Rohypnol at a party - Somone put it in our drinks!

[fun4Ds]

Its been a while since we posted so this is gonna be a little long. 2 weeks ago we were invited to a party where it appeared that there were going to be more single bi women(unicorns). Mrs fun was a little reserved.one day well maybe, then we cant because of this or that. No big problem I'm not a pusher .Of course, me being a guy I'm thinking (omg ). So the day of Mrs. fun is ready, willing and already has decided what to wear,were going We get a message that the party has been postponed till the next weekend because not enough people sent rsvps. so now 15 people send rsvps and we are really looking forward to going . My only reservations are its mothers day weekend. Mrs.fun has no problem with this because she has made plans for our kids to stop by for an eve cookout the next eve. HERE IS WHERE THE PROBLEM BEGINS. We planned on meeting a couple for a drink to maybe become possible playmates they were in a hurry that day and so were we so we met halfway to the party at a convenient place, made small talk and had a drink and we went our separate ways thinking we were all compatible. Accept we couldn't invite them to the party without the owners permission.

So off we go, we get to the party and one half of the hosts shows Mrs fun to our reserved room to put our overnight bag away while i go to the kitchen to put our drinks away in the frig and make us a drink. We make small talk play a game of pool or two and mingle a little. I felt a little buzzed then it hits( BLACK OUT) very vague memories. Mrs. fun was in the hot tub with a single guy that we (both think the world of) and I can remember while she is having what I think is a good time I leaned over and kissed her and said "I love you" to her. She can remember to that point that she went to our room and crashed out thats the end of her recollection till morning..I have one memory of a girl tugging on my ponytail in a good way but thats it. we wake the next morning in our room together and I'm really not feeling good at all. Mrs fun says shes gonna shower and i go down for some coffee. we make small talk with the owners and ask if we can take a couple pics before we leave and they said sure so i snapped a couple of Mrs fun and the dance floor (no members) and off we go feeling like we're a little hung over. On the way home our talk was mainly about we cant remember a thing EITHER of us, and the drive is very long. We get home and Mrs.fun passes out in a way that off to the hospital I go. (We live close) Doctors tell us that we have rohyfnol(aka.rooffies) in our systems and i shouldn't even be able to stand as much as I had in me and want to know if they should call the police.(well NO) We have to have our son come pick us up. what a thing on mothers day. Its been a week now and we have talked alot about this. My problem is I have always tried to be the guard in this lifestyle and I somehow failed. We have been through every emotion this week accept anger at each other.

Now heres another strange thing we have spoke to no one about this. We tried to contact the owners of the group\club when we got home and we were BANNED from the group no mail no nothing. Wouldn't ya think they would have at least been concerned about our wellbeing? When i asked to take a pic or 2 wouldn't ya think they would have said no? and then to be banned by the time we got home? this has been a rough week its time to pull our heads out of the sand!

[LOL_OMG]

Wow, I think that is the worst thing I have heard to date and it makes me pretty angry thinking about it. You guys were drugged against your knowledge and who knows what happened....the word that comes to mind is rape. Even if nothing happened sexually your free will was raped.

I would be tempted to call the police, but I know you have to think this one out for yourselves. As far as being banned, maybe the hosts thought it was you slipping this in peoples drinks? Or maybe it was them but I would guess more than likely not. It would be nice to at least talk to the hosts...I hate it when people can't be upfront.

I'm so sorry this happened to you guys. I can't imagine the feelings you're going through right now. If this happened to us I've no doubt we'd call it quits for swinging. Hugs to you both...

Mrs LOL

[Spoomonkey]

This is a tough story to believe - I know I damn sure don't want to believe it. How could this have happened? Did anyone make/get you guys a drink? Did you leave your drinks open and alone at any point?

As a husband and a swinger this is one of the most frightening scenarios we can think of and we feel awful that it happened to you two. We are sick about it and wish you both a sense of peace about it - and a clear head about what to do with it.

I'll be reading this thread with interest because I am sure cooler heads will offer some great advice to this nightmare scneario that we are all potentially exposed to at some point.

Spoomonkey

[sexyshelby]

Wow, I'm so sorry that this happened to you. I don't really have any advise to give you. I'm just extremely sorry that this happened.

But don't feel bad that you are supposed to be the "guard" and this happened. People are evil bastards.

Hope you two are doing better and have recovered from this incident.

~SS

[JnCC]

I'm a little puzzled. You seem to be reluctant to bring charges against these people, or even to get the police involved. This, in spite of the fact that you were both administered a debilitating drug against your will, and your wife was, in all likehood, raped by one or more individuals.

I guess my question is, "How bad would it have to be, to get you to DO something about this?

If she had "only" had an adverse reaction to this drug, and it left her brain-dead or bedridden and living on life-support for the next 30 years, then would you call the police?

What if she had died as a result of this? Would you be inclined to call the police, or would you just suffer in silence, without bringing the matter to the authorities?

Better yet...do you have kids? What action would you advise your daughter to take, if you suspected that she had fallen victim to something like this? What would you say to your son, if you suspected that he were doing this to his dates?

You can post your story on this message board and maybe 1 or 2 thousand people will read it, NONE of whom can DO a damn thing about it. Or you can call the local Police, Sheriff, or County Prosecutor, and just maybe STOP these low-life motherfuckers dead in their tracks.

At the very least, you'd be putting them on notice, which would reduce the chances that they'd try it again on somebody else.

It's your call...

[NewAndScared]

I can empathize with you. As a lot of you remember from my first post, my wife and I had a similar situation. Even though we caught the couple messing with our glasses we did not want to make a scene. We could have been wrong. I am sure that you also feel a bit responsible for placing your wife and yourself in that situation.

