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What does your normal foreplay involve?  

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  1. 1. What does your normal foreplay involve?

    • oral sex given to the man
      421
    • oral sex given to the women
      521
    • oral sex given to both (69)
      411
    • hand job
      299
    • finger play (women)
      511
    • kissing (all over)
      543
    • mutual masturbation
      303
    • solo masturbation
      97
    • strip tease dance for patner
      72
    • back rubs and/or body rubs
      346


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Hello everyone. Me and the wife had a conversation on Sunday about what we think foreplay involves...moreover what we normally do for foreplay...i.e. touch, oral, etc. So it makes me curious...what do you normally do as foreplay? I know it's an open-ended question since we all probably have done it all but what is the norm for you? Answer correctly...it's cool to know how we all stack up.

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:D Hee hee...what a coincedence! Wife and I were discussing this last night...I think our most favorite has got to be oral sex. I could sit there and eat pussy all night long, and my wife would have no problem with that. Sometimes, the foreplay becomes the main course, and we don't even get to anything else. My follow-up question is this: do the men get greater pleasure or intimacy in oral sex than they do with straight sex? And women, given the choice, would you prefer a good oral session or straight-up sex? I'll be honest, although we love straight intercourse, we both agree oral sex is a lot more enjoyable for both of us. She loves my face buried in there, and I love having her juices all over my face!:p Didn't know if we were the odd group!

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Unfortunately I don't get much foreplay, I have a much larger sex drive than my husband so I am the one who has to get him in the mood. I usually give a bj and handjob. Once in a blue moon I will get oral(which I love ) but I'm just happy to get sex. Is it because we have been married almost 3 years now?

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We were very pleased to find that we could check more than one choice. We ended up checking all of them except solo masturbation. :)

 

Alura

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I didn't realize you could check more than one choice. We are big oral fans and mutual masturbation...

 

I say we...I'll have to ask her to give her own opinion...

 

I do know we are both big voyeurs...we love to watch a little porn before we get kinky.

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Originally posted by Misty&Todd

 

Unfortunately I don't get much foreplay, I have a much larger sex drive than my husband so I am the one who has to get him in the mood. I usually give a bj and handjob. Once in a blue moon I will get oral(which I love ) but I'm just happy to get sex. Is it because we have been married almost 3 years now?

 

 

Yes, this is the same way with me. We've been married for almost five and a half years but until recently he's never been much into the oral sex on me. Actually, it's funny, since we've been with two other couples he's more willing to go down south! I like it!!

 

Tigress xx

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Hello hello, there are a lot of great responses. I myself enjoy the thrill of oral, I especially love to give to my wife...there is something so satisfying about watching my wife get pleasure from me...hehehe...us men have it, lucky no mess after.

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Originally posted by bbcpl4cpl

Yes, this is the same way with me. We've been married for almost five and a half years but until recently he's never been much into the oral sex on me. Actually, it's funny, since we've been with two other couples he's more willing to go down south! I like it!!

 

Tigress xx

 

I don't think that I could have survived with out oral! LOL. We enjoy it as warm up, and occasionally a toy or two. :bj:

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Originally posted by Misty&Todd

unfortunately i dont get much foreplay, i have a much larger sex drive than my husband so i am the one who has to get him in the mood . . . once in a blue moon i will get oral(which i love ) but im just happy to get sex , is it because we have been married almost 3 years now?

Well, it shouldn't be because of that. IMHO, three years isn't that long a time to be have been married.

 

Strange how some men seem reluctant to go down on their partners. Personally, I love giving her pleasure that way.

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29 votes, I thought strip tease for partner would have gotten at least 1 vote... Come on ladies, let's get truthful. I know there at least a few of you out there that can shake your booty.

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This is a great poll,we have really enjoyed reading the responses! As for us we start out usually with touching or back rubs, then I love to go down on the Mrs. I agree with Alabama, really cool that I can give her that pleasure. She has done a striptease for me a few times, and that was awesome!

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I checked oral performed on man, woman, and 69, mutual masturbation, finger stimulation and back and body rubs.

 

One of my play partners loves to go down on me while the other one doesn’t. I don’t mind though because I can live without oral as I prefer finger, candle, toy and or veg stimulation myself. You would probably think I’m weird, but I get far more turned on by things being inserted into my vagina rather than by oral sex. I like oral sex too, but if it were to disappear from my life I don’t think I would miss it.

 

Just my preference though.

 

Also like some of you some times we turn our foreplay into the main course.

 

I love going all the way, but I can get just as satisfied and fulfilled by a long foreplay session without going down the whole road.

Once again, this is just my preference.

