The Period: what do couples do during that time of the month?

As a couple what do you do when your wife or S.O. has her period and she does not want to have penetration because it grosses her out. My wife and I will have intercourse on "The Tail End!", of her period. But, during the 7-8 days she has her period, we do some oral play. Mostly it's her licking me, but like I said I will do oral towards the end of her period and I won't use any fingers into her p*ssy (her request). It's kind of okay with me, but I may use a vibrator/dildo in her.

So, this goes along with the other "PERIOD" question, but I would like to know specific things that couples do "to pass the time" until you can have intercourse again!

Actually we do everything, , except play with other couples or singles, lol.

I found this product a few years ago and it's great. It's called Instead and is a little cup that you insert into the vagina that holds all the flow inside until you take it out. Everything can be done and there is no mess at all. Of course, before I found this product, we still did everything, guess I never knew that I wasn't suppose to.

First I have to say it is hard to pick just one in this poll as we do quite a few of those things. What we do most often though isn't included in the poll. We put a good porno in the VCR and do mutual masturbation. Maybe we are the only ones that do that. It is pretty fun though if the wife isn't into anything messy.

Originally posted by good times

We put a good porno in the VCR and do mutual masturbation. Maybe we are the only ones that do that.

Nope, not the only ones that do that, we enjoy the same thing immensely.

Teresa

I've had all my plumbing removed, so there is no problem now. Before we did pretty much everything except oral on me.

We have a couple we play with...if she is on her period...she gives oral, and I get a DP!!!!

We don't change a thing. We have sex daily, and it's business as usual for us. Haven't played with anyone else at that time, but aren't opposed to that either, as long as it's ok with them.

I too had a hard time voting in this poll we do several of the choices so i choose the 1 we do the most!

We also do a lot of the choices in your poll. We do everything except for oral on me. I am going to have to look into the Instead cups though, sounds like a great idea.

We do everything we normally do, only I don't like him to perform oral sex on me when it's that time. I don't feel clean enough to have his head down there I think there should be multiple choices for the poll

We tried the Instead cups, my wife hated them. She said it made a bigger mess removing the cup after we were done than if we had just had sex without it. She thought maybe she used it wrong so she reread the directions and tried it again, same result.

R

We don't have to worry too much about that time of the month. I have Nor-Plant (it's six tubes that are inserted in the arm and they last for 5 years). Since I've had it I only get my period once every 4-6 months. I love it and we can play whenever we want. If I do happen to have my period we don't do much. I usually give him head and he titty fucks me but that's about it. When I have my period I'm so tight that he can't even get a finger in me so intercourse is out of the question. As for playing with another couple I wouldn't feel clean enough unless it was just oral on the guys and she got all the fun. lol

Hfire269(female Half)

We never understand the reluctance to have sex during menstruation. If anything, outside of tender breasts, every female I have ever been with is hornier than normal during her period.

My ex and I had great sex during her period and more so when she was pregnant. Puss always enjoys receiving and just as much during her period.

There is nothing unclean about your period that a warmup shower together cannot solve. Leave a tampon in until you are ready for penetration and sit back and enjoy receiving oral. Put a towel underneath (squirters probably already do) and keep a box of diaper wipes handy. No fuss / minimal muss.

Sue Johannson is a long time Canadian sex educator with her Sex with Sue TV show every Sunday night. She is now on the Oxygen network in the USA and was interviewed by Letterman recently and Anderson Cooper last week...both were totally floored by discussions of sex so me thinks that you folks south of the border are a bit more uptight than us Canucks. We tend to be more like the British.

On a recent show Sue explained that during arousal and orgasm the cervix actually tightens up and the flow of blood into the vagina comes to a stop.

Periods are the prelude the THE horniest time of the month which is when you are fertile. (Anyone see the Desmond Morris special a year or so ago where they correlated the amount of flesh a female showed when she was out clubbing to where she was in terms of her fertility cycle? Of course Desmond is the same dude who relates the wearing of red lipstick to the swollen red genitals of female animals in heat.)

Periods are part of nature, nothing to hide, nothing to be ashamed of and certainly nobody should be made to feel 'unclean'...leave that notion to the religious nutcases and 3rd world.

Kiss

Ok, I just read the poll results and upon closer examination realized that the focus of the various voting options is on the Guy Coming!!

