Jump to content
JohnUK1

Ladies - ever developed emotions for a swing partner?

Recommended Posts

Hi ladies!

 

I'm just wondering and have looked online with not a lot of success. I was trying gauge the percentage of women who swing and who have at some point developed feelings for the swinging partner? So obviously this question would be for a woman who has had a regular swinging partner. Even to those experienced ladies, did you ever in the past have feelings for a swinging partner that caused problems in your relationship? I guess what I'm wondering is have any of you have difficulties in your relationship due to you getting your emotions tied up with the playing? We always hear women get their emotions involved more easily than men.

 

This is my worry at the moment.

 

Thanks,

John

Share this post


Link to post

If you've read many of my posts, you know I've fallen for one of my play partners. However, I don't believe this would have happened if I (and my husband) hadn't been open to me developing relationships with others in the first place. If it had caused issues in my marriage, I would have cut ties with this woman immediately.

 

From your other posts, it sounds like your wife has a history of playing with people that she already has some connection to anyway (an ex and someone she has come across professionally). This would concern me. If there is already some sort of emotional connection - whether it be harboring feelings from a past relationship or friendship- it is going to be a lot easier for it to get confusing when sex is added to the picture.

 

Also, I don't think it is necessarily true that women are more likely to get emotionally involved, but that is a different conversation.

Share this post


Link to post
If you've read many of my posts, you know I've fallen for one of my play partners. However, I don't believe this would have happened if I (and my husband) hadn't been open to me developing relationships with others in the first place. If it had caused issues in my marriage, I would have cut ties with this woman immediately.

 

From your other posts, it sounds like your wife has a history of playing with people that she already has some connection to anyway (an ex and someone she has come across professionally). This would concern me. If there is already some sort of emotional connection - whether it be harboring feelings from a past relationship or friendship- it is going to be a lot easier for it to get confusing when sex is added to the picture.

 

Also, I don't think it is necessarily true that women are more likely to get emotionally involved, but that is a different conversation.

 

Hi km34, thanks for replying!

 

As you mentioned, my wife has only played with one guy before this guy. The first was her ex and yes she did develop feelings for him that she didn't tell me of. Maybe because it was her first time she handled it all wrong by not telling me. He was living abroad so it wasn't a regular thing really.

 

This guy lives in our city but she only sees him to play but she plays alone. She's only seen him twice. She assures me that she has none of those feelings this time and neither does he. I won't go on too much about her cos I'll detract from this thread. Anyone else ever got in too deep? I appreciate that everyone is different and just because someone develops something doesn't mean someone else will.

 

Actually I should have addressed this to guys too. Any guys had their wife get her emotions involved in their swinging partner?

Share this post


Link to post

My hubby once got the impression that I had feelings for one playmate in particular. We chatted often and became more friendly that hubby would have liked. There was never a "feelings" issue, I just liked talking with him online and we had a lot of interests in common. I have reigned in the chatting and we have not met with this fellow since. Hubby felt uncomfortable and the friendship was more than he wanted to develop and that the other guy had more than friendship on his agenda since he was single. At this time, we do not play alone, so maybe we're not comparing apples to apples here.

 

I personally disagree that women are more likely than men to get entangled with playmates emotionally. It depends on the person...my husband says I think like a man, LOL. Sex is sex, love is love and there's a big difference.

 

With your wife's lack of experience with many sexual partners, you could be right that she may be more inclined to become emotionally attached. But if you have had a conversation about it and she says that's not going on here, then you should trust her unless you see other obvious signs of attachment or she gives you a reason not to believe her.

Share this post


Link to post

I agree with Angelkin! It has nothing to do with gender! It's more about humans and some humans just need to feel emotionally connected to be sexually connected.

Share this post


Link to post
Hi ladies!

 

I'm just wondering and have looked online with not a lot of success. I was trying gauge the percentage of women who swing and who have at some point developed feelings for the swinging partner? So obviously this question would be for a woman who has had a regular swinging partner. Even to those experienced ladies, did you ever in the past have feelings for a swinging partner that caused problems in your relationship? I guess what I'm wondering is have any of you have difficulties in your relationship due to you getting your emotions tied up with the playing? We always hear women get their emotions involved more easily than men.

 

This is my worry at the moment.

