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As we have gotten into swinging, we have come to find that we like the lead-up to playing almost as much as we like the sexual play itself; especially the sexual discussion and building anticipation

 

We are wondering what people do as "foreplay"

- drinks and dinner

- games - if so any suggestions for good ones

- going to a club

- other

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It's funny that you posted this question because I had a similar question regarding foreplay.

 

Let me begin by saying that some will love foreplay and others do not want any part of it. Some find it just fun and others find it too intimate.

 

I think foreplay can be whatever helps get you in the mood, to be honest. Some use porn. Some go to sexy environments. Some flirt, tease, kiss, touch, grab, grope, dance, massage, stroke, rub, whisper, look, talk dirty, etc. You get the idea. With the right people, I like to do some sexy texts or emails. Fantasizing and story-telling are great, too.

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Interesting; I've never considered activities like that to be foreplay. Those sorts of things have always seemed like flirting, or places to flirt. Building interest and attraction. Foreplay, to me, has always been sexual acts. Things like kissing, touching, nibbling, massaging all the way up to oral sex, or teasing with stimulation of all kinds.

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We've always been a fan of dinner, drinks, and maybe a game. Good games (IMO) are Apples to Apples (it can get dirty fast), strip anything (poker, Wii games, Uno, whatever.. lol), or if you want to escalate even more quickly one of the foreplay oriented games from a sex shop.

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We've always been a fan of dinner, drinks, and maybe a game. Good games (IMO) are Apples to Apples (it can get dirty fast), strip anything (poker, Wii games, Uno, whatever.. lol), or if you want to escalate even more quickly one of the foreplay oriented games from a sex shop.

 

I'm not familiar with Apples to Apples; is that just an adult take on the card game? How do you make it dirty? :)

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I don't consider this foreplay, but it can be flirty and fun. I love miniature golf. We've done it with couples and singles. It's easy to converse because your walking around, not just sitting at a table staring at each other. You can poke each other with the clubs or lift up a skirt or shirt a bit. There are usually little caves you can steal a kiss in.

 

We also like swimming and hot tubbing.

 

Playing cards is a favorite also. We mostly play euchre.

 

I'm not big on standard truth or dare because it's hard for me to come up with questions or dares.

 

Things I'd like to do with swing partners: go canoeing, hiking, maybe bowling? (i'm terrible at bowling, but it's fun).

 

I have a couple of the Sex is Fun games, but haven't gotten a chance to play them yet.

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In Apples to Apples there are 2 types of cards - category cards and item cards. Each person gets 5 item cards (which are random objects/people/phrases/places/etc). You go around the circle and on your turn you draw an category card. The other people have to choose the item card from their hand that they think you would pick as the best example of the category. They place their item cards face down, you mix them up, and then flip them over one by one reading them off before choosing your favorite. Everyone draws a new item card so that there are 5 cards in everyone's hand at the beginning of each turn.

 

So, if I drew the category 'attractive' people could play the name of a hot actor/actress, a place that I enjoy, or something like that OR they could go totally off the wall and play something gross (rotting garbage or a person they know creeps me out or something like that). I would pick the one I like best, and whoever played that item wins the turn and gets to keep the category card. Whoever gets to the predetermined number of cards (we usually play to 10) wins the game.

 

It's just really easy to come up with random jokes, innuendos, and all kinds of fun-ness. It all depends on what people have in their hand. I believe they actually make an adult version as well that is blatantly dirty.

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I don't consider this foreplay, but it can be flirty and fun. I love miniature golf. We've done it with couples and singles. It's easy to converse because your walking around, not just sitting at a table staring at each other. You can poke each other with the clubs or lift up a skirt or shirt a bit. There are usually little caves you can steal a kiss in.

 

That's a good idea. We'll have to remember that one. Thanks for sharing. :)

 

Just hope my putter doesn't sputter.

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I don't consider this foreplay, but it can be flirty and fun. I love miniature golf. We've done it with couples and singles. It's easy to converse because your walking around, not just sitting at a table staring at each other. You can poke each other with the clubs or lift up a skirt or shirt a bit. There are usually little caves you can steal a kiss in.

 

Ooh, I like this!

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We enjot the hot tub for starters, that seems to break the ice and everyone is naked...so things tend to progress fairly fast from there. Our club does a pool tourney night, of course, the ladies are free to use their womanly wiles to distract the opponents. The game gets you familiar with several couples if you stay in the tournament long enough.

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I typically think of things such as dancing, kissing, and massages to be foreplay, but I guess games and activities that get the action going count, too. We've adapted a board game meant for a vanilla couple for use with two couples. But really, almost any card or board game could be adapted for that purpose! Think dirty pictionary!

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Oh I'm LOVING the pool rules...might try that this weekend if the weather doesn't allow us to start playing in the [swimming] pool! (and besides, getting fucked on a pool table has always been a fantasy of mine...nice coincidence! :D

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We prefer the club route. It's the easiest way to get things going (from dancing/flirting to necking to swapping) without the awkward moments of transition.

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