What backwards thinking is that anyway? "The little wifey is outta commission but I still gotta cum anyway, soto hell with her needs?"

Honestly, boys and girls (AND ESPECIALLY THE BOYS!)....understand that this whole sex thing is about pleasing the female first...and no it is not your dick that is her number one pleasure device!

When my monthly visitor comes around, my husband proclaims it's "HUMMER WEEK". But I enjoy doing it so it's not a problem for me...:p Hubby in turn gives me my cramp relief as well and supplies me with and orgasm too... YUM!

Suzie

Originally posted by kissnpuss

Honestly, boys and girls (AND ESPECIALLY THE BOYS!)....understand that this whole sex thing is about pleasing the female first...and no it is not your dick that is her number one pleasure device!

Okay.. maybe I misunderstood but isn't it about pleasing everyone? Not the male over the female nor the female over the male.

That also sounds like backwards thinking.

Miss Piggy,

Yep, you did misunderstand. I never said that ONLY females get pleased...I said that they cum first.

The majority of the poll answers above are focused on only the how the guy gets his rocks off while. Only a few address how the female will orgasm during HER period. It is as though the guy is the one doing all of the suffering during his mate's period!

This is so stereotypical of male thinking. Remember the adage about guys having only enough blood to supply one 'head' at a time?

She gives me oral and I give her anal, which she loves. A nice by-product of that also is that she can have a terrific orgasm while on her period without vagainal intercourse. Sometimes we even just sleep, for a change!

I did not vote, as we do anything I want......usually any and everything.

I just tried the INSTEAD, and love it. It wasn't difficult but I have used a diaphragm in the past and insertion/removal was the same.

I highly reccomend it. BUT make sure if you are using it for a 'special occasion' that you have already practiced and are comfortable using it.

Originally posted by S&B

She gives me oral and I give her anal, which she loves. A nice by-product of that also is that she can have a terrific orgasm while on her period without vagainal intercourse. Sometimes we even just sleep, for a change!

Couldn't have said it better! Thanks S&B!!!

That's what we do, surprised more people didn't say anal.

I usually just give hubby his fun. I feel like crap during my period. If I do feel rowdy, we'll pop in a video like mentioned earlier. That is much fun and I can get so excited I can just watch and get off without any contact! Go me!

Originally posted by nwin_bifemcpl

When my monthly visitor comes around, my husband proclaims it's "HUMMER WEEK".

Suzie

It's Hummer Week at Slutty HQ as well! facelick

And I too, get hornier than usual then. That's when I actually use my Magic Wand...and serious cramp relief is always the added benefit.

Every now and then we "slip" and go to it anyway. but I don't like Mike's head down there at that time...I don't feel clean enough then at all.

We don't "swing" with friends in our usual manner either. But do indulge in some dinner, cocktails or some "getting to know you" kind of activity with our bestest friends. It's been great in our circle since we girls have a tendency to "flow" at the same time as well! (you know...our cycles get in sync)

I love the "snuggle time" and all the girl bonding activities! So for about a week our "swinging" focus turns to food and shopping or my fave...rock concerts with hubbies to keep us in line.

;-*

Slutty Wife

Originally posted by jcbicouple

We don't change a thing. We have sex daily, and it's business as usual for us. Haven't played with anyone else at that time, but aren't opposed to that either, as long as it's ok with them.

Same here. In fact, my wife says sex cures menstrual cramps. At least, that's what she keeps telling me. She also says sex cures headaches, fatigue, dandruff, sprains and the common cold.

Originally posted by ionsawmill

Same here. In fact, my wife says sex cures menstrual cramps. At least, that's what she keeps telling me. She also says sex cures headaches, fatigue, dandruff, sprains and the common cold.

Just had to laugh!!!!! :rofl:

I've heard that orgasms can help with ncramps for the following reason. Cramps are the result of the cervix contracting in crazy period ways. Orgasms make the cervix contract rythmically thus giving the cervix a bit of a break. At least I think that's how the story goes. Does anyone know anything more about this?

Doesn't bother me a bit when she's riding the cotton pony. I come up looking like someone punched me right in the mouth or shot my dick.

Originally posted by ionsawmill

Same here. In fact, my wife says sex cures menstrual cramps. At least, that's what she keeps telling me. She also says sex cures headaches, fatigue, dandruff, sprains and the common cold.

