Expect the Unexpected

[DaveNSheila]

Hello all not sure really where to put this so thought General would be a good place to put this it is sad but also an eye opener. We had gone to a club this weekend and a couple we hadn't seen in a couple of months was there. We consider them friends and haven't played with them but have done alot of teasing among the four of us, timing just hasn't worked in our favor. We were all sitting at the same table pretty much just hung out together and having fun, they were very affectionate with each other which we hadn't seen in the past and the male half was sort of pushy in the aspect of trying to get his wife to go down on S and at one point had taken his wife's dress and told her she couldn't have it back until I had fucked her. We hadn't been to the club in a couple of months do to life and all, any way near the end of the evening the couple was joking around with each other chasing each other being silly and he said he had to take a breather. He sat down at a chair near where they were being silly and the next thing you know he is slumped over. He quit breathing and his heart stopped. 911 was called they came did what they could and he passed away he was only 43. We watched our friend die in front of us at a swinger club. I guess I am posting this to sort of let everyone know just how short life really is and to try and enjoy as much as you can while you still have it. Sort of in shock still but was glad to see them joke around and be silly with each other. D

[jon&roberta]

So young - that is very sad.

[Spoomonkey]

Life is a fragile, precious thing. My heart goes out to his wife and family - how difficult this must all be for them. I hope there was some discretion in the reports of his death.

Spoomonkey

[starlinn]

DaveNSheila ~What an unfortunate experience for you. My thoughts are with his family, and also for you both. Life is so fragile and precious. It is hard to imagine something like that happening.

[Alura]

My goodness! We're so sorry to hear this, D.

Life is too short; one never knows when it will all be over.

Alura

[Paramour2_99]

To Dave and Sheila
That is a tragic story. To die right in front of your eyes,,,,no doubt that vision will be long lasting for both of you and his wife.

I pray he made a decision at some point, hopefully seconds before dieing that he would pray for God's forgiveness for his sins.

The legacy that he leaves behind for himself and for his living spouse is particullarly terrible.

To have the medics pick-up your corpse at a swingers club. Now all his cousins, nieces, nephews, parents, in-laws, friends, will here rumor of their lifestlye. I'm sure they didn't have "SWNGR" on their license plates. Now the community knows of her activities. No doubt she may end up relocating. If they have children now they may wind up carrying that luggage.

Imagine the funeral and the wake. They're not going to discussing how good a man he was, they're going to talk about where he died and the shame therein.

Of all the good a person can do in "our short time on this earth" only to die in shame at a swingers club. Yes, we're only on this earth for a short time so we need to live it as "carefully" as possible.

My regards and heartfelt wishes go out to the surviving spouse,,,,,"X" Swinger

[DBL D]

I know of other sudden deaths...sometimes you find out that the person had a bad heart, or it could've been an anurism. Always sad and gives me pause.
I have a heart condition also. The doc's say it could be a problem if I were to take a good strong blow to the chest. I feel healthy. I've had this condition all my life and have been very active and never had the feeling of having a heart attack or pain or anything. I'll be 50 soon and have great blood pressure and my cholesterol is hanging around 200 with a good ratio of LDL/HDL. Still you never know....

Our sympathies to everyone.

Male D

[CB_n_Red]

Originally Posted by Paramour2_99

Imagine the funeral and the wake. They're not going to discussing how good a man he was, they're going to talk about where he died and the shame therein.

What shame? There is nothing intrinsically shameful about swinging. You may find it shameful but it is not such a good idea make such a moral judgement on someone else's choices in life.

Originally Posted by Paramour2_99

Of all the good a person can do in "our short time on this earth" only to die in shame at a swingers club. Yes, we're only on this earth for a short time so we need to live it as "carefully" as possible.

Or conversely, we should live life to the full, as did the individual we are considering. At least it would appear he had no hang ups about his life.

CB

[LikeMinds321]

Dave ~

I'm glad you posted this. It is a sad story but also one that leaves me feeling good because the couple was having such fun with each other and their friends right up to the end.

My heart goes out to you both.

LM

[Sunswept]

My gosh D,
Here to listen if things come up for you two as time goe's by.
Things like this remind me that each new dawn is such a gift.
It is such a mystery why and when and how any of us is chosen.
Yes, it is good that they joking around and be silly with each other.
and living each second of this gift.
Take care

[curious1103]

I'm sorry this has happened. I feel for his wife and family.

One of my life's mantras is "Live life to the fullest, you never know when you might get a second chance, and as far as I know this is your only chance..." and others along those lines.

I too have a heart condition and suffer from hypertension. It's genetic, I can't help it. I am on medication and have it under control. It's unnerving hearing your doctor say you're a walking time bomb if left unchecked.

So, have fun, folks. Enjoy life. If anything, this guy left this world doing something he enjoyed, not wasting away in a hospital bed with tubes coming out of his body, or old and decrepit and all alone...

[jennandjamesinm]

D and S -

I think that this is a great reminder of just how short life is and to live it to the fullest. My heart goes out to his wife and family and you and S, but I also think that she (and you and S) will also have a wonderful memory of their last night spent together - being silly and affectionate with each other, and having a good time with their friends.

Jenn

[Botcpl]

Lots of people die in restaurants, nightclubs and at home on the toilet...there's no shame in any of it.

P

[tribbles]

While freaky to watch and be present, and he was damn young, I like how he was having fun right to the end and it sounds like a peaceful passing.

I'm sorry for your loss.

[curiousagain]

Sorry to hear about this and I agree it's a good reminder that we are all just one heartbeat away.

Spoo, there will most likely be some discretion. I am in the health care field and we usually practice necessary discretion in "sticky" situations.