Have you had a bad experience that has almost scared you out of swinging?

[JustAskJulie]

One of the recent intros mentioned how they had had such a bad experience their first time out with a couple that it scared them away from swinging with couples for quite a while. So I got to wondering about the bad experiences that people have.

Have you ever had such a bad experience that it scared you away from swinging with a certain group (couples or singles)? Or almost scared you away? If so, what happened?

[biblonde]

We havent had any that would scare us away but it has made us more cautious. I gave a "so called female" our home number and IT put my name and phone number out on a chatt room promising all sorts of stuff to lots of guys....dont do that again since I had to change my number..

and the only thing that really bugged me was when we first got into this We had a man decide that we should only see them (he was part of a couple) and he became a little obsessed with me. They went so far as to figure out where we lived and showed up un anounced one day! They were told bubye real quick. He kept trac of when I was online and on site...drove me crazy. Now we dont let anyone know the erea we live in unless we are very very comfy with them.

But all in all it has been alot of fun...We dont scare easily so we take it all as a learning experiance and go from there!

[fun_pairTX]

We, (knock on wood), haven't really had any problem with wackos, but then again Mr Fun looks crazier than they do ............... Hee hee

[mrbandsatl]

Yes - our very first couple was an absolute nightmare!

We were all in bed together having a great time when the other couple starting arguing. Within a few minutes, it had escalated into a full-blown argument with yelling and screaming and stomping about. They carried the fight out of our house and onto our front porch -- all while they were still naked!

Then the worst happened... He got in the car and drove off -- without her!

Now, we used to live WAY out in the country -- no cabs, no busses. We had a llama farm, and a few cows nearby but that's about it. And here's an agry, naked women standing on our front porch at 1am. We had no idea what to do. We were mortified. For a half-hour, there should stood. She wouldn't come in, she wouldn't go away. Well, he eventually came back to claim his prize and we eventually got back to bed -- alone.

Needless to say, it was awhile before we met with another couple

Bob (and Sandy)

[misterbates]

Originally Posted by bobandsandy

Yes - our very first couple was an absolute nightmare!

We were all in bed together having a great time when the other couple starting arguing. Within a few minutes, it had escalated into a full-blown argument with yelling and screaming and stomping about. They carried the fight out of our house and onto our front porch -- all while they were still naked!

Then the worst happened... He got in the car and drove off -- without her!

Now, we used to live WAY out in the country -- no cabs, no busses. We had a llama farm, and a few cows nearby but that's about it. And here's an agry, naked women standing on our front porch at 1am. We had no idea what to do. We were mortified. For a half-hour, there should stood. She wouldn't come in, she wouldn't go away. Well, he eventually came back to claim his prize and we eventually got back to bed -- alone.

Needless to say, it was awhile before we met with another couple

Bob (and Sandy)

Thats the funniest thing i have ever heard!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

We've had some doosies in our time but never had a naked woman left on our porch!!!!!!

I can't top that......

[tazzie_n_truck]

The worst expirience we had was we met a couple once, we sat and talked with them to get to know them, and then a couple nights later we got together again and swapped with them. Then afterwards they got upset if they heard we met another couple, because they got possesive with us. We only swapped with them the one time, because of what they did being possesive. We told them as friendly as we could that they need to not swing if they are going to have a possessive attitue like that. They got really pissy with us because of our suggestion, and gave us a big attitude, and we point blank had to tell them that we wanted nothing to do with them anymore.

We almost gave up swinging because of that too.

[TXBLONDIE]

We have had nothing but bad experiences with couples. We have sworn them off. Our best times have been with singles and will probably keep it that way. The "lifestyle" for us is an enhancement, not the focal point of our sexual desires. We were with a couple once that the husband would not get undressed or dressed unless the lights were off. The last time we were together, he said ok, everybody ready, I'm turning on the lights. He turned on the lights and there we stand buckass naked, me and Mrs. Txblondie and his wife. He was fully dressed! Some people are more comfortable than others I guess. Never saw them again and don't want too.

[DBL D]

I can't think of any really bad experiences except for the foot-in-the-crotch episode.

The worst experiences so far have been when we have to tell someone "No Clicky!" And those aren't fun.

Male D

[good times]

Originally Posted by bobandsandy

Yes - our very first couple was an absolute nightmare!

We were all in bed together having a great time when the other couple starting arguing. Within a few minutes, it had escalated into a full-blown argument with yelling and screaming and stomping about. They carried the fight out of our house and onto our front porch -- all while they were still naked!

Then the worst happened... He got in the car and drove off -- without her!

Now, we used to live WAY out in the country -- no cabs, no busses. We had a llama farm, and a few cows nearby but that's about it. And here's an agry, naked women standing on our front porch at 1am. We had no idea what to do. We were mortified. For a half-hour, there should stood. She wouldn't come in, she wouldn't go away. Well, he eventually came back to claim his prize and we eventually got back to bed -- alone.

Needless to say, it was awhile before we met with another couple

Bob (and Sandy)

While it wasn't our first time, we had a similar experiance while camping with a couple in a cabin at the lake. We were just getting comfortable one evening and they started fighting. we are talking name calling, hair pulling, intense fighting here. Pretty soon the female goes out on the porch of the cabin and the guy is screaming at her out the door, people from the neighboring cabins are peeking out their windows wondering what was up with the half naked woman on our porch screaming obsenities, no doubt. We just wanted to crawl in a hole somewhere and hide. What made it even worse is they were fighting over something I had said. In retrospect I can't even remember what we were talking about, but seeing as it was just small talk, nothing important, we still can't figure out how it escalated into the fight like it did. Needles to say, while non of us left on the spot to go home (a three hour drive) we were, none the less, glad when the weekend was over.

[mrbandsatl]

Wow -- good times,

That story hits way to close to home! What is it they say --- that which doesn't kill us makes us stronger?

Bob (and Sandy)

[LikeMinds321]

I'm a new swinger and have no bad experiences yet. Only good things with our first - and only - couple.

But I want to ask good times and bobandsandy to elaborate: Can you look back and see these couples gave clues they would be fighters? You know, something in hindsight that might help me to avoid the same type of people.

LM

[good times]

Originally Posted by bobandsandy

Wow -- good times,

That story hits way to close to home! What is it they say --- that which doesn't kill us makes us stronger?

Bob (and Sandy)

Yep, anything you live through is definitely a learning experiance.

It's funny, we are still good friends with these people, but that incident totally turned us off to ever playing with them again, and absolutely no more camping trips.

[mrs good times]

Originally Posted by LikeMinds321

But I want to ask good times and bobandsandy to elaborate: Can you look back and see these couples gave clues they would be fighters? You know, something in hindsight that might help me to avoid the same type of people.

We didn't see any sign of this being an issue. The couple we speak of we had played with in the past and gone out to dinner and auto races with. I think the difference is that we had never spent more than a couple of hours with them at a time. When you are with someone for 3 days you learn alot more about how they function together. They are both very nice people and we still spend time with them but at very short intervals and we don't play with them anymore.

[nhcpl1968]

back a few years ago we started to experimment with 3somes had fmf couple of times which was a great experience but then we tried mfm which turned out to be a mistake first the guy couldnt keep it up then he left and was watching our room cause when i had ran out he came back and forced my wife to have sex with him so this has ruined my wifes chance of having a mfm again it scared her away from anthing but fmf....

[Vespertine]

Originally Posted by nhcpl1968

he left and was watching our room cause when i had ran out he came back and forced my wife to have sex with him

This is called RAPE.

Where did this happen? Was it a club, a house party?

Did you kick this guys ass, or what?