What's your swinger status?

I'm curious to know what the ratio is of active to non-active swingers on this site...... so take the poll.

I think we need one more catagory here. One in which the person(s) were active and may not be necessarily taking a break due to relocation (or something of that nature) yet are still actively seeking swinging partners, but haven't met anyone compatible with them yet. Although option 3 can be loosely interpereted as such.

That's the way we interpreted it, Mrs. O. Of course, opportunity has a lot to do with it. Sometimes you meet special people but circumstances just don't allow play to happen.

Alura

Dito We actively inactive.

We are active!!!! We had to take a little time off for Lora to have knee surgery, but after about six weeks she is REALLY putting that knee to work

Tim

Taking a break could be for any reason... basically just meaning that at this particular time you aren't currently active. If you would like to expound on the reason for your break please do.

We are active in the lifestyle. Sometimes it seems like it has consumed our social calendar and other times I will wonder how long it has been since we have been out.

Annette

I wondering what the definition of "active" is. Do you have to play with someone other than your spouse or SO once a week, once a month, twice a year or is it more of a frame of mind.

What level of play is required, does it have to involve intercourse with someone other than your spouse or SO to be considered actively swinging or can it just be watching and being watched at a club, which is what we enjoy doing?

I guess there is no such thing as a simple question.

Originally posted by sepacouple

I guess there is no such thing as a simple question.

I don't think I've ever seen one on this board, Sepacouple!

Mr. Alura

Originally posted by sepacouple

I wondering what the definition of "active" is. Do you have to play with someone other than your spouse or SO once a week, once a month, twice a year or is it more of a frame of mind.

 

What level of play is required, does it have to involve intercourse with someone other than your spouse or SO to be considered actively swinging or can it just be watching and being watched at a club, which is what we enjoy doing?

 

I guess there is no such thing as a simple question.

Bill ? Bill Clinton ? Is that you? Hot DAMN !!!!

Welcome to the bord!!!

J

happily active.....and the way things are going now...10:53 am Alabama time, we may be active tomorrow evening...whoo-hoo.....

hell who knows....maybe I'll get it up this time:eek:

heheheheh

Lee

We took a hard-core break and I think we're on our way to a comeback. We're not ready for full swap, yet, but we're definitely in for some soft swap.

It's good to be back.

Tracy 'n Stacey

Originally posted by artboy

happily active.....and the way things are going now...10:53 am Alabama time, we may be active tomorrow evening...whoo-hoo.....

 

hell who knows....maybe I'll get it up this time:eek:

 

heheheheh

 

Lee

Take along two Viagra pills, Lee, one for you and one for the other guy, just in case. 'Tis better to be safe than soggy.

Mr. Alura

Nice to know so many are active! We have run into so many recently that are curious and unsure. We try to be as understanding and patient as possible though, because how are they going to be experienced if they don't try

hello all new member here! we are wanting to become active, just being careful and safe and trying to find someone compatible with us.... haven't found anyone yet...... head bang

Not as active as I would like to be...I thought single bi-females were in demand!!! Living in a rural area it's hard finding willing playmates as my number 1 rule is "if you are married and your wife does not know, I am not the person for you".

Two couples wrote me to say they weren't interested in meeting to swing but wanted to meet in case they had a party and needed an extra. One wrote the next day (the husband) and asked if I was bi. The other, the wife wrote and said she'd like to meet me while her husband was at work. Both cases were unappealing. So, while I gave up on the idea of actively pursuing for now, spring's coming... ...eventually. Haven't been to Florida or Nevada for a while.

Take along two Viagra pills, Lee, one for you and one for the other guy, just in case. 'Tis better to be safe than soggy.

 

Mr. Alura

Dito

Although, afaik, you only need 25mg for a normally healthy guy just needing a little confidence (and erection) boost... 1 may be enuff for both...

I would have to say we are inactive! I guess we have taken a break. In the 6 months we have been on a site we have only met 1 couple. That did not work out. We have 2 young kids, so it makes getting out of the house difficult to say the least. But we still talk about it a lot! Hope fully soon we can meet someone online that seems good enough to get a sitter for!