Sex does cure everything...if everyone had more sex..including the president ...the world would be a much better place!

Heck....Look at what the world was like when Clinton was in office--he was getting blow jobs and all was right with the world.

i agree the world would be a better place if everyone were swingers.

I guess I'm the odd one out then. During my time, I don't want to go anywhere near having sex. Oral anal or vaginal. I don't feel clean, quite the opposite really and the couple of times where it has been an accident the mess and visual of it were enough to eternally turn me off it. I will gladly give him his pleasure if I am up to it since it is MY choice not to do anything else, but leave me alone.

Originally posted by Mich149

I guess I'm the odd one out then. During my time, I don't want to go anywhere near having sex. Oral anal or vaginal. I don't feel clean, quite the opposite really and the couple of times where it has been an accident the mess and visual of it were enough to eternally turn me off it. I will gladly give him his pleasure if I am up to it since it is MY choice not to do anything else, but leave me alone.

No your not alone, I've got to Ditto you for the most part. With headaches and cramps that could kill a horse. That time is less than amorous around here for a couple of days. I've heard that an orgasm is good to ease the cramps but ibuprophen pulls rank. As that time becomes lighter I'm more open for suggestions but there is a day or two of shut down.

Annette

When it's that time of the month for My Little Princess, we refrain from ONLy 2 things: my doing oral on her, and meeting others. (Although we have met others on two occasions thus far when the other woman was in the same condition.) She gets highly aggressive and has the most amazing orgasms, which I thoroughly enjoy. Their have been a few times when she experienced some dryness, but that was easily resolved with some ASTROGLIDE.

Originally posted by Mich149

II'm the odd one out then. During my time, I don't want to go anywhere near having sex. Oral anal or vaginal. I don't feel clean, quite the opposite really and the couple of times where it has been an accident the mess and visual of it were enough to eternally turn me off it. I will gladly give him his pleasure if I am up to it since it is MY choice not to do anything else, but leave me alone.

Back in the days before her hysterectomy Mrs Fun and I would just carry on as usual with the exception of oral.

My has this been enlightening!!!! I have often wondered about this. I am so glad that someone asked. I have always felt too "unclean" to have the hubby explore though he's always indicated he was ready, willing and able. Especially since I can last up to two weeks :head bang: O.k. so, for those of you who continue on as normal.... How do you clean up? I understand the shower and baby wipe thing, but what about the sheets? Even if you put something underneath you it would still get horribly stained. Do you just wash it and re-use? I know it's a dumb question, but for someone who hasn't been there, I am very interested. Also, maybe it's just me, but the scent of blood stinks. I mean that literally. Does that bother anyone?

Most times, My Princess' emissions are relatively light. But there have been a few times when we found it necessary to use some old towels under us. When washing the towels, pour hydrogen peroxide over the spots. This seems the bleach out even the most stubborn stains. And as for cleaning US up, It is so much fun to shower together afterward, although I admit that it oftimes leads to a repeat.

I pout.

It never fails that when we get a break from the kids to go and meet new people, I always seem to get my period. So, I pout.

Usually, we skip the first few days of my cycle because they tend to be the worst, especially the cramps and such.

Roxy

We will have vaginal intercourse as long as she is not really, really, bleeding. I don't mind so much, but she does. But all else is fair game. And I've gone down on her with a tampon in. No big deal.

Aside from the blood and it being a bit messy, there is no reason on earth to treat a woman any differently. In fact many women are hornier during their period. Other than living in the dark ages, when a woman was considered "unclean," whats the problem here?

How do you clean up? I understand the shower and baby wipe thing, but what about the sheets? Even if you put something underneath you it would still get horribly stained. Do you just wash it and re-use? I know it's a dumb question, but for someone who hasn't been there, I am very interested. Also, maybe it's just me, but the scent of blood stinks. I mean that litterly.

