Sex - How often do you NEED it?

We talk a lot about how often you'd like to have sex if you could have it as often as you want. But how often do you NEED it? How long can you go before a lack of sex actually starts to affect your mood and interactions. Where it gets to a point that when you finally have sex you can feel the stress evaporate and everything is better.

Assuming of course, you don't count masturbation.

I don't know about you but masturbation doesn't give me quite the same release that I get from real sex.

Three days and I'm climbing the walls!

And I haven't even hit my sex peak, yet.

Oh my!

I masturbate often and I agree with Julie here...it's not the same.

I would be happy with about 5 times a week, but that's not in the poll so I chose everyday which would be fine too

Hmm....for me it varies. I notice that during different times of the year my desire fluctuates. In addition, the closer I am to my period--the more I want it.

All in all...in average...LOL I'd like to have it every day--or some form of sex. I masturbate probably every other day--sometimes I do more..sometimes I do less.

As for needing it--I notice that every 2 or 3 days is it for me.

As for my wonderful hubby--he really NEEDS it when we have hit a dry spell---then he is all over me. (not that I'm complaining) I love it when he is like that !

I think I need to book myself into that sex addict's clinic Mr's Douglas and Duchovny used . . .

At this clinic...do you learn to love sex more? "giggles"

I would have to say every other day fits the bill nicely. But as far as wanting it, that's a whole new can of worms, lol.

...I've known them - I was married to one... Folks who can go a couple of weeks and then only give in because their spouse it at risk for throwing out a shoulder - or developing a nasty case of carpal tunnel...

I am not that guy. For me, I think that I would be going crazy after a couple of days. I agree with those of you above - masturbation is good and "handy" (pun intended), but it just isn't the same kind of release. I honestly think more than the obvious benefits of sex, just the emotional connection is something that, if I don't have it, really starts affecting my mood.

Spoomonkey

For me if all else is going well then if I hit a week without it I start getting stressed.... at two weeks I'm about insane and once I get it you will see major improvement in my attitude.

A lot depends on everything else tho. If I'm in a relationship and not happy then the need for sex drops in some ways. The release itself is still good but the effects don't last nearly as long.

There is definitely a point where I start to be affected by a lack of sex. I get grumpy and irritable...sometimes I don't even realize what was wrong until I have sex again. Then it is like "ohhhh...that's what the problem was" ... like Julie said, all the stress melts away and I feel ok again. When I get to that point, masturbation is not going to do it for me. It is like needing to eat a nourishing meal and all you have is a donut.

If I didn't have sex for a week I might not notice if I was really busy with other things. If I was thinking about sex all week though, I would definitely start getting irritable at that point, if not sooner. Two weeks and there's no question that it would affect me.

Our schedules can be very busy and there is often not enough time for sex in a day. Three times a week is about perfect for me with masturbation in between. Anything more than that is just unrealistic anyway for us...we probably average about twice a week.

Have any of you ever noticed that sometimes people when they're not having sex on a regular basis might start acting weird or kind of bitter? I really think it is because of a lack of sex. I think I was like that when I was single and didn't have a girlfriend. I don't think its good for people to go without sex for too long.

I feel the need for sex daily, and yes if I don't get it I do have a change in my attitude. I will masturbate frequently, sometimes 3-4 times in a day, if I'm in a long dryspell. It does help, but, its not the same relief as having good sex. The wife sometimes goes for 3 weeks without wanting sex, mostly due to a hectic work schedule. When she is tired out, its like clicking a switch. Where as, I am still craving sex, even when exhausted. Guess tht's a guy thing, will always trade sleep for sex.

I've never been without sex long enough to know the answer to this question.

Mrs. LM

I didn't vote because I don't really know but I thought after posting in another thread about this I should come here and post something.

With Ted being gone throughout the week we only have sex on the weekends. I do know that on the rare occasions that he is gone through the week and over the weekend and I can't go be with him I tend to get very depressed and more bitchy on the second week he's gone. Still not sure if it's just because I miss him or miss having sex. I rarely masturbate when he's gone, unless it's phone sex with him or playing on the web cam together.

