Drama with another couple. Why are we bothering?

[DBL D]

Can I say something else, Lady?

Please don't give up on the "older" crowd. I can guarentee you that not everybody lets themselves go after 40. There are a lot of great couples out there that are into sex as much as you younger ones. We can keep up too.

We have maturity. Ever hear that folks wish they could go back only if they could take what they now know with them? Well, we are those guys; and know what we want but are nice enough to enjoy the suspense of waiting and being patient.

How to handle them at your local club? Say "Hi How's it goin', Hope all's well" and keep goin' yourselves.

Male D

[JnCC]

Originally Posted by LadyCleo

How should we handle seeing them at our local club tho?

LC

What's the matter with...

"Hi, how ya doin'? How are the kids? Your mom? got that deck done yet? You're looking good this evening, but then you guys always look good! Well, gotta run...nice seeing you again!"

Some people LIVE for drama. As a result, their lives are filled with it, from puberty to death. Are you SURE you're not one of those people?

[NewTemptations]

Originally Posted by mwsw4ever

Wow! I think you need to sell the rights to that story to a day time soap opera production.

You can title your new soap opera "As the Stomach Churns"

[EvilMJ]

Originally Posted by DBL D

Can I say something else, Lady?

Please don't give up on the "older" crowd. I can guarentee you that not everybody lets themselves go after 40. There are a lot of great couples out there that are into sex as much as you younger ones. We can keep up too.

We have maturity. Ever hear that folks wish they could go back only if they could take what they now know with them? Well, we are those guys; and know what we want but are nice enough to enjoy the suspense of waiting and being patient.



Male D

I agree totally with what you are saying!! The husband of the couple we play with is actually 23 years older than me. I thought I would be disturbed by this, but after getting to know him, he is just like me and we get along famously. It has reminded me of something I already knew, age means nothing, it is the personality of the person that makes them attractive.

[reddrizz]

All i have to say to that if your not willing to play by the rules then your out .If its not concenting with the others or they know nothing of whats going on then it should stop. Run girl dont stick around.

[reddrizz]

And another thing drinking an maybe a lil well you know (Drugs) are ok but to get totally out of it an act that way is crazy . A liltle drinking an other things are fine if it dont get you to the point of people dont know whats going on.an alway use protection to if your comfortable without it then fine but make them use it if you say to or get out .

[LadyCleo]

Originally Posted by JnCC

What's the matter with...

"Hi, how ya doin'? How are the kids? Your mom? got that deck done yet? You're looking good this evening, but then you guys always look good! Well, gotta run...nice seeing you again!"

Some people LIVE for drama. As a result, their lives are filled with it, from puberty to death. Are you SURE you're not one of those people?

That sounds great! This is the 1st time we have ever dealt with drama in the lifestyle. Thank for the advice. My husband and I are goingto take all of this wonderful advice and run!


LC

[Pepper & Drew]

If you see them at a local club, do the things that make this lifestyle so wonderful. Be respectful (even if they aren't), be polite, and tell them up front that you do not wish to play anylonger. They may not respect you for it, but everyone else will.

[JustAskJulie]

Originally Posted by JnCC

Damn! I spent more time reading that, than I would have spent trying to sort it out in real life.

Ditto, There is no reason to keep getting wrapped up in something that is that complicated. As others have expressed here so often (and I think you have as well), swinging is supposed to be fun! And there is nothing abou this situation that sounds like fun to me.

[lobo0553]

As someone said, this is way better than "As The World Turns". You should try selling it as a script...
If anyone has had any dealings with an alcoholic, then they can relate to this.
LadyCleo, sweety, I don't want to make light of this because you're caught up in a situation in which you nor anyone else has any control over. HILLARY is an alcoholic! Alcohol rules her world and it sucks in everyone else whom she comes in contact with. It has obviously ensnared you. Don't worry. You're one of millions. It happened to me. I didn't realize it until someone pointed this out. At first, I was angry. I thought I could help this guy. I thought it was just me; I wasn't doing enough for him or people just didn't understand him. Well thats part of this disease.
You should contact Alcoholics Anonymous(AA)...just talk to someone on the phone and explain the situation as you did in this post. They don't judge. They can better explain to you what's going on. The soonner you do this then the quicker you can resolve this. Unfortunately, this is affecting you and those around her more than you all realize. Good luck and keep me posted OK?

[bear_n_bunny]

It took a minute, but I finally noticed that this is a rather old thread. But I digress...

Talk about an excess of drama. Geez. Sounds like a regular goddam "Peyton Place"...

To be quite honest, this is why we will not play with anyone under the age of 35, and even that's pushing it (40+ is better). Way too much drama, ego, angst, bullshit and general mindfuck games. And the sex isn't that good with people that young either (like so many other things in life, that is something that comes with experience).

In any case, were I that young lady, I'd take a hike from those people. Based on what was written (that had to be the longest post I've ever seen on here), Bill and Hillary, and Mark and Monica were far more trouble than they were worth...

-- Bear

[northindycpl]

Can anyone say, "Springer....Jerry Springer"

I would have never gotten that involved int he first place, and woud not be in it now. Distance yourself and forget about it.

[amBIdextrous]

They sound like a proper lot of fruitcakes to me, do not be a sucker for punishment.
I believe you have shown good faith,trying to do the right thing by them, and you deserve a lot of credit for that, but enough is enough.
If it is no longer fun, run.

[sapphire68]

Originally Posted by robnbarb

I am not trying to sound overbearring it is just if there is a situation that requires more than two paragaphs to talk out on a message board, well you just need to back away from it. This is just plain unhealthy, for all of you.

ITA I have enough drama within my own marriage. I'll be doggone if I'll put up with it in my extracurricular relationships.

[JP51]

Seems to me we are all in this for the fun...no fun., no play... I like the comments about us older folks... one couple we play with told me the other night, damm I sure like having an older guy, no rush, you take your time, and you know where to find all the spots.... so don't count us out...