He didn't use a condom. What would you have done?

[RW1F]

I'll tell ya one thing, as the husband in this situation I'd be dragging that dude by his crank to the nearest hospital and having him checked for HIV/STD's. Remember there's lotsa stuff out there that has an incubation period and just cause he doesn't have signs, he still might have something whether or not he knows it. After the test I'm pretty sure him and I would be having a little "alley chat".

[RW1F]

P.S. It don't matter "how" the thing came off. As long as he's not hung like a mosquito I guaranfuckingtee he would know he wasn't wearing one when he entered her. Catherine also apparently got caught up in the moment so she is probably partly to blame but..... IMO the condom is primarily the man's responsibiltity.

[L]

after a "few" condomless "thrusts" a man climaxes and ejaculates...
while the partner realizes she is unprotected (from his product) and reacts (too late!!!).
the magic is lost! a moment that might have otherwise been enjoyable, refreshing, and satisfying turns ugly when one partner fails to recognize the needs of the other!

too bad.

what gets my attention here is...

while the fellow was able to perform good oral stimulation and was helpful in delivering a lady to places that she enjoys... he sure did "drop the ball" when he climaxed after a "few thrusts"!!! and allowed for an unhappy ending!!!

you need a better lover than that, darling!!! you need to meet a man that knows how (and how long!!!) to love a woman!!!

any man who gets off after a few condomless thrusts has a whooooooole lot of learning to do!!!

leave him behind, forgive yourself, move on, and meet some good lovers!!!

there's toooo little time to be concerned with inconsequential details!!!

let your partners know what you want.
you'll be more likely to get it.



L

[mojoboychris]

While he definitely deceived you and betrayed you by slipping the condom off before he penetrated, you said yourself that you should have SAID something. And I have to agree with some of the things I've read here.

1. Pregnancy aside, did you have yourself checked for STDs? Did you even ask this other couple their STD status before hand?

2. When you became aware that he wasn't wearing a condom - as much as you may have been caught up in the moment - why didn't you yell at him then? "STOP!" is normally very effective.

3. You are equally responsible for any sexual situation - unless of course you're being raped. Don't shrug off your own responsibility for your body. You need to be aware at all times what/who is entering, don't you think? I'm not saying this guy isn't an ass for what he did, or that he's not at fault. He certainly is. He broke a rule and disrespected a boundary. However, you ARE also at fault. You should have stopped as soon as you became aware. I'm sorry if this seems cold or insensitive, but it takes two to tango, and unless he raped you, you had control.

[BodyScape02]

Originally Posted by jcbicouple

Dito
You knew and chose not to do anything about it immediatly for your own pleasure (your own words). You were wrong, and if I were your husband I'd be pissed. Getting caught up in the moment is NO excuse for not doing the things you and your SO argeed to. The guy was wrong, but you had time to realize it, reach down and confirm it, and frankly, in his defense, He may have thought it was ok to cum in you because you just confirmed he had no rubber on and didn't stop him. Who's to say that he and his wife weren't ok with him being bare?

I am sorry Mr JB( and all of you with the she is partially at fault senario) but... "if I was your husband I would be pissed"...WHAT A LOAD OF BULL PUCKY!

Cut me a break... that is akin to all of the "it’s her fault she was raped scenario’s". When you get a vagina and are sensitive enough to play name that condom in two strokes; then...and only then...should you be making a statement like above.

She did nothing wrong, she did try and stop it as soon as she confirmed it was missing by the best means she could…physically moving away.

Catherine, don’t bye into this attitude that you are partially to blame...you handled it as well as you could. Get tested regularly and never...never...give the offending couple another chance. HE should be chastised here not you.

The fact you even had to ask the question and assumed any guilt is amazing to me. Why do you think you had any in the first place?

Why? Because you were in such bliss that you were out of phase with every little moment in the real world... hallelujah to you that you can get there...some women never can and I know from experience I can't see or hear anything when I am having an orgasm...just feel the power of it... I would not have been able to notice the offence any earlier either.

The fact some people think you are irresponsible because you are actually enjoying yourself to the fullest with someone you had learned to trust is a really skewed viewpoint...after all isn't that the whole point of this? You are not a prostitute, you are not "on the job" and therefore always to be in control. You are swinging, playing, enjoying...or why bother?

You are blameless and those who think you should share the blame should get their mindset out of the 1950's and try living a minute in your shoes. (Now this is a flame!)


Yours- A very hissy

~Cat

[Elusive BiFem]

Originally Posted by BodyScape02

I am sorry Mr JB( and all of you with the she is partially at fault senario) but... "if I was your husband I would be pissed"...WHAT A LOAD OF BULL PUCKY!

Cut me a break... that is akin to all of the "it’s her fault she was raped scenario’s". When you get a vagina and are sensitive enough to play name that condom in two strokes; then...and only then...should you be making a statement like above.

She did nothing wrong, she did try and stop it as soon as she confirmed it was missing by the best means she could…physically moving away.

Catherine, don’t bye into this attitude that you are partially to blame...you handled it as well as you could. Get tested regularly and never...never...give the offending couple another chance. HE should be chastised here not you.

The fact you even had to ask the question and assumed any guilt is amazing to me. Why do you think you had any in the first place?

Why? Because you were in such bliss that you were out of phase with every little moment in the real world... hallelujah to you that you can get there...some women never can and I know from experience I can't see or hear anything when I am having an orgasm...just feel the power of it... I would not have been able to notice the offence any earlier either.

The fact some people think you are irresponsible because you are actually enjoying yourself to the fullest with someone you had learned to trust is a really skewed viewpoint...after all isn't that the whole point of this? You are not a prostitute, you are not "on the job" and therefore always to be in control. You are swinging, playing, enjoying...or why bother?

You are blameless and those who think you should share the blame should get their mindset out of the 1950's and try living a minute in your shoes. (Now this is a flame!)


Yours- A very hissy

~Cat

Bravo! - EBF