You'd think after 7 years: We'd know better!

jcbicouple · 11-07-2004, 09:21 PM

Just wanted to post our weekend experience....Why? Not sure. Maybe just to show the New people joining us to never give up? Take it on the chin, and move on. LOL!
OK, so the story......We meet this couple. The woman is very outgoing and very pretty (Which has C (female of us) totally enchanted). So far so good! Husband is ok, not exactly her type, but ok. J is up for it, her hubby is up for it: We go to our hotel room.
Red Flag #1: Kiss her.....Heavy alcohol!
Red Flag #2: They are slightly rude in their "hang on" and step two feet away to whisper....No problem, we can understand needing discussion.
Red Flag #3: We get to the hotel parking lot, they don't look too ummmm in love? Maybe not getting along well? We make a few jokes about it, and they seem ok....we move on.
Red Flag #4: They both smoke and aren't happy that we don't have an ashtray. (We explain that it's a non smoking room, and they state that they (the hotel) will never know. We tell them we will and don't like the smoke. We would appreciate them not smoking in the room. We move on.)
Red Flag #5: While in the room, they are still whispering (no problem), but she needs to talk to us, ok. She tells us he's not allowed to touch either of us at all and no one is to touch him (He's in the bathroom for this "talk"). She's very jealous because he cheated on her, and repeatedly said "He knows better" when we asked questions. This concerned us only because of her approach and attitude towards it. Not touching him wasn't a problem, so we decide to go ahead and play. A little uncomfortable when he put his arm around her from behind and C stopped and asked her what she should do because she wanted to hold her, but didn't want to accidentally touch her husband; She said "He knows better and he'll move if you're too close". Oh and by the way either of us could do anything we wanted to her including intercourse (which is cool).
And final ending to our Play: About 20 minutes into playing around, We go to change positions, she says "hang on" and they both disappear into the bathroom. They are smoking! They spend the next ten minutes in the bathroom of our room (yes, we already had a room before meeting them) smoking, after we had discussed it with them and asked them not to. We found that to be very rude to do it at all and childish to hide in the bathroom for a cigarrette. By the time they came out we were both dressed and told them we didn't think this was working well. We were going to leave it at that, but she was upset and wanted to know why. So C told her that we asked them not to smoke in our room and they did it anyway. Well, Then her husband starts telling us that if were that F'ing anal about smoking that they don't want to be around us anyway, and is really very very rude and hostile. (Fortunately we wanted to go out more so J didn't hit him! Thank you again! honey!!!!) I just said, "look we respected your wishes, and did exactly as you asked, and we expect the same respect in return." They left angry.
We went back out and finished off a great evening, no worse the wear!
Moral of the story? Follow your instincts and never, never ignore the red flags! (Bad C!!!)
(In my defense I have to say....she was really cute, and I really liked touching her.

)

11-07-2004, 10:14 PM

WOW, that went as about as bad as it could!!

Vespertine · 11-07-2004, 10:22 PM

Wow! Sounds like the couple from hell!

Looks like you terminated playtime eloquently!

I would have died if that happened to me. I don't think I would have handled it as well as you two. Talk about dysfunctional!

windsor4fun2 · 11-07-2004, 11:30 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by jcbicouple

[B](In my defense I have to say....she was really cute, and I really liked touching her.

)

That makes all the difference.

Definitely a good reminder to follow your instincts.

Jesse

Spoomonkey · 11-08-2004, 08:10 AM

What a horror story. Just goes to show you that even the more experienced can make a mistake here and there. At least you two finished off the evening in a great way!

Way to stick to your guns!

Spoomonkey

DandS · 11-08-2004, 08:49 AM

Thanks for sharing your story. Sounds like you guys handled it very well, certainly better than we would have. Glad you were able to finish off your eveing on a more positive note. D

LikeMinds321 · 11-08-2004, 10:18 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by jcbicouple

Red Flag #2: They are slightly rude in their "hang on" and step two feet away to whisper....No problem, we can understand needing discussion.

I was really feeling your pain as I read your post - yet I had a smile on my face because I was thinking gawd! it's so true for us too, those little red flags you want so badly to ignore but in the end you learn you can't...there's a reason to listen to your gut.

You did a great job of getting out of that mess. Their sneaking off to smoke in the can...like little grade schoolers.

That was funny.