 

Thanks,

John

 

It doesn't matter what percentage of people here develop feeling for their partners. It has happened to your wife in the past. I think playing alone and playing multiple times does lend itself to emotional attachment.If this is your worry you need to keep the lines of communication open with your wife. If you want her to continue to play alone you may have to reconcile yourself to the eventuality that she will develop feelings. Polyamory does work for some people. If your wife is still committed to a relationship with you and dealing with you honestly that is the important thing.

 

Personally, I have developed feelings in the past. That really has nothing to do with your wife though.

 

I hope it works out well for you guys.

Share this post


Link to post
...... But if you have had a conversation about it and she says that's not going on here, then you should trust her unless you see other obvious signs of attachment or she gives you a reason not to believe her.

 

Nonsense I say!!! In this lifestyle, (actually in LIFE) your feelings count just as much as hers. Why in the world would you make yourself UNHAPPY just to prove you trust her?

Your happiness counts just as much as hers.

This situation is obviously making you unhappy so there is a simple answer.. IT MUST STOP!! I wouldn't put up with it. If I'm gonna be unhappy, well shucks, I can do that alone!!!!

Share this post


Link to post
Mr here... My ex and I divorced over the very same thing. Tread VERY carefully!

 

Sorry to hear that lotsoffun201.

 

My missus does tell me how I mean thee world to her and how she wants to grow old with me etc. We been together about 15 years + 3 kids. I was her first and she still tells me I'm the man of her dreams so on that basis I shouldn't worry. I'll try not to but she's not into different playmates. She has only ever been into one at a time. And only wants to play alone. Maybe this is asking for trouble, we shall see I suppose!

Share this post


Link to post
My hubby once got the impression that I had feelings for one playmate in particular. We chatted often and became more friendly that hubby would have liked. There was never a "feelings" issue, I just liked talking with him online and we had a lot of interests in common. I have reigned in the chatting and we have not met with this fellow since. Hubby felt uncomfortable and the friendship was more than he wanted to develop and that the other guy had more than friendship on his agenda since he was single. At this time, we do not play alone, so maybe we're not comparing apples to apples here.

 

I personally disagree that women are more likely than men to get entangled with playmates emotionally. It depends on the person...my husband says I think like a man, LOL. Sex is sex, love is love and there's a big difference.

 

With your wife's lack of experience with many sexual partners, you could be right that she may be more inclined to become emotionally attached. But if you have had a conversation about it and she says that's not going on here, then you should trust her unless you see other obvious signs of attachment or she gives you a reason not to believe her.

 

Hi angelkin, thanks for your reply! Did you have a problem easing off the contact with this guy? Was the any frustration or resentment? Especially considering you didn't have those emotional feelings for the guy. I don't think she has emotions involved with this guy but I been wrong before and as I mentioned she only plays alone and only with him. But she only meets him to play and not very often. She says she doesn't phone him except on the day to play. Guess I should give her the benefit of the doubt.

Share this post


Link to post
I agree with Angelkin! It has nothing to do with gender! It's more about humans and some humans just need to feel emotionally connected to be sexually connected.

 

Hi ViSexual, this is how I feel my wife is actually. She told me years ago when she was with her ex that having only ever been with me that she felt making love with him caused her to tie it to the feelings she associated with love. She says it's different with this guy but he's only the 3rd guy she's ever been with (she's 36) so if that's true she's learned to do something new! :) Hope so!

Share this post


Link to post
It doesn't matter what percentage of people here develop feeling for their partners. It has happened to your wife in the past. I think playing alone and playing multiple times does lend itself to emotional attachment.If this is your worry you need to keep the lines of communication open with your wife. If you want her to continue to play alone you may have to reconcile yourself to the eventuality that she will develop feelings. Polyamory does work for some people. If your wife is still committed to a relationship with you and dealing with you honestly that is the important thing.

 

Personally, I have developed feelings in the past. That really has nothing to do with your wife though.

 

I hope it works out well for you guys.

 

Really? Even if she only meets him to play? If this is going to happen wouldn't she have to be phoning him regularly as well. She says she doesn't. She says the emails are just basic stuff and that he had been emailing regular enough. But she has been deleting them (red flag!). She says this is because when it all kicked off with her ex I threatened to contact him. I found an email with him saying he loved her, was jealous of her and that they should be together! Ouch!! She said she was worried that because I might have jealously feelings that I might contact this guy one day. I don't know her password to her email address but she said i can look at them anytime now as she's stopped deleting them. I don't really want to be second guessing her and live like that but I might surprise her one day and ask to see them. I suppose if she wanted to do stuff behind me back she could just get another PAYG sim card rather than email. But you could drive yourself mad thinking like that! Lol

Share this post


Link to post
Nonsense I say!!! In this lifestyle, (actually in LIFE) your feelings count just as much as hers. Why in the world would you make yourself UNHAPPY just to prove you trust her?