 

As for dancing, I’m afraid I’m rather a lousy dancer. However I do strip before my play partners and they find it a turn on.

 

Maria.

:)

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I've never made a distinction between foreplay and "THE" sex act.

It's all one . . . ebb and flow. The only variable is time. Take all ya need . . .

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I also consider "foreplay" as part of the act of sex it self. I also checked all but the striptease is maybe once a year. I have to say 69 is my favorite nothing is better than wife planted on face while she entertains herself downsouth on me. :lol:

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Giving a massage turns him on within minutes of him touching me. 69 with some finger play we love. If he's not in the mood right then, I just drop to my knees and can usually get some pretty fantastic results too. :D

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All foreplay is good! It gets the respiration rate up. I try not to think about how or where I would like to climax because as I near that ultimate human experience, I suddenly realize how I want to climax. Sometimes (actually most of the time) it's a BJ (actually depends on the woman), sometimes straight missionary, sometimes doggie, sometimes anal and sometimes it is something I just thought up on the spur of the moment like a unique position.

 

I think I like a good deep throat blowjob because, for me, it is the ultimate surrender. The woman has total control of my very being!

 

Most of the women I know prefer having their climaxes orally but like variation depending on their mood.

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Husband & are both into oral, especially grinding out a 69, followed by kissing and then intercourse. Same thing with full swap and/or group sex

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:8-0:: It really just depends on the mood. We will do it all....including some toys as well.

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Just a fast note here, we are oral fans and like it all both of us. We have been married 18 years and our sex life is hotter than ever,there has been alot of growth for both of us. My Darling has learned to do things(stay hard for long sexual play)and control his time before he comes cums this the women love of course. LOL I have changed a 360% so to speak with different outlook on sex and life. I will address this to the young couple who does not get much foreplay, or sex only you can change that,talking with hubby is top on that list. I hope you both will fine enrichment and grow so he will give more to you and become more interested in having sex enjoying his manhood with you. The lifestyle has done wonders for us in really getting to know one another and we love it. It takes a strong bond of trust and love to be able to enjoy the lifestyle between couples. Good Luck and have fun!!!

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unfortunately i dont get much foreplay, i have a much larger sex drive than my husband so i am the one who has to get him in the mood, i usually give a bj and handjob. once in a blue moon i will get oral(which i love ) but im just happy to get sex , is it because we have been married almost 3 years now?

I can relate to that. My husband & I have been together for 9 years & I have the stronger sex drive as well. Once I get him in the mood we're both ready for sex. Sex is great , but I love oral foreplay. Having a girl give me oral has gotton my man hard & ready.

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We want it all!

 

Start with the gentle touching and the message...move to a little kissing and nibbling...start shedding some clothes…and, well, you can probably figure out the rest.

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Need some advice from the women. My wife use to enjoy oral sex being performed on her. We are both in our early 50's. However, over the last few years she has not been enthusiastic about me going down on her. She is more that will to go down on me and I would like to continue to reciprocate. Is this an age thing? I keep asking her what the problem is and she just shrugs. Since I've learned never to force an act on her that she doesn't seem to want to do I have let it go.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

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I think our most favorite has got to be oral sex. I could sit there and eat pussy all night long, and my wife would have no problem with that.

 

I know I shouldn't speak for Dog, but I KNOW he would agree with you on this point...and I agree 100% with your wife. facelick

 

 

My follow-up question is this: do the men get greater pleasure or intimacy in oral sex than they do with straight sex? And women, given the choice, would you prefer a good oral session or straight-up sex?

 

I LOVE oral, giving and receiving. But I really like to finish with strait up sex. The feeling of his body that close to mine, is just so increadible. Warm and intimate. mmmmmmm :)

 

She loves my face buried in there, and I love having her juices all over my face!:p Didn't know if we were the odd group!

 

Again, you and Dog run in the same pack. :D

 

I clicked everything, Anything that involves Dogs hand on or near me real or imagined is great. ;)

 

SHHHH! Don't tell Dog, but I am learning how to striptease. I can't wait until I get to give him a little show. Look but don't touch :nono:

 

Your friend,

Prettylady :kissface:

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Whatever feels good at the time. We can go to all of the above, some of the above and sometimes even none of the above................ ;)

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My wife use to enjoy oral sex being performed on her. We are both in our early 50's. However, over the last few years she has not been enthusiastic about me going down on her... Is this an age thing?

 

I'm in the same age range as your wife, and I can tell you I still love to have a man go down on me... so I don't think it's "an age thing."

 

But I'm wondering if your wife feels self-conscious about something or is it possible she isn't getting wet like she used to and stimulation hurts?

