Problem with an Aggressive Man Who contacted me Online

[RNDNV]

Originally Posted by jenniferblue

UGH, then I felt kind of bad afterwards, I'm the most non-confrontational person I know.

Dearest Jennifer, if you are going to hold yourself out as a single gal in the Lifestyle, AND, be in contact with single men in that vein, then I assure you are going to run into this kind of problem again. The reason I say this is that you are coming across as this sweet, indirect, non-confrontational type, who is probably a very wonderful and sensitive person who thinks everyone in the world is as sweet and kind as you are.

However, in this case your attitude is a bit victim like, and the reality is you never had the stones to tell this guy, in a firm fashion, to take a hike early on. Your actions of relenting and continuing to IM with him just led him on to think he could do what he did. This guy is probably a lonely loser with nothing better to do than hunt you down. For whatever reason, stalker types such as him can smell a "victim" a mile away. I would sure hate to see you get hurt, but you may wish to do some deep examination of yourself and find out why you behaved the way you did in this case, otherwise, you might be setting yourself up to get hurt in a significant way and that will generate the change (in a negative way) in you that will keep you safe as opposed to you discovering that for yourself (the positive way).

Take care, RND