Thanks for sharing. You taught me I should never expect myself to become "perfect" at swinging.

LM

P.S. What does the term "hang on" mean? Red Flad #2

JnCC · 11-08-2004, 10:39 AM

I never cease to be amazed at what some people will go through to screw somebody they perceive to be "better looking" than themeslves...

LikeMinds321 · 11-08-2004, 11:21 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by JnCC

I never cease to be amazed at what some people will go through to screw somebody they perceive to be "better looking" than themeslves...

JnCC -

I'm confused by your comment.

Where did you read anything about "better looking" than themselves (I presume you mean "themselves" to be jcbicouple)? I see no mention of that being jcbicouple's reason for meeting this couple.

LM

confunktion · 11-08-2004, 11:54 AM

Daaaammmnn....

Kudos to you - you handled it great. We wish you much better fortune in the weekends ahead.

Vespertine · 11-08-2004, 11:59 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by LikeMinds321

JnCC -

I'm confused by your comment.

Where did you read anything about "better looking" than themselves (I presume you mean "themselves" to be jcbicouple)? I see no mention of that being jcbicouple's reason for meeting this couple.

LM

I think he was referencing to these comments that jcbicouple made.

Quote:

Originally Posted by jcbicouple

The woman is very outgoing and very pretty (Which has C (female of us) totally enchanted).

In my defense I have to say....she was really cute, and I really liked touching her.

I'm hoping that JnCC wasn't intending his/her post to be as rude as I'm perceiving it to be though.

**good times** · 11-08-2004, 02:10 PM

I am glad you posted this as we have made these same types of mistakes in the past. It sounds like you handled it well, I hope we can do the same if ever in a similar situation.

jcbicouple · 11-08-2004, 05:29 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by JnCC

I never cease to be amazed at what some people will go through to screw somebody they perceive to be "better looking" than themeslves...

We're not quite sure what you meant by this either. Are you saying that we're ugly?

j/k We wouldn't say they were better looking than us, and we would guess that they would respond in the same way. Don't know....We can't answer for them.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Likeminds

: P.S. What does the term "hang on" mean? Red Flad #2.

"Hang On" was what they actually said before they took a few steps away.

Thanks to everyone for the support. We posted just to say even those of us with experience make the same old mistakes sometimes! LOL!

BradAndJanet · 11-08-2004, 06:51 PM

Sorry to hear about it...well, OK, no it was kind of funny, wasn't it? At least later, anyway?

See what you get for chasing something cute?

Great example of how you just never know.

-B

jcbicouple · 11-08-2004, 08:16 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by BradAndJanet

Sorry to hear about it...well, OK, no it was kind of funny, wasn't it? At least later, anyway?

See what you get for chasing something cute?

Great example of how you just never know.

-B

Yes it was funny.

Didn't really spoil our night at all. Only wasted an hour or so. LOL Went out and had a great time, as we always do!

