IF MARRIED~DON'T SWING...IT CAN BE HORRIBLE & RUIN YOUR MARRIAGE

[luckycple]

We have only swung a few times and it was wonderful and made the sex between us more exciting.

[MIbbwcpl]

We've been swinging for most of our relationship. Yup, it's ruined.

[knb2004]

Originally Posted by TNT

So true, married almost 25 years and swinging about 23, I am expecting our marriage to fail at any moment.

Ted

As this was originally posted almost 2 full years ago, I expect that you two have divorced by now. No? Oh, damn I was gonna ask for Theresa's phone number.

[theflamekasters]

Mrs. F and i have been married for 5 years this year, swinging for 1, and we are closer now, and have a better marriage now then ever. Our sex life has gotten so intense, and it was good to begin with.


How ever we beilive that with alot of cpls there are some trust issues and insecurities, and we seem to attract most of them. Those cpls cause drama, and we dont want that.

Mrs. F always says i dont want to keep ur man, ust borrow him, and u cant have mine, but i will gladly share him!!!

[VegasLee]

Well, Laura and I have raised six kids, now have eight grandkids and I am sure more on the way.

We have been in the Lifestyle before any of those kids came along.

We are still together and very happy. It works for us.

The OP is right in a way though.

This Lifestyle is NOT for everyone. I would say more people crash and burn in it then last as long as we have. We see many people try this lifestyle to try to "fix" something that is wrong in their life. It never works.

Most are not cut out for this life but for the ones of us that are, it is a great life!

I'll report back in another 30 years and let you know how we are doing!

[TNT]

Originally Posted by knb2004

As this was originally posted almost 2 full years ago, I expect that you two have divorced by now. No? Oh, damn I was gonna ask for Theresa's phone number.

Still married but...we are swingers so asking for the phone number is not totally inappropriate


Teresa

[lovinher]

It's been a while since this has come up

I think there should be a forum on how swinging fucked up everybodies marriage.

It amazes me that people don't get that if swinging affected a marriage or relationship negatively that there was obviously something wrong in the first place. A lot of couples seem to think that swinging will fix things and we all know that will not happen. I do believe it will magnify a problem and open the door to other issues that may be there.

So if you want to find out how strong your relationship is...then by all means, swing. You will find out in a heartbeat.

[twobears]

Hi I hope you will write more in detail of the experience so all of us on the board can try to point you toward a more comfortable space over this experience. We are still newbies as it goes with only 3 or 4 years and limited experience up here in Alaska with our age it is not very offen we play. I can tell you the first experience we had with a 3 som with another female, which is what we both wanted to experience,even with all the talking there was wronge impressions given to us by the other party. Yes I cried and I was mad at the other female, we speak that is all now WE did not want this "one" time bad experience to take hold of us as a couple and turn us into something we both did not like. Yes realize "we only need each other" is a good feeling and will always be you as a couple, swinging burns out all of the deep personel feeling of our nature that needs to be placed in proper balance,that is up to you two to complete. Look and put these feeling in the right place and go on with new experiences in the lifestyle. Read about all of the people on here that want to help you with the personel pain, if you are willing to "openly" face what you feel and talk about it. Your personel out look on life will free you and husbie to be what the creator wants, enjoy your life being the sexual persons you each are. The wonderful thing about the lifestyle is the trust and knowing your mate loves you and you him or her.This will give you both more pleasure with each other as well as the richer life is can give a couple, more than you can realize now in this pain. I hope you will talk to us more in detail and we all can share our growing experiences with you. I hope you will hold on to the love for each other and let go of the pain and enjoy life. Swinging will not do what you feel it will do to your marriage or anyone's I am so thankful I let myself grow and put the old fears away become the woman and couple that is free to be ourselves loving life and every moment with us and other in this life. I hope you will one day reach that goal also. Good Luck and please write again.

[JustAskJulie]

Originally Posted by twobears

Hi I hope you will write more in detail of the experience

The original experience (post) was posted almost 2 years ago... I doubt they'll be back.

[bendmeovernow]

well damn.. we've only been in it a yr... and yes.. it's not for everyone, we have seen people we know split up. but that was cus one or both didn't want to follow the rules they set up .... sooooo it didn't work. but hey i guess we are all doomed... darn.

[knb2004]

Originally Posted by TNT

Still married but...we are swingers so asking for the phone number is not totally inappropriate


Teresa

No way! After all, everyone knows if you dabble with the swinging monster your marriage will be gone before you know it!

/sarcasm

Now, about that phone number.... hehehe.

[Swingercast]

Originally Posted by Spoomonkey

Yawn

Seriously... This board is filled with strong marriages and experienced swing couples. Your one bad experience does not invalidate the experiences of the rest of us - it only proves the idea that to swing, you need a strong marriage with excellent communication.

If you don't then, it certainly can be quite horrible...

This is sort of like walking up the edge of the pool at the Olympics and telling all the swimmers that they could drown...

:rollseyes

Spoomonkey

PS - Thanks for the warning, though. God forbid something bad happen to us...

I know this is an old thread and the OP has probably moved on but damn, Spoo, this is just freaking hilarious and so to the point.

Made me

John

[Chicup]

Its the troll thread that wouldn't die.

and comming next month....

Revenge of the troll thread that didn't die!

[shymxcpl]

DAMN!!!

I hadn't read this post and my wife an I went out and f&cked another couple!!! I guess our whole marriage of 10 years is ruined!!!

Why didn't you guys make this a sticky?!?!?!

LOL...

[petra6998]

Well should I be calling a lawyer then....geez 6 years of swinging....it's all going to start going down hill soon.....

Our relationship probably wouldn't have lasted this long without it. We have become much more intouch with each other, and know our wants and needs more. It's great would suggest it for many!!