 

Does regular intercourse hurt her too? Because if so, it might be a hormonal problem that can be fixed.

 

Talk to her about this; and ask her to seek a doctor's advice if pain or discomfort is the reason for her reluctance.

 

Athena

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(Husband here)

 

Lot's of kissing, mutual masterbation, and oral would be our favored forms of foreplay. She is actually more into fingers than oral sex, probably putting her in the minority on that subject.

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We usually spend at least an hour doing all of the above. Last night we decided to have a "quickie" that lasted an hour! For me, sex without foreplay is like Oreo's without milk. Still good but....

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Personally, for me, foreplay is more inclusive than those manual forms typically associated with such act. What am I talking about, you may be wondering? Well......

 

There is something incredibly sexy about the playful, witty and suggestive verbal banter that occurs prior to even the first touch or kiss. You know the type I am talking about. For many people, this banter is often the first sign they notice that the other person is even interested. The innuendos, the subtle re0directing of conversation, etc... To me, this is all foreplay and makes the "chase" all that more exciting. Most of the best lovers I have ever been with were very, very skilled at this talent! They were able to arouse their prey long before physical interaction occurred.

 

In fact, if verbally skilled women were really wanting to be truly evil - as well as know the size of their perspective male lover's cock - they could EASILY arouse him to erection, by simply talking to him, long before she permitted him to continue with his advances! :claps:

 

All that playful, flirty, pre-contact interaction is - for me - foreplay. I simply LOVE the whole interaction.

 

This was made ever so evident to me when my wife and I - during our early days - would find someone we were interested in. Especially when it was another male (I.e. by high school best friend, a buddy of mine from the gym, etc...). Seeing him - at first - "flirting" with her (before he even was aware that she would be willing, able and knowing permitted to fuck his brains out) was very exciting to me. I have always loved seeing her seduced and pleased (still would to this day if she was interested!). Also, when she decided that she wanted another man, and pulled out her tool box of flirting skills, the whole thing became even all the better! Seeing her eye movements/contact, the way she played with her glas, hair, etc... Watching and listening as she made subtle sexual innuendos - baiting him in without giving him an open, obvious invitation. Seeing her "play" with her catch. It was simply beautiful and very hot! That too, for me, is all foreplay!

 

Anyone else agree?

 

Thanks for the great question and comments!

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As I've mentioned before, we are (and have been for a long time) monogamous swingers--same couple.

 

As sort of a rule, we try to hold off our first cum as long as possible--just stay in the tease. Usually one (or both of the women will cum first the first time). Again, we guys will be lucky to get two orgasms in one evening--especially if the first one's a real popper. So we really try to hold off.

 

 

One of our favorite group foreplays involves a lot of oil and rubbing, primarily with hands, but other body parts as well, all over each other. But it's mostly guy to girl touching. But the boundaries might cross if we're in a writhing pile.

 

We also like hot-tubbing and mixing around in it.

 

One other thing, we guys try to not touch the tits or clits for as long as possible. Our wives will beg us at some point, and they've actually cum without us touching them a time or two.

 

They have to lay off our cocks, too, or else we generally cum pretty quick. We've both cum on occasion without any direct hand on cock touching.

 

After that first orgasm of our visit, everyone settles down a little bit, and we can hold off longer the next time.

 

That's when we usually shower and do some kind of activity--smoke meat; take a hike at the local park. Sometimes ride horses. Watch a movie. etc.

 

Then when it's bedtime we usually start all over, starting out in pj's but sans the oil.

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Flirting is great, and we always do that (even with each other) but when the clothes start to come of it is all about oral. I love to give it and Mrs. Cpl is spoiled, that is now the only way she gets off. Which really works good for me! Garranties my snack time. Of course she is one of the best cock suckers I have ever had the pleasure to receive from too.

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i just love fingering my wife starting while she has her pantys on and working up to when she is so wet she removes them and i continue fingering her wetness until she reaches orgasm and goes wild and that leads to a very horny happy wife for the rest of the night

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Anything oral usually starts us off, but we checked off almost everything because we like long foreplay sessions. She has sensitive nipples and they seem to be connected to pussy, so licking and sucking them really get her going :facelick:. Then oral both ways usually has her begging for a cock.:eatout:

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my foreplay is one of two ways, first is by fingering and sucking my wife without me receiving any foreplay in return the second is me looking for the hand lotion.

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Well, seems a little oral, some finger play and a bunch of kisses is the way to go! Trixie and I are big fans of the oral... and of course if I am giving it to her she gets aome finger work as well. Kissing should just be a given. I could spend all night kissing on her chest.

 

Speed.

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