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11-07-2004, 09:21 PM	#1 (permalink)
jcbicouple Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Sep 2003 Posts: 680 Location: Indiana Status: Happily Married Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:jcbicouple	You'd think after 7 years: We'd know better! Just wanted to post our weekend experience....Why? Not sure. Maybe just to show the New people joining us to never give up? Take it on the chin, and move on. LOL! OK, so the story......We meet this couple. The woman is very outgoing and very pretty (Which has C (female of us) totally enchanted). So far so good! Husband is ok, not exactly her type, but ok. J is up for it, her hubby is up for it: We go to our hotel room. Red Flag #1: Kiss her.....Heavy alcohol! Red Flag #2: They are slightly rude in their "hang on" and step two feet away to whisper....No problem, we can understand needing discussion. Red Flag #3: We get to the hotel parking lot, they don't look too ummmm in love? Maybe not getting along well? We make a few jokes about it, and they seem ok....we move on. Red Flag #4: They both smoke and aren't happy that we don't have an ashtray. (We explain that it's a non smoking room, and they state that they (the hotel) will never know. We tell them we will and don't like the smoke. We would appreciate them not smoking in the room. We move on.) Red Flag #5: While in the room, they are still whispering (no problem), but she needs to talk to us, ok. She tells us he's not allowed to touch either of us at all and no one is to touch him (He's in the bathroom for this "talk"). She's very jealous because he cheated on her, and repeatedly said "He knows better" when we asked questions. This concerned us only because of her approach and attitude towards it. Not touching him wasn't a problem, so we decide to go ahead and play. A little uncomfortable when he put his arm around her from behind and C stopped and asked her what she should do because she wanted to hold her, but didn't want to accidentally touch her husband; She said "He knows better and he'll move if you're too close". Oh and by the way either of us could do anything we wanted to her including intercourse (which is cool). And final ending to our Play: About 20 minutes into playing around, We go to change positions, she says "hang on" and they both disappear into the bathroom. They are smoking! They spend the next ten minutes in the bathroom of our room (yes, we already had a room before meeting them) smoking, after we had discussed it with them and asked them not to. We found that to be very rude to do it at all and childish to hide in the bathroom for a cigarrette. By the time they came out we were both dressed and told them we didn't think this was working well. We were going to leave it at that, but she was upset and wanted to know why. So C told her that we asked them not to smoke in our room and they did it anyway. Well, Then her husband starts telling us that if were that F'ing anal about smoking that they don't want to be around us anyway, and is really very very rude and hostile. (Fortunately we wanted to go out more so J didn't hit him! Thank you again! honey!!!!) I just said, "look we respected your wishes, and did exactly as you asked, and we expect the same respect in return." They left angry. We went back out and finished off a great evening, no worse the wear! Moral of the story? Follow your instincts and never, never ignore the red flags! (Bad C!!!) (In my defense I have to say....she was really cute, and I really liked touching her. )
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11-07-2004, 10:14 PM	#2 (permalink)
Mr&Mrs-naughty Guest Posts: n/a	Mr here WOW, that went as about as bad as it could!!
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11-07-2004, 10:22 PM	#3 (permalink)
Vespertine Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jun 2004 Posts: 3,688 Location: Shangri La Status: Happily Married	Re: You'd think after 7 years: We'd know better! Wow! Sounds like the couple from hell! Looks like you terminated playtime eloquently! I would have died if that happened to me. I don't think I would have handled it as well as you two. Talk about dysfunctional!
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11-08-2004, 08:10 AM	#5 (permalink)
Spoomonkey Chimpin' Ain't Easy Join Date: Jan 2004 Posts: 6,739 Location: Ohio Status: Married Monkeys - will you be our vine? Swing Lifestyle Name:Spoomonkey	Re: You'd think after 7 years: We'd know better! What a horror story. Just goes to show you that even the more experienced can make a mistake here and there. At least you two finished off the evening in a great way! Way to stick to your guns! Spoomonkey
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11-08-2004, 08:49 AM	#6 (permalink)
DandS Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Dec 2003 Posts: 317 Location: Memphis Status: Married Couple	Re: You'd think after 7 years: We'd know better! Thanks for sharing your story. Sounds like you guys handled it very well, certainly better than we would have. Glad you were able to finish off your eveing on a more positive note. D

11-08-2004, 10:39 AM	#8 (permalink)
JnCC Registered User Join Date: Jun 2004 Posts: 817 Location: Mulletsville, USA	Re: You'd think after 7 years: We'd know better! I never cease to be amazed at what some people will go through to screw somebody they perceive to be "better looking" than themeslves...

11-08-2004, 11:54 AM	#10 (permalink)
confunktion This Village's Idiot Join Date: Nov 2004 Posts: 358 Location: Wisconsin Status: Male, happily spoken for	Re: You'd think after 7 years: We'd know better! Daaaammmnn.... Kudos to you - you handled it great. We wish you much better fortune in the weekends ahead.

11-08-2004, 02:10 PM	#12 (permalink)
good times Mod Squad Member Join Date: Jul 2002 Posts: 6,919 Location: Reno, Nevada Status: Married to Mrs Good Times Swing Lifestyle Name:randp	Re: You'd think after 7 years: We'd know better! I am glad you posted this as we have made these same types of mistakes in the past. It sounds like you handled it well, I hope we can do the same if ever in a similar situation.
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11-08-2004, 06:51 PM	#14 (permalink)
BradAndJanet Only slightly cracked... Join Date: Jul 2001 Posts: 7,071 Location: Seattle Status: Married Couple	Re: You'd think after 7 years: We'd know better! Sorry to hear about it...well, OK, no it was kind of funny, wasn't it? At least later, anyway? See what you get for chasing something cute? Great example of how you just never know. -B
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