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Me & my husban have noticed at the club were we are members of ,many if not most of the m/f couples arent really seeking full swap couple , there just seeking a 3rd. singel women for a 3some with his wife ,we were woundering how many couples here actually seek a 3rd. women and not a full partner swap , ither online or in clubs? ...its fusterating when we attend our club most M/F couples dont really socialize with other M/F couples , now the minuet a singel women ( espeically is shes a young hottie) comes thur the door , most M/F couples & singel guys are all over her really fast...any feedback would be wounderfull.......HUGGS & SEXY KISSES TO YOU ALL.

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Couples for us. Everyone gets a little of what they want.

 

Couples at our club socialize. Then there are the ones that don't. I've been out where we will socialize and sometimes we will be out and not socialize. Depends on the moods.

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We search mainly for couples, Its actually rather the single females that have found (us) that we have played with. I can see how this is the way it is though. Most single females listed are either so busy with couples pursuing them on the sites, few return mails. The normal advice, and logical thing to do is look for them in the clubs. That generates the happy but abundant crowd pursuing them.

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couples first choice. same reasons as expressed above. if a single gal wanders our way she won't be turned down. see that as an unexpected bonus. ;)

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It's not so cut and dry for us. Yes, we'd love to find couples where all 4 are attracted, but it rarely happens.

 

We have a house party group where we do whatever we want. Everyone knows each other, and we don't have that pressure to only stick with one couple. It's the best scenerio for us.

 

Mrs. D

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We're in it for the couples. The more secure and committed the couple is to each other the better. In the beginning I wasn't secure enough to want a single female. Now I think it would be cool - but more for Hank's pleasure and she and I would have to hit it off as friends first (which isn't hard - I'm very friendly!). We had one couple where the male really wanted me to come over for a fmf and then send his wife over to us so Hank could have the fmf also - but that just never seemed to work out. It's too bad though that single females are not as abundant as single males. If that ever happens I'd be into single males too but that would be the only way Hank would agree to that (and me too for that matter). For us this is about us, so it is important that we are both getting the same benefits out of it. For that reason I think our preference is always going to be couples. There is just something very exciting knowing that you are doing your good friends husband, and she is doing yours (and you!).

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Most of our play is extra guys to pleasure L, one at a time or groups. She loves it, and they're easy to find.

 

We enjoy full swap with couples, but find lots more overhead and effort involved in making those happen. While we enjoy single women -- either for fmf or just solo ff fun between them and L -- those are rarer, and generally happen as a by-product of some other adventure.

 

Short answer is: we seek hot fun without limiting ourselves to one or two flavors, and enjoy what ever flavors are available.

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Hot Raleigh Cpl said:
Most of our play is extra guys to pleasure L, one at a time or groups. She loves it, and they're easy to find.

 

Gotta agree. We are new to this, haven't had a full couple swap, wife just isn't comfy with the woman thing (yet), and we had a good time with our first (and only) MMF. We've another tentatively set for tonight (a young Irish lad :facelick: ).

 

Your point about "they're easy to find" is absolutely true. The internet is a wonderful thing. Preview profiles, check out their pics, review their certs, and connect if you like what you see.

 

We've had LOTS of single guys emailing us (SLS site) and we've also 'shopped' and found some we are talking to.

The wife is opening up more, we are talking more, our marriage has taken on a new vigor and funness. Life is good.

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I think that most couples are into couples...eventually. We have noticed at the clubs that new couples are most often either looking for MFM or FFM, but after they have been in the lifestyle for a while they usually seem to prefer couples. A few people we know have settled on singles as their preference, but I would say most prefer couples.

 

I think it also depends on the club. One club we go to, the single females don't seem to be in any more demand than single males on most nights. This seems even more true for women that are not Bi, couples are usually all over them until she says no g/g play, then they leave her alone like she just turned into a single guy.

 

For us, we have always preferred couples. It is difficult at times to find a couple that all four of us are attracted to each other, but we have found that if we are patient, we find them often enough.

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We are primarily interested in couples.

 

It may be the particular club you are going to. Are there any others close by that you could try to see if there is more of a 'couple play' dynamic?

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Single males are our preference...has been from the beginning. We do enjoy couples and single ladies but...the majority of our play is with single men.

 

 

Teresa

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We prefer couples. Amelia likes playing with girls and a single female is a possibility, generally speaking we have more fun with other couples.

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We are a full swap prefered couple so I feel your pain. I think there are a lot of people in the lifestyle today that would have never left the house back in the day when there were actual "swingers" out there. I believe the percentage of true full swap couples out there is pretty small, has always been small and will always be small as compared to all the other forms of sexual expression.

 

A lot of people that consider themselves lifesyleres are less threatened by females than by males and as long as they only pursue FMF or F/F-only they feel that they are not too far out of the norm. We know people that are at the club almost every weekend and have told me that they are not swingers they just like to go out and flirt and dance with the ladies and hope someday that they can have a F/F-only experience or an FMF.

 

In other words they have a profile on a swinger site, they socialize in swinger clubs but they can not deal with the term swinger or think of themselves as swingers and so they just keep things in the F/F realm. It seems like people like this make up a pretty good percentage of the folks that attend the clubs in our area and that are on the local websites.

 

There are definately full swap couples out there they just don't make up a large percentage of the lifestyle population and probably never will. The good news is that you find that which you seek. Just keep playing the game and play as well as you can and you will be successfull.

 

Keep in mind also that everything depends on attraction and chemistry and that once you develop a good rapport with someone that all bets are off and anything can happen. Recently we were hanging out with a couple similar to what I described above and for shits and giggles I asked the female half if they would ever be interested in a full swap situation and she said, "we are tonight!!" and from there it was game-on:)

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Usually we're attending lifestyle functions where there are mostly couples and we seek the same. We have a single bif that goes out with us a lot, so we offer couples a little more bang for their buck.

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Hmmmm... I don't know what the majority of swingers look for. In our club and at the meet n greets we've attended, most have been couples in search of couples. Perhaps that's just the nature of gatherings but either way, I like it:D

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