Keep an old towel specifically for that time of the month. The trick is to soak the towel straight away in cold water. When blood drys it stain. A few squirts of vanish should do the trick. If its a white towel you can always bleach it every so often. My periods aren't heavy so most of it stays on hubbys "member" anyway. A vibrator held on the clit enhances the whole "time of the month" thing. The intense contractions you have with orgasms help the uterus to clean out which is all in all not a bad idea. I don't allow him hubby to go down on me (just don't feel comfy with his head being so close to yucky woman stuff) but I will go down on him. The lady of the couple who we play with has her monthlies the same time as I do, so when we get together there are never any issues of "sorry its that time of the month" Jeesh, what a topic! :rollseyes

I for one don't care for sex on my period, maybe the last couple days but certainly not the first few days. I just feel too yucky. I have really irregular cycles and it's possible my period is going to come at a very bad time during a situation I've been wanting to have for 4 years. She will definitely be in her period that day as well

So for those of you who have used Instead:

Was it hard to place?

When it's in place does it leak at all?

How long can it be in place during the heavy flow and light flow?

Can the guy feel it in place?

Does it cause discomfort for the woman during sex?

Any idea what kind of material it's made out of? (latex gives me an itchy rash)

If it is just the two of us nothing changes except we use a towel to save the sheets. If we are playing with someone else we use "Instead". We were introduced to it by one of our first couples and have used them ever since. Only one single male has asked about it and we explained it was a diaphragm.

The "boss" says sex during her period helps with her cramps so the only thing that changes for us is that we hide the light sheets and do a lot more laundry. And for some reason all the chocolate disappears other than that about everything stays the same.

We'll have sex, but not oral for me until the very end of it. It's not that he won't, it's just I don't want it. In the beginning, I'll hop right in the shower with him.

We use Instead or we play in our bathtub. Instead are messy when she pulls them out.

No stopping us. It's all natural and besides it is sort of kinky to see his penis with some blood on it. I use a towel under me at that time and everything else is just fine.

We do everything we normally do, only I don't like him to perform oral sex on me when it's that time. I don't feel clean enough to have his head down there I think there should be multiple choices for the poll

Ditto, but we wouldn't want to play with others if I were having my period or the other women was having hers. Between my husband and I, it's not an issue.

I guess I'm the odd one out then. During my time, I don't want to go anywhere near having sex. Oral anal or vaginal. I don't feel clean, quite the opposite really and the couple of times where it has been an accident the mess and visual of it were enough to eternally turn me off it. I will gladly give him his pleasure if I am up to it since it is MY choice not to do anything else, but leave me alone.

I'm the same way. When my Aunt Bitch, er Flo is visiting I do tend to get horny. Now, I will masturbate with a towel of course underneath. But I am crampy usually and so unless I'm extremely light I don't do vaginal sex; I would never do this with anyone other than Jay no matter how light its flowing though. Fortunately for Jay I have a mouth all 4 weeks of the month. LOL.

We call it red towel time. Sex may require a good wash after, But yes we still have it. As for others, if they are fine with it, so are we.

We call it red towel time. Sex may require a good wash after, But yes we still have it. As for others, if they are fine with it, so are we.

I agree, a woman definately is not "dirty" during her period. With me I just don't feel good during AF time...I'm cramping and whiney and bloated lol. And hormonal LOL...so the kids have probably pissed me off and Jay is like "thats okay, Will and I are fine over here" LOL. I hate my period and at my ob appt am going to inquire about endometrial ablation...just because mine is horrible. But no, there is absolutely nothing wrong or dirty with having sex during your period. I personally would never do this with any man other than Jay simply because thats me. But hey, I'm nervous having sex with another man if I haven't showered in the previous few hours LOL, I'm such a clean freak in regards to my body LOL.

We didn't answer the poll because they didn't apply ... when I was raggin' (I LOVE my IUD!! No more periods!!), we'd play as usual except no oral for me (frankly, it would gross me out if some guy wanted to go down on me then). Sex didn't bother us (but was more messy), and I'm happy to perform oral as much as he'd like it --

And I think sex is about pleasing everyone, too...

My ex-hubby and I used that time of the month for 'shower sex'.....easy clean up too. lol

Now, with my sweetie...he doesn't mind having sex, he just isn't comfortable going down on me (which suits me just fine). Just throw a towel down and have at it. With that said, manual stimulation, toys, and penetration are all good, anytime. lol

One of the first couples we played with, the other fem had just started (she thought it would either be over with or wouldn't have started for another day or two). We were warned in advance and Jeff had no issue with doing it. Personally, I prefer not to schedule playtime during my period.

Maria