[OttawaCuple]

Originally Posted by NewAndScared

...I am sure that you also feel a bit responsible for placing your wife and yourself in that situation.

I don't think you should feel the least bit "responsible" for what happened to you. The person who slipped the drug in your drink should, and if it's at all possible without risking "outing" your swinging, I think you owe it to future victims to find out WHO is responsible and do whatever you can to protect others from having the same thing happen to them.



MrsOttawaCuple

[OttawaCuple]

ops, I re-posted by mistake.

But I did want to add my heartfelt sympathies to you both.

MrsOttawaCuple

[fun4Ds]

Here is a time line.. I get off work and wife closes store early, we meet our son and daughter in law at our local north end of town pub, where every body knows everybody. (They even have a womens club) I have a coke because I'm driving and wife has Malibu. we mingle a little and sign the books for weekly drawing. Yes our drinks were unattended for a bit, but we personally know tenders and owners, but still a Sat crowd. We are there 1\2 hr. We drive to Indy to meet possible friends, no problems very hot couple. We seem to hit it off well. I'm having some margaritas now because we are close to our final destination, and Mrs fun had 2 Malibu, yes our drinks were unattended while we stepped out to talk and have a smoke. They wanted to meet later at the vogue theater if the party didn't work out. So off we go for our full intentions of a great eve. We arrive at the party and maybe 2 hrs later black out... We didn't feel raped but we cant say for sure what we did.. we would rather talk to swingers than the police. Our intentions were to invite the owners to our house because they seemed so busy attending to every one else. Bringing this up to the board seems best for us now. we have our normal lives to deal with, and this issue also.

[2jersey]

We're not hearing you say (or imply) this - but perhaps you are fearful that bringing in the police will expose this aspect of your life to public scrutiny? Rape victims receive a certain amount of privacy protection, but unless rape is suspected, you might find your story in the local news.

This may not be a good reason to not prosecute the suspected offenders, but it is certainly worthy of consideration.

[LOL_OMG]

Just so you know, I did a little google research and found that the effects of this drug kick in 15-20 minutes after it's taken....so it's pretty obvious it happened at the party.

I've been thinking about you two all day, it still ticks me off to no end.

Mrs LOL

[blondie77]

Ok, LOL OMG just answered my question. I was wondering to myself if it could've happened before the party with the couple you were meeting. Obviously it happened at the party.

WOW! This is really scary. I can't even imagine what you guys are going through. I wonder WHY this would even happen. I mean, you were at a swing party...it's not like you were there to play monopoly or something. I have to assume you were there to have sex. Where was the need to dope you up? Unless someone wanted you out of the picture to have fun with your wife. That's an even scarier thought.

I am so sorry this happened to you. If I were in your situation, I would contact the hosts/owners again and let them know what exactly happened to you and let them know that if you don't hear a response from them that you will be contacting the police because that's obviously the only way you're going to get answers. I wish you luck and if you ever find out what happened, let us know. Good luck.

[intuition897]

What sort of sick manipulative bastard gets off on screwing a human rag doll? I always say that cheating isn't swinging...and neither is rape! It says a lot about someone that they feel they need to incapacitate their prey in order to find an "agreeable" partner.

We have never had this happen, but have heard several stories about rohypnol in the swinging community, and it's scary as hell. Just one more reason to only play together as a team! I just did a little reading up on it, and one article (Brown University Health Ed. - http://www.brown.edu/Student_Service...d_rohypnol.htm) stated that "The drug has been changed to leave telltale blue floating particles when mixed with liquids. If you see these in your drink, do not drink it. Get help and notify Police and Security immediately..."
I have no idea who made these "changes", how these changes are controlled, or what scale they're talking about (just locally?), but at least I'll know not to drink anything with blue floaters in it.

I have no idea why you two would've been banned, but it had to be a miscommunication. Or maybe it was something you did (that you don't remember) while you were on the drug. In any case, you were not given a choice. Definitely get in touch with the hosts and explain what happened. Do you have any documentation from your doctor? These folks are pointing the finger in the wrong direction, leaving the asshole(s) that did this to you free to do it again to someone else.

[Mrs Spoomonkey]

I am sorry to hear that this has happened to you and although you say you don't feel 'raped' in a way you were. You were both violated against your will by being given a drug without your knowledge. That aside you're still not really sure if you were raped after the drug took affect.

I have to agree with Jncc's post on this because when Spoo told me about it this morning I've been unable to think of much else. I would have let the hospital call the police and had them check me to see if in fact I had been raped especially since you don't remember anything and prior to the blackout from what you said nothing had happened yet.

I would be more more worried that someone gave me a drug without my knowledge and caused me to go to the hospital because of it. Plus, wonder if it had been a worse reaction? That is a greater concern then my "lifestyle" being made public over a police report. How many other people have they done this too or will do this too that because they may have reacted the same way you are (not reporting it) is why they were able to give you the drug.

Just my two cents on what I would do...I'd be pissed that someone risked my life or my health by slipping me a drug. We all have to do what we are comfortable with so I wish you luck in getting past this.

Mrs Spoomonkey

[LOL_OMG]

I would seriously want some answers if I were in your shoes.

1) who did this to you and possibly others there?
2) What happened after the last point you remember? Others saw, surely not everyone was drugged and they could provide some answers.

My advice would be to call or email the hosts and say that you really don't want to get the police involved but you want some answers. If you can't get them, then the police will. You already have the toxicology report from the hospital (i'm actually surprised they weren't legally obligated to report this) and could file a report...which gives you some leverage with the hosts.

Once again, just my opinion but JnCC is right. Of course this is your own descision but most rape cases don't get reported. And it happens again.