I geuss you could call us Active. last time we swung was last weekend. We have been swinging at least once a month or more since we started to pursue the lifestyle.

Just wanted to clarify what the Mr. wrote...........

Although it's been at least once a month, it's not always with someone new.

We are active We don't want to make this more than a once a month occasion as we have small kids and still want to make time to do the vanilla activities we also love to do so much

We are active...and heading to our first on-premise club this Friday...

-B

we have been active since the day we discovered lifestyle 3 years ago and hope to remain for many years to come

When we first registered on this Board we were at the talking stage. Reading and responding to a lot of posts and more talking between us.

We went to a Swing Club during that beginning stage to see what it was all about. Mike and I played a bit in the pool with a single female, what is called Soft Swing stuff.

Then a series of most unexpected events occurred and over this past year we haven't been to this Board or any Board. Haven't pursued the Lifestyle at all. Things have begun to turn around for both of us and getting better every day.

Last weekend we went back to that Swing Club had a great time. We decided at the end of the downstairs party to rent a room and join the party above stairs.

A couple joined us in our room and we experienced our first Swing! All I can say about it is that it was amazing. We have been making love a lot since then. We now consider ourselves involved.

We have a date this coming Saturday with the couple we met and looking forward to it.

I would say we are as active as our schedule permits. We try to make it to the club at least 1-2 times a month and we have lifestyle friends that we get together with as well.

As I said as our schedule permits, unfortunately we haven't been to the club for almost two months but I did get a chance to entertain a couple we are friends with while Mr Spoo was training for his new part time job this week.

We enjoy our friends in the lifestyle and try to do more things with them then our "vanilla friends" (easier for us than most since we have no kids at home to contend with).

Mrs Spoomonkey

We just starting and trying to become active....

We are currently active..had a great time with another couple this weekend.... and currently talking to possiblities.... so I would have to say we are active as hell...hehehhehe

Take along two Viagra pills, Lee, one for you and one for the other guy, just in case. 'Tis better to be safe than soggy.

 

Mr. Alura

Alura,

You are killin me man......................................

We are very active with those where the feelings are mutual.

YUP we active, but now that school has started the chances that we will get together with our friends is probably over Thanksgiving or when we get together for our annual Christmas Vacation ... makes the get together even more exciting and fun.

We aren't active yet because we're still in the talking stages of it all. We met through a swinger's site and know we both want to do this but we also know that we have the potential to be way more than swing partners. We want to know each other all the way first, be secure in our commitment level to each other, and then slowly introduce swinging into our relationship. I'm not sure how long this will take but it's exciting talking and learning about it facelick !

Woo Hoo!!! We've just played around before but this weekend we finally found the right, sexy couple and things clicked and we went full swap.....It was fantastic!!!!

Currently taking a break...

we swing when life and the opertunity allows. its been kind latley

We are new members here, and are very active in the swinging lifestyle... if anyone here in close to Lindenhurst, ny, and want to get active with us, hjust drop us a line.

I was an active swinger, both with a former partner and as a single female, for a number of years before meeting my husband. He's never swung before.

We are planning to swing as a couple, but he's worried he won't be able to handle seeing me with another man. Neither of us have any problem with him being with another woman but we both agree it wouldn't be fair for him to be playing with a woman and then turn into a green-eyed monster if I took a similar interest in another man, so we are taking baby steps and talking a lot.

As close as we've come so far is going to Hedonism II in Jamaica, hanging around nude and having some somewhat tame PDAs (in Hedo language, that means public displays of intimate affection) while watching others having their own PDAs. We've officially joined our local swingers' club, but haven't made the leap to actually going.

MrsOttawaCuple

The Mr. and I decided to actively pursue the lifestyle about a month ago. Since then we have meet a couple that is wonderful. The four of us have decided to make it a regular thing. I guess that makes us active.

My wonderful, patient hubby has been quietly urging me to consider this for years! I waffle terribly about it! One day I'm thrilled to try and the next I'm petrified it'll ruin our fabulous relationship. We've been to Hedo II and had sex publicly but haven't involved others yet. So although I chose "No, we haven't had the opportunity to become active yet" We've had lots of opportunity, I just haven't said, "Let's do it!"