Your happiness counts just as much as hers.

This situation is obviously making you unhappy so there is a simple answer.. IT MUST STOP!! I wouldn't put up with it. If I'm gonna be unhappy, well shucks, I can do that alone!!!!

 

 

Hi junglecouple, thanks for your reply!

I was the one suggesting this actually. Sometimes, as most of you will know, the fantasy is 100% erotic and comes with no worries, doubts or problems! It's just the sex. The reality however, means she needs to be seeing a guy alone and obviously that will be in contact with him. Sometimes I say to myself to just relax about it and not worry and other times I feel like I'm encouraging a situation to develop behind my back. I guess only time will tell, unless I tell her to stop it all. Undecided at the moment but I feel this will be resolved one way or the other soon enough!

Share this post


Link to post
Hi angelkin, thanks for your reply! Did you have a problem easing off the contact with this guy? Was the any frustration or resentment?

 

I have to admit I was a bit aggravated by hubby's feeling about my chatting friendship with the playmate. After all, we were talking mostly about other stuff besides sex - like astrology, his relationship with a girlfriend, swinging advice, science related theories - seemed all above-board to me. We also share all our chat logs with one another...so, I wasn't hiding anything.

 

BUT, despite my feelings, I immediately started pulling back from the friendship as my husband is the most important person in my life. I want him to be comfortable with my friendships and when I learned he wasn't and he explained his POV, that was enough for me

 

Someone pointed out that their personal experience has nothing to do with yours - I feel the same. You two need to do whatever is best for you.

Share this post


Link to post
I have to admit I was a bit aggravated by hubby's feeling about my chatting friendship with the playmate. After all, we were talking mostly about other stuff besides sex - like astrology, his relationship with a girlfriend, swinging advice, science related theories - seemed all above-board to me. We also share all our chat logs with one another...so, I wasn't hiding anything.

 

BUT, despite my feelings, I immediately started pulling back from the friendship as my husband is the most important person in my life. I want him to be comfortable with my friendships and when I learned he wasn't and he explained his POV, that was enough for me

 

Someone pointed out that their personal experience has nothing to do with yours - I feel the same. You two need to do whatever is best for you.

 

That's really good and your husband is lucky! She has already said a while back that she could never be happy if I wasn't so thats certainly a good foundation. She's actually been in Miami this week and is leaving in about....3 minutes!! So I'm REALLY looking forward to having her back!! Sha says she can't wait either!! :)

Share this post


Link to post

Absolutely no feelings whatsoever beyond the physical thrills. Swinger men are dildos and that's it. I don't give a rat's you-know-what about them personally. I only care that their anatomy gets hard, goes in, and cums. And this is a good thing ... that way I can play with everyone regardless of looks, physique, age, or anything else that doesn't count. The women, on the other hand, are a different story. I do find myself frequently connecting with them.

Share this post


Link to post

2.5 years ago we met and played with a man. It started as we were looking for a single man for threesome and it turned into us playing separately and ended in polyamory triangle.

 

Now I have a full time BF of 2.5 years and a full time husband of 20 years and 3 kids. I almost live in two houses, each weekend is booked and planned months ahead of time and we all travel together. Very challenging and a lot of fun of course.

 

Lots of emotions involved and we try deal with them on a regular basis like grown-ups.

Share this post


Link to post

Don't want to make this post about me because I was simply replaying to poster question with my little story and our complicated situation which started with swinging and ended with polyamorous story.

 

It's been challenging right from beginning but getting better :). It took 2.5 years for all of us to accept who we are and for BF to admit that he has feelings for me. Hubby realized it too and he decided that my happiness is very important for him as long as I don't have any intentions to leave him and he gets his piece of pie too. :D

 

I didn't like swinging( because it was unpredictable and almost half of the time men didn't meet my expectations). I was initiator of our relationships. BF was a man I wanted and I was on a mission to get him. :D He is very independent and there were a lot of thorns on my road.

 

Now I basically spend most of my time with my family and meet with BF about twice a week and stay overnight on weekends. We travel together (3 of us) and we don't do MFM anymore, I sleep with them separately.