So maybe I NEED him (sex without Ted involved in one way or another is pointless to me, I know I'm weird, lol) at least every Friday, Saturday and Sunday.

Teresa

My husband and I only recently noticed that we both can only go 2-3 days. We noticed that around the same times of the week, we'd start snapping at each other and just getting plain ol mean and b!tchy. Then we'd do it and poof! its gone. I think its great that our drives are about equal. But between work and kids, we don't always get satisfied when we need to, so now we just look at each other and say Hey A$$hole.. go get laid! hehehe

Ok, I'm feeling a little selfish now after claiming that I "need" sex once a week and then reading about how thousands of our military are now NOT coming back from Iraq after a year, as the government had originally promised them. These people won't, for the most part, be having sex or anything else very nice in their lives for a while. I hope this doesn't sound cornball, but it never hurts to stop and appreciate what you have, and appreciate the people who are making big sacrifices for us all.

For those of us who used to be on submarines and underwater for 75 days at a time , well, sometimes you just have to take matters into your own hands if you cannot get anything else. Other than that I now say about every 2-3 days.

And yes, please remember your servicemen and women. They need your thoughts every day.

This is so easy to answer for us singles.

As often as we can get it!

- EBF

I don't know if this is important, but I am less horny now then when I was younger. I like to fool around a little everyday, but when the moon is full and the beast comes out and I want to do it until the cows come home.

I did not vote because I really would not know. I have been having sex from age 15 and I am now 28. I always had regular sex so I know for sure that once a week is enough without me 'needing' to have more.

I think that for a period that I am not in love with someone I can easily forget about sex but I don't know for how long.

With my husband it creates an extra bond to have sex so once a week would be a minimum. (Okay now I can vote )

Kiss!

I like it often, every day, but when I'm about to start my period, I get really really horny! Can't get enough...hormone surge, I guess... lol

I would have to say that I can't get enough of sex, once he cums and I REST, lol, I am ready again. lol Sex, when is enough...... enough?

I don't know about the whole psychology of it, but I know physiologically if I go more than 5 days or so my balls start to ache. I know I can just take care of that with Mr. Lefty, but I'd rather not.

I think her answer would be more psychological. If she goes more than three days or so, she gets really, REALLY horny and has to masterbate 2 or 3 times before she can sleep.

Needless to say, barring business trips or anything this is usually not a problem.

Awww geeze! This thread almost seems designed to get to me! My sweetie’s been away for six days now and won’t be back for another eleven days!!! Damn!!!

I sure hope she is not too jet lagged when she gets home…LOL

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Damn! It’s not working!! LOL

I would love sex everyday but my body doesn't at times, I have a very physical job and it drains me. But if someone asks me in the morning that would work, some don't ask for it so.....Or even in the middle of the night, used to like that...Just give me a little jump start it works wonders......

In Agreement with EBF......as much as possible being a single person

The couple I played with last wanted me over 3-4 times a month and that was fine with me

I like it often, every day, but when I'm about to start my period, I get really really horny! Cant get enough...hormone surge, I guess... lol

Mrs. K

Oh my goodness...I thought I was the only one...I can't get enough either....and if I can't get to D2...that is when I get the "bitchy' groove going that so many people think is what P.M.S. (pre-menstrual syndrome) is all about. I think P.M.S. should stand for (pleasure me sweetie!!!!). When he does... I hardly have a bitchy moment.

As for me... while I was away I didn't really get horny because the object of my desire was here (and I was boarding with my MOM...that will kill almost any sexual drive...lol). But...the day before I was due home all of a sudden the object of my desire was going to be in reach and I was going nuts!!!!

I stayed home from the "tour" and took care of myself (manicure, hair color and masturbating) and watched porno all day. Thank god I put the lock on the door because my Mom came back early and I was just getting into round ... well...let's just say...getting in touch again...

I felt like a teenager ...lmao...

and now that I am home... Sweetie, drink lots of water...Sweetie, drink lots of water...Sweetie, drink lots of water...Sweetie, drink lots of water...and get your rest...you will need it!

