IF MARRIED~DON'T SWING...IT CAN BE HORRIBLE & RUIN YOUR MARRIAGE

[rebelnangel]

well,i can see guests point,but i was married before and all he did was cheat,i was jealous and all.this time around things are different,we agree on everything before hand,we have our agreement about how things will be.and i have to say,our marriage is very strong.we have no arguements and when we have a slight disagreement,we talk it out.so maybe it's not for everyone.but for the ones it works for,so be it.our marriage is stronger than we thought it would ever be

[Darkblue]

Since we started swinging(were still newbies) we have grown even closer than we thought we could ever get we have no secrets whatsoever,we tell each other everything and i mean everything,it has brought new life into our marriage, We have some minor problems that we still have to sort out but in General i wish we had started swinging a long time ago!! but you do need a very strong trusting relationship...


Steve

[DBL D]

Ya Know...All of us should have been concerned about the health of our relationships first and foremost. Most of us would never want our partner to do anything she/he didn't want to get into. Most of us have made a commitment to each other for life. Most of us have developed those communication tricks to help us figure things out.

Most of us truly love each other and want only the most happiness that can be fit into 70 or so years of living!

OP...What was the problem? Did one of you freak out at something? Or did the other couple? Did someone break a rule or two? Did you get caught by the vanilla public? What made it such a disaster? Jealousy? When you say that you have found that all you need is each other, I believe you. You can't compare our positive outcomes with yours. It isn't logical.

If you want to register and respond to us and be a member of this society, there are many who would welcome that.

And welcome to SuandBud...you seem well grounded.

Now...if I can just figure out how to get off of this swimmers block!...

Male D

[sereneiders]

Ok, since this thread started by someone trolling keeps comming up over and over, I will hihack it with my own advice:

DON'T EAT CHOCOLATE ICECREAM...IT CAN BE HORRIBLE & RUIN YOUR LIVER

I Had A Weak Liver, Plus A Broken Theeth...

------ You can guess the rest of the story here -------

So Folks, If You Really Care About Your Health... DON'T EAT CHOCOLATE ICECREAM!

I hope I made my point clear, and invite you to do the same

[wifes_sex_slave]

Swimming can be very hazardous to your health, if not done right or carelessly - but for those of us who can swim, I for 1 enjoy it!

[MrsVan]

It is a good thing we are not seeking advise from the OP as although it may not have worked for this individual there are plenty of us that know first hand that swinging can make a marriage so amazing and make us fall in love with our partner's all over again.

I think that this individual may be lacking in their marriage and because of that thinks that we all should just stop what we are doing based on their issues......But oh well...We all know better and will just need to move on to the next post.

MrsVan

[crazycatz]

I think it's really unfair to say that they are lacking in their marriage because swinging didn't work for them!! Some people enjoy it and others don't. C'est la vie. Neither is right or wrong.

I think the tone of his post is arising from him being upset and he should be given some leeway.

[MoonLightKiss]

Originally Posted by crazycatz

I think it's really unfair to say that they are lacking in their marriage because swinging didn't work for them!! Some people enjoy it and others don't. C'est la vie. Neither is right or wrong.

I think the tone of his post is arising from him being upset and he should be given some leeway.

Actually, I think its perfectly fair. For those who are secure in their marraige and decide to swing, and go about it in the right way, it enhances and strengthens the marraige. But you are right, it is not for everyone. So what happens to those who swing once, don't like it but were secure in their marraige? Most likely they look at each other and say "Well it was not that much fun, why don't we find something else?" and they move on. They do not let it ruin their marraige, nor do they let it come between them. Its more like trying on shoes. You buy a pair, they looked great in the store, but when you put them with that dress you bought em for, they just aren't right. What do you do? Take em back and get your money or stick em in the closet to collect dust. No harm no foul. It becomes simply a lesson, a learning experience, and noone is worse for it.

But he came here ranting about how it destroyed his marraige. So I honestly believe (If it wasn't just a troll) that there was a problem there and they thought swinging would fix it. Which as we can see from the guests post, did not happen.

[captainbob]

Wow! Isn't it funny how when you browse the new posts, or the active posts, you sometimes avoid those threads that you read before that you thought were kind of weird. But then they keep getting bumped. And then finally, you go back and read the 4 pages of new posts and realize the thread has gone off on a whole new direction! Wow!

[deanncat]

We have been married 10years and have not actually been swinging yet but the thought of it and exploring the idea has made are marriage much better, we communicate better and sex is great, I don't think swinging will change that

[havefuninsun]

If the OP is offering a true opinion, I do feel sorry for him/her. Smells of a troll, but who knows.

This I DO know, There is no way on god's green earth that I would have EVER considered swinging unless I was totally and utterly committed to Mr. Fun and our relationship. And we had to talk and wait until we both felt that bond that said, "this is not going to ruin what we have."

We love each other more every day. It's an amazing thing.

(This morning, Mr. Fun said as he kissed me goodbye "thank you" and I said "thank you for what?" and he said "thank you for making it so easy to love you." Damn that man is gonna get lucky -- again -- tonight!!)

[Edison Carter]

The post reads like a sexually repressed evangelical christian who has little knowledge of human sexuality except to want everyone to think like them and live in fear.

Or, someone who began reading this site and was overloaded at the level of free sexual expression and their only response was to write the maladaptive start of this thread. Ultimately, if a man wrote it , the flashbacks were probably of his wife having the time of her life

[babygirlntoyman]

I will say this...you must be 100% comfortable in your marriage, sexuality and more than that yourself in order to live this lifestyle!!!! I will admit there are some people out there who can't handle this lifestyle...but if you are one of the ones who can't handle it why criticize those of us who can and enjoy it very well!!! My husband and I know each other well enough to know if the other is uncomfortable with a situation and if that happens then there is NO PLAY...if all is good....9 times outta 10 it is DAMN GOOD!!!!!

I wish you all the best in your monogamous life and I will hope for the best in my swinger life!!

Look us up if you wanna give it another go round...lol!!!

Babygirl

[twobears]

I hope he or she will contact the board again and let us talk out what happen. A bad experience can hurt but not your marriage if you love one another,you can learn about yourself and your beloved mate if you talk this out. I have been there, we all have so don't worry about our marriages but your outlook at your own marriage, only you can help it recover or let it die and blame swinging, or get up and go talk to your mate and fix it!!! Good Luck on doing that!!

[oddcouple]

Maybe you shouldn't have started with a 3 some? First time, you might have
tried with a couple and after you got used to that moved on. Hard to tell since you are not being specific about what the issues were.