 

So emotions are developed on everybody's part but instead of running away from them or making a drama we decided to work with it and enjoy love and friendship.

Share this post


Link to post

I think sometimes its just impossible to not develop emotions for a partner, things sometimes just feel right.

 

I can say that I have had feelings for a previous partner before, and have had to put distance in between us, 20 years being married and I love my husband more than ever and that is what has given me the strength to do that.

 

I have learned from past mistakes that to make this work there has to be some limits.

Share this post


Link to post

I think I understand how it might be hard not to develop some sort of emotional thing. I'm new to this, and maybe my opinion will change over time, but men are not just dildo's to screw as I please. I actually prefer to have some sort of connection with whomever I sleep with (man or woman). Basically I need to like YOU, not just what you look like.

Share this post


Link to post

Join the conversation

You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account.

Guest
Reply to this topic...

×   Pasted as rich text.   Paste as plain text instead

  Only 75 emoji are allowed.

×   Your link has been automatically embedded.   Display as a link instead

×   Your previous content has been restored.   Clear editor

×   You cannot paste images directly. Upload or insert images from URL.


  • Similar Content

    • By Sudhit
      One of my friends was mentioning that his wife got invited for a vacation with one of their regular playmates. It would be a 4 day vacation, where only the wife goes with the BF, hubby stays back.
       
      Has anyone any experience of this scenario, they are swinger and cuckold couple.
    • By Littlephish69
      Hi ..newbie here..please be gentle! 😉
      Husband (straight) and I (bisexual) are about to embark on our first meet. Originally started with us doing ff and men watching, joining in with own partner. After much discussion, it's now progressed to us doing more! We communicate well in our everyday life and with this too..you have to! Both happy with what we have decided, but, I am feeling stuff about certain things and I can't explain these feelings (emotional and physical!) Both happy with ff and mf. His biggest turn on is watching and mine is him watching me. I'm ok with him receiving oral from f (baby steps!) But the thought of him giving feels different and more 'scary'! Only word I can use that is anywhere near! That being said it also all feels a turn on at the same time! I'm so confused..we're talking a lot between us and other couple, and being very open about everything. We are very happy and in love and have an amazing bond already.
      We have talked in depth over a few years and ready to take the plunge. 
       
      Any advice or explanation about this or how to deal with this, and how process and explain would be gratefully received x 😊
    • By StartingOver60
      My wife and I went to a Lifestyle get-together last weekend.  When we got there, we mingled and as it turned out, my wife meet a couple.  She was sitting next to them having drinks, laughing, and having a good time.  I walked over she introduced me.  I sat next to his wife, and we were all enjoying the evening.   
       
      The other wife and I got up to get some drinks and we chatted at the bar.  "It looks like my wife has taking a liking to your husband," I said.  "Yes, they both are," she replied.  I asked, "Do you think you guys would like to come over to our house and we could continue the party there?"  She politely made it very clear she was not interested in having sex tonight.  I said, "OK, thanks for the heads up."
       
      As we sat there at the bar a friend come over to say hello.  She got up excused herself and returned to the table with her husband and my wife.  
       
      As the evening progressed my wife came over to me at the bar and told me she invited them to come home with us.  I was a bit confused but said sure.   We all left together, my wife in his car, and his wife in my car.  Our conversation during the drive was very nice and easy, and I thought she had changed her mind.  In the club, I could see my wife was very excited to be with her new friend.  
       
      We got to our house and sat around and had some drinks. All seemed to be good. However, when we decide to go upstairs, his wife restated she was not interested in playing tonight. My wife and I left them in the room to talk, and when we came back, he apologized and said sharing tonight is not going to happen.  I felt bad for my wife who was starry eyed at this guy.  He was telling her she looked like a women who was beautiful and fun, and he was very much looking forward to being with her tonight but maybe some other time. 
       
      My wife and I went in the kitchen to get some drinks for everyone, and I explained to her that the other wife had told me she was not interested in the bar.  "I thought she changed her mind, but I guess not," I explained. "I see you want this guy.  I don’t want you to be disappointed, I see and feel the attraction you two have.  When we go back into the room why don’t you ask him if he wants to see the view from our bedroom? That is our usual break the ice move to get things started.  I think this was his game plan all along to be with you even though she was not participating.  But I’m OK with it for your pleasure."
       
      I saw how hot she was for him. So I thought to myself don’t screw this up for her, she should get to enjoy the moment. 
       
