-) After that tho, it was smooth sailing, as smooth as can be for us newbies! We have a great time, have actually met a couple, and already are good friends. I am going more for the people older (they are 35 and 39) than us, becuase it seems they usually have all their issues worked out better than us young folk! But we are all comfortable around each other, and while nothing sexual has happened yet, I know that my girl would be ok with these people.
So.. that is my long rant, lol.

[curiousagain]

Just a ditto from a SM, you did not over react. This guy has some serious problems and your wife needs to be very actively telling him to go away.

I've seen this type of behavior from married males and females, it's not exclusively single males that do crap like this but no matter their gender or marital status, kick'm to the curb hard and quick.

[catslaughing]

Originally Posted by prettylady

Ok I'm really not sure why.
But that comment made me really hot.
I don't advocate violence, but I am really turned on right now.
Your friend,
Prettylady

Aw Shucks!
No, I do not think I would not have to touch him, there was an old Happy Days episode where Fonzie had to deal with the fact that Richie had been seen kissing his girlfriend. Fonzie offered to hit him in the face where it would show, or in the gut where it would not show but hurt much worse. Anyone silly/childish/crazy enough to grope random women at a swing club without permission/knowledge as he was, would quickly be reduced to tears trying to make the choice.

heh just saw your profile here, makes sense that you understand that violence is not the answer, but sometimes it is the question. /bow

[ShellyM]

I just read the OP, so I'm responding to that. Definately, this relationship they are having is not healthy to your relationship with her. I've said it once, and I'll say it again. "Love" is a very confusing and at times deceiving emotion. People have lust, and this can get confused with love very easily. If they haven't broken it off I think it wise that they do immediately. Plus, the disrespect of him going behind your back. I know this first hand. We talked with a unicorn through sls. She liked jay alot (understandable ). Now, Jay and I share everything. So, he forwards me the emails she sends him. On 2 separate occasions this individual (my Mama said if I can't say anything nice not to say anything at all lol) invited him to go to the hotel with her behind my back. The first time I didn't say anything, and the 2nd email I sent back to her. The note I sent with it is not for the faint hearted. lol

[r_poseidon]

No, she has cut everything off completely. Not contact, he has been blocked from the messengers and the email account.

[Rocky146]

This type of man makes me mad as hell. You see, I am a single man swinger and this type of man you were talking about gives us single men all a bad name. Sure hope you will not pass judgement on us all single men. We are not all like that, especially me. To me "NO" is what it means and that is to be respected. I have been in a mfm relationship before and it is fun but respect is a total must. You did the right thing and you protected your wife from an oppertunist. He was just using the swinging scene to get a woman, one more mark on his belt of conquest.

Good going, good luck!

[ClarkDark]

As a single swinger I think you did the right thing and ended contact with the offender. Some single swingers (and couples) don't understand the rules, make mistakes and make it harder for couples to invite singles into their lives. Some of us are really a pleasure to get to know and I've several multi-year friendships with couples because I respect them both and keep both engaged at all times.