Well now, we seem to be exact opposite. I am the one that needs sex every day if not more than once a day. I masturbate 4-5 times a day and need (honest to god, need) sex at the very least twice a day... at least in the morning first thing and at night.... anything in between works wonders for me. If I don't get it... well I don't say I get grumpy or bitchy but I do get quiet and reserved... and I seem to have a lot less energy if I go without.

I would be so happy if I were able to get it twice a day!

Unfortunately...my husband would pass out from exhaustion if we did it that often. Oh well, a girl can dream.

Assuming of course, you don't count masturbation.

Who DOESN'T count masturbation?

Once a day minimal; including the "M" word!

Male D

I voted for multiple times a day. I can dream, can't I?

I totally agree, I really feel like I need it everyother day... two to three times a week if I am busy with everyday life.....I do find that as soon as I have spent this quality time with just my hubby, life is soooo much grander!

Why doesn't masturbation count?

I need it at the very least every other day...If I don't, I do in fact get more grumpy and out of sorts. I would do it all the time if I didn't have to work so much!

My hubby works shift work, and our work schedules don't line up right. For instance, last night was the first time in a month.

I just had my last day at work yesterday before we move, so I'm hopeful that things will pick up. (pun intended)

I personally have toys that I play with daily. My hubby masturbates as well. And yes, we stay tense a lot of the time. I keep sane telling myself that it is quality over quantity. Complete nirvana will be when I can have both. Yum!

Ideally is 3 days on, 1 day off, 3 days on, 1 day off, etc. etc.

It just seems to work best for us.

Being bi is an awful thing I have found, one day I crave a cock, like today, my nipples feel like bursting just thinking about it. Then I want a pussy, to eat, to love, to pleasure, or maybe both at the same time, the cock nicely marinated with pussy juice.

Or eating a hot woman, while having a cock deep inside me. I thought getting old will bring it all to an end, but that is not the case, fitness has a lot to do with it too.

We used to spoon often, when going to sleep, now my SO sleeps in the spare room, because of her monstrous snoring. I put up with it for 2 years, losing soooo much sleep.

Now sex is getting less and less, for one reason or another. To the younger set I can only say, stay fit, and make love whenever possible, without being selfish.

Minimum once a day for both of us (but we have been know to go 2, 3 or more times a day!).....yes life does get in the way sometimes....but then you just make up for it next time!!!!!!!!

I'm always ready willing and able........just say the word and it's playtime!

When there's time, multiple times a day. When life gets too busy? At least once a day. And yes, I do include masturbation.

Every other day would be ideal as far as I'm concerned.

I don't think that is weird at all - I think it is great! Sex for me without my wife Carol involved would be beyond pointless - it would be sad and empty. I hope (and expect) never to have sex without her involved ever again.

Ray

So maybe I NEED him (sex without Ted involved in one way or another is pointless to me, I know I'm weird, lol) at least every Friday, Saturday and Sunday.

 

Teresa

Ideally I would like it every day. Schedules and kids don't always allow that. We usually have it 2 or more times a week. Just go with the flow and enjoy it when I get it.

It seems the older I get the higher my sex drive gets (doh)

2-3 times per week would be perfect - however, I don't start to get cranky until it becomes less than 1/week.

Air

This could more interesting to break it down to male and female.

2-3 times a week for us. Unless we're on vacation... then it's twice a day.

Interesting question Julie. I find that I'd like to have sex almost every day. The horny thoughts creep into my mind with the least provacation ie: nice legs, great tush, beautiful eyes, nice boobs ..... yikes! I did it to myself. Seasons make a difference too, 'cause there are different triggers. But generally, I'm like you. If I can have a jolly rogering about once a week, I'm fine. If it goes to two weeks, well, it has a noticable affect and longer than that is when I'm spending a lot more time on line and typing with one hand.

I like it 2 to 3 time a week. That really works for me. Everyday would not work for me. Sometimes I need a day to recuperate down below. S/O would like it 2 or 3 times a day, the poor thing . There was a time when it was everyday but those times are over and are called college years when we went to class and partied now I have to go work. I tried to keep up with the 2 or 3 times /wk. It's weird because i think about sex many times throughout the day.

I added up last week - from Friday to Friday and came up with seven... This week, starting on Saturday, we are up to six already...

Randy little monkeys

Spoomonkey