      He jumped at the request, and they were off.  I sat with his wife and said, "Are you ok with them going upstairs because I don’t think they care about the view?".  She did not say anything but also did not object to what was going to happen. 
       
      As it goes, my wife had a great experience, so they were up there for an hour. I am sure they enjoyed each other.  When they came down my wife gave me a sweet kiss. We sat for a while then all politely said goodbye.
       
      The next weekend we went to a party at our friends' house. It was a vanilla evening but a number of friends were there.  We had played with the host couple once before, but tonight was not that type of party. 
       
      The next morning my wife realized she left her purse at Tim and Jean's house.  She asked me to go and pick it up.  I said I would on the way back from my bike ride.  On the way back I detoured and stopped at the house.  Jean answered the door and asked me in.  She asked if I would like a cup of coffee, I said sure.  I asked where Tim was, and she said he had left early this morning for an overnight ski trip with some of his buddies. 
       
      We were in the kitchen and Jean was filling the coffee cups. I was looking at her in her robe as she delivered the hot coffee.  We sipped the coffee and chatted but my thoughts while looking at this beautiful woman, came out of my mouth, “Are you wearing anything under that robe?”  She smiled and got up and brought her cup to the sink.  She walked back to the table where I was sitting and said, "You will have to find out for yourself."  I was stunned thinking she was kidding.  She said again,  "All it takes to find out is to pull the robe's belt and open the robe."
       
      She stood in front of me as I sat in the chair. I pulled the robe belt and opened slowly opened the robe.  She was naked and moved her chair in front of me and opened the robe and leaned forward and kissed me deep.  She moved my head down into her crotch and I got on my knees and went at it not believing what was happening.  She was enjoying the moment, she moaned she was coming and squeezed her legs around my head. 
       
      When she released my head from the grasp of her legs she took my hand and brought me into her bedroom.  She sat on the bed as I undressed. I rubbed her legs gently and picked them up high and spread them apart, she fell back, and I penetrated that wet beautiful tasting pussy. 
       
      I pounded her over and over and when I stopped I got on the bed.  I laid on my back and she put my hard cock in her mouth and started sucking me and would not stop until I came, and she told me how good I taste.  We laid there for a few minutes not speaking and I was ready again and I turned her on her side and lifted one leg over my shoulder and began pounding her again.  We went on for awhile and she had another orgasm and told me to cum inside her.  She got on top and pounded me and made me explode inside her. 
       
      We laid there together for a while, eyes closed resting, when her phone rang.  It was Tim, he made it to the mountains and just checking in.  I was feeling bad for what just happened, but it was a great experience.  She repeated out loud what Tim asked - "What are you doing?" Jean replied - "Well, Allan stopped over to pick up Susan’s purse she left over here last night.  I invited him in and we had a cup of coffee.  I was in my robe and one thing led to another and I had Allan’s face in my crotch. Then we took it to the bedroom, and we had a giant orgasmic experience.  I will tell you all about it when you get home.  Are you OK with this?  Good, I will tell Allan.  Have fun skiing.”
       
      So, in discussing this with Jane I said I was shocked at what she just told Tim.  She said, “We are always honest with each other.  It will be so hot when he returns home, I will be in for another great time.  So, I am also going to be honest with you.  You wife left the purse here on purpose.  She asked me if I would give you some great sex because you were a sweetheart last weekend.  You worked it out so she could be with the gentleman she picked up at the club and she felt that you missed out, so she came up with this idea.  But please understand, I was looking forward to it and it was a fantastic morning fuck with a good friend.  Tim was not aware of this, but I will work it out with him when I explain the story.  Susan said she the four of us can get together, or she will get with Tim alone if he prefers and you are OK with it.  You have a great caring wife Allan.  Please tell her thanks for including me in this scheme.”
    • By spicylife42
      The hubs and I were very active in the lifestyle for several years.  We had a great time, we had lax rules where we were ok with each other playing solo.  I traveled with him on business and had a particular lover I was completely head over heals for.  The sex was like no other, he felt it too.  Fast forward many years, we’re out of the lifestyle. He became an alcoholic and our marriage imploded.  During all of this, we had split briefly. He came back but I let him know that I didn’t have feelings for him anymore.  We could try to coexist, for the family.  We have lived this way for 6/7 years.  Last fall T, reached out to me and I went to see him.  It was electric, as it always is.