I too have one of those wonderful husbands who subtly mentioned the idea of swinging forever ago and I never thought to take him seriously. I know he felt trepidation at mentioning anything to me for fear of rejection, that I wouldn't love him anymore or some other crazy reason. What I never mentioned to him after 22 years of marriage is that I’d had more than my share of fantasies that consisted of another couple or another female in our bed. I had the same fears, and I now realize that I should have known better.

It was one night when we were in the middle of the hottest sex that he mentioned that he joined a swinger’s personals site (SLS) It was then that I knew he was serious.

He works out of town from Monday through Thursday and for four days, I never thought of anything else. I found this site to do a lot of research on swinging, reading every post I could.

We have talked with another couple and are hopefully meeting this upcoming weekend. I really want us to connect, but if we don’t, oh well. We’ve talked till we’re blue about what we want, what we don’t. If neither of us is comfortable, we both walk.

I just love this place!!

Yes, we are active and looking for a cute couple, single female, or rarely a single male...

Inquire within...

We have talked about swinging but my hubby says we are too busy right now...which is true. We just moved (long distance) and have the kid factor and blah blah yaddie yaddie. I just wonder how we can match up perfectly with another couple. It seems matching up 4 people is much harder than matching up individually. Plus being in the bible belt makes me a little curious about who are at the local get togethers - I guess people like us I also happen to be in the health care field with a lot of exposure to the public - so would I see fellow swingers at my workplace? Maybe... and how would that feel? I like to think all swingers are mature and good natured people, but I know that there are always a few sour apples in any group (well maybe not this web site ) I am excited by the prospect but it will have to be on my back burner of activities - like all the other ones! AAAGH! Life passes so quickly.

We are active, but consider ourselves new entries to this scene. I (the female half) is the one that's been the "pushing" party, and I'm the one who wrote the profiles, put 'em up, and handle a lot of the correspondence (he sees everything, however, because we do go through it together, and he sees my response before it goes out).

Active we are meeting a new found friend tonite and if all goes well a mfm will be happening by 10pm and this one may be one to keep around awhile

I am new to this board as a single woman. I have a very unique situation on my hands....My late husband and I were swingers for 4-5 years and were actually with very good swinger friends when he had his heart attack last year. It has been a long haul, but I find myself with a new partner, I am very happy emotionally and especially in the bedroom with this new friend of 7 weeks. The situation is that I have told him about my past and he is very cool with it......I have brought it up only on two occasions, and he does seem very curious. He even admitted to a MFM threesome in his 20's. He is 48, I am 49. So do I just go with the flow and hope he wants to try it , the sex is so incredible with just the two of us.....but I feel there is something missing.......any thoughts?

"I am very happy emotionally and especially in the bedroom with this new friend of 7 weeks."

Well, wonhotlady56, as you said above, this is a new friend of just 7 weeks. I personally would wait until this relationship becomes a little more solid before you jump in. Or, if you already know that this is not a future significant other and just want a partner for the lifestyle, then jump right in.

Mrs. BetterHalf

We havn't started yet. Life just keeps getting in the way of living. Hate it when that happens. BUT it will happen, I must have faith. The issue I think we are going to have is that I would rather be with and experienced couple, but most experienced couples seem to prefer couples who have been in the lifestyle for awhile. I don't want or need any more drama then what is already in my life. I want to have fun, and get laid while doing it. I have always, not that I am a tramp, been able to seperate sex from love. So I know I will not have a problem with this lifestyle. The first time I see Dog with another women maybe odd, but if I have the attention of the husband then hey, lets party. facelick

I know I rambled abit.

Your friend,

Prettylady

Both of us were active previously with different partners. We started dating and then decided to live together recently. Given our newer relationship we decided to take things slowly, though we do attend clubs and go to house parties.

In addition I (female) had a car accident in the winter which left me with some ongoing injuries, this has also slowed our rejoining of the lifestyle actively.

We have been active but things tend to be hot/cold for us because we're both extremely busy and tend to get picky. We find that swinging can be a second job in itself.

Not currently active, because I've been in serious relationships the last several years with women who would never consider the swinging lifestyle.

Not that I am alone again, I am considering returning to my swing lifestyle of the past.