      Well I was planning to see him again, and I was going to tell the hubs b4 I left, that I was going to see T.  Explosion!  He had suspected since last fall, how can he ever believe me again, oh yeah sure I was going to tell him... yada yada.  Hubs says well if this is the way we are going to spend the rest of our marriage we might as well get a divorce.

      He’s the one that drug me kicking and screaming into the lifestyle, we allowed each other freedoms.  I’m heartbroken and mad! 
    • By JW6145
      I’ve been lurking a while and read a ton here the boards. Now I’ve gotten myself into a situation that is not talked about very much on here. I’ve fallen in love with a playmate. I really didn’t mean for it to happen, and from what she tells me she didn’t mean for it to happen either. Let me start by saying I’ve been completely open and 100% honest with my wife, and my playmate Becca tells me that she has been mostly open with her husband. We’ll get to that in a bit.
       
      Becca and I met at a club, just a few months ago. From the first I thought she was attractive, I mean let’s face it, we’re here to fuck attractive people, right? My wife, Angie, and I went to the club that night to have some fun. We’re experienced swingers-we don’t play alot, swinging does not rule our lives- but we’ve had our share of fun. The night I met Becca was no different; we hoped to meet some fun people, have some good to great sex, and maybe make some friends we could hang out with on a regular basis.
       
      Becca and I both realized pretty quickly that there is a strong physical attraction between the two of us. The sex is effortless and I’ve never fit together with anyone better. After that first night of being together, my wife Angie and Becca’s husband Rob exchanged numbers. Becca asked for my number but I declined, telling her she could just text Angie if she wanted. I don’t normally like to have communication with the women I play with outside of swinging situations. I was not able to get Becca out of my head for the next several days- which is unusual for me. I threw caution to the wind sent her my number via SLS. She texted me a few hours later. Over the next several days we exchanged texts and even spoke on the phone a few times. All with Angie’s knowledge.
       
      We all four got together again a few weeks later-and it was even better than the first time. It was that night that I recognized that I had developed emotional feelings for Becca, and I was pretty sure that she had developed similar feelings for me.
       
      A few days after we were all together the second time I told my wife about my feelings for Becca. I told her I didn’t know if I was getting our sexual chemistry mixed up with emotion but I thought that could be the case. To my surprise Angie did not freak out. She told me she suspected something was up-given the amount of communication between Becca and I. I took a few weeks to sort out my feelings and spent many more hours talking to both Angie and Becca. I realized that I was probably in love with Becca. And I told them both so. Becca told me she feels the same way. This is not the “oh, I’ve just fucked someone new, I hope they like me best” kind of feeling. We’ve both been with other people since we met and it has not cooled our emotions. This is raw, real and deep.
       
      When I told Angie all of this she gave me license to pursue a relationship with Becca and follow it wherever it may lead. I did not ask for this, Angie offered it to me. Angie is secure about our commitment to each other-I am not leaving my wife and Becca and Angie both know that. Becca also has no intention of leaving her husband.
       
      Becca has talked with her husband Rob about us and the feelings we’ve developed for each other. What she has not told him is that she thinks loves me, she does not know how he would react to that (here is the mostly open part that I alluded to in the first paragraph). She has told him our feelings are deep but has not gone into how much we care for each other. Rob is completely comfortable with texts and calls throughout the day, but not with Becca and I meeting without him and Angie there-even for lunch or dinner. I completely understand and respect this. I don’t like it, but I respect it. I suspect if the shoe were on the other foot I would feel the same way. I really genuinely like Rob by the way, he treats both Becca and Angie really well-and he and Angie have really great sex together. Angie has told Rob that it’s just sex between the two of them and Rob feels the same way. They have no other feelings for each other past that.
       
      Becca and I text every day and talk several times a week; I know about her life and children, and she knows about mine. We have similar interests and lives outside of swinging, we are in similar businesses. We have become emotional rocks for each other. I get emotional needs met from her that I do not get from Angie. Again, I have been upfront with Angie about all this and she is fine with it.
       
      So here are my big questions: Do these things really ever work, or are we on the express train to Dramaville?
       
      Is it possible to keep something like this going long term?
       
      How do we navigate the fact that Rob is not comfortable with Becca and I meeting without him around (again, we will not be going against his wishes on this one) and knowing that he and Angie will want to have more variety in their swinging soon, which will leave less opportunity for Becca and I to be together?
       
      Any thoughts from the wise sages on here are welcome. I’m a big boy-if I’ve being naïve about anything please tell me. I can take it.
×
×
  • Create New...