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FunCoupleCnS
09-18-2005, 01:11 PM
How many on here swapped on the 1st meet for your 1st experience? Whether the meeting happened through personal adds or by going to a club. Right now when C & I talk about it, we seem to agree that we want to get to know the other couple pretty well 1st. But we also agree that in a club atmosphere things could change. We may decide we know all we need to know about them in a couple hours. Of course, alcohol could be what helps persuade that decision too. Just curious how many of you swapped the 1st time with a couple you just met.

TNT
09-18-2005, 01:45 PM
Can't say that we swapped on the first meet for our first experience. That was years ago and we had known the gentleman for quite a while.

However, we have played numerous times with people that we just met, having only known them for a few hours...ummm and in some cases a few minutes :lol: (orgies are a strange and fun thing).

In fact, now when meeting people we usually have a plan in place to play (meaning an idea of where to go play) if everyone is agreeable to it, no sense in wasting time if you are all getting along.

Teresa

Alura
09-18-2005, 04:07 PM
Mrs. Alura and I had sex on our first date, so we may not be the best ones to ask. :)

In our other experiences, the first meeting allowed us to get to know prospective playmates well enough to decide if we wanted to fuck them or not. In all cases, both couples knew before dinner was over that the next meeting would be to play.

After dinner on one of our first meetings, the four of us switched partners, sat in their van and "made out" for awhile. They were both good kissers; always a great sign! :) We played with them for several years.

Mr. Alura

two4youinswva
09-18-2005, 04:25 PM
Mrs. Alura and I had sex on our first date, so we may not be the best ones to ask. :)

Dito It was some good stuff too! facelick

Ok, I don't know why we do it this way, but here's how it works for us:

When we meet a couple for drinks/dinner, etc via an online connection we don't play on the first date.

When we go to the club, meet someone for the first time, and hit it off, we play that night. :fun:

What's the difference? Hell if I know. It works for us though. :)

Chicup
09-18-2005, 05:00 PM
We play first date, and always have.

Either we are attracted to you or not. We LOVE being friends with our playmates, but we would rather turn playmates into friends than try to be friends before we are playmates.

DBL D
09-18-2005, 06:55 PM
We play first date, and always have.

Either we are attracted to you or not. We LOVE being friends with our playmates, but we would rather turn playmates into friends than try to be friends before we are playmates.

I like the way you think, Chicup! facelick

We, however, are like two4youinswva. At dances where we have some time to meet and talk, we'll play. There was one time, our 1st time doing full swap, it was the end of the evening when we met a couple. We played even though I hadn't had much time to chat with them.

I don't understand the difference either and hope we get a bit looser with that rule.

Male D

meandher2go
09-18-2005, 08:04 PM
first nite we met a couple we swapped and loved it. never looked back.

if it feels right, you know it. if you know its right, You will do it...:)

FunCoupleCnS
09-18-2005, 09:16 PM
if it feels right, you know it. if you know its right, You will do it...:)
I tend to agree w/ that. Myself, I think I'd know in a matter of minutes. The Mrs. will probably take a little longer to warm up to the situation, though. But like I said, the club atmosphere, add some booze, & who knows what could happen.... :rolleyes: .

Chicup
09-18-2005, 09:45 PM
I like the way you think, Chicup! facelick

We, however, are like two4younwva. At dances where we have some time to meet and talk, we'll play. There was one time, our 1st time doing full swap, it was the end of the evening when we met a couple. We played even though I hadn't had much time to chat with them.

I don't understand the difference either and hope we get a bit looser with that rule.

Male D

Well there is less ambiguity why people are at a club than if you do the drinks/dinner thing. That being said we found posers our last two trips to a club so who knows :sad: Also at a club there is none of that ‘want to go back to our place’ awkward moment.

If a couple states they don't play first date, thats fine with us too, but of all the 'first time no players' only once did we eventually play (and have been for the last 6 years :D )

playmatesinpgh
09-19-2005, 07:54 AM
We swapped on our first meet and had a great time with the other couple. ::P: :D Having said that, we have found that, for us, it is best if we just have a "date" with no play when meeting new couples through the internet. It takes away the awkwardness of the moment that always happens when it is time to decide what will happen next. If there is a second date, then it is playtime for sure and it almost always leads to a full swap. facelick facelick

Now, if we are at a club, it is a another story all together... :lol: We have at times only known the other couple/couples for a few minutes before we were all naked and playing, the sluts that we are!!! :lol: :kissface: facelick

michelle101
09-19-2005, 09:26 AM
Before Mr.101 and I had our first experience we agreed that we would definatly need to get to know a cpl before we would play with them. A few dinners/outings was what we had planned. "oh ya," We would say, "I can't have sex with someone I don't know." We were both in agreement.

Anyway long story, short. We met our first cpl, talked a cpl hours, had some drinks and full swapped without hesitation. We don't regret it one bit. At times since, I have occationally thought, We are the biggest sluts! Of course I have a smile :D on my face while I'm thinking about it, and can't wait for the next time. facelick

All rules subject to change. :kissface:

BradAndJanet
09-19-2005, 04:55 PM
When we first started, we thought we'd need to become friends first, but as we've moved along and experienced more things, we've dropped that thought. I have to agree with Chicup here. We might turn playmates into friends, but swinging is really about sex and having a good time without too many entanglements, at least for us.

-B

DltaCpl11
09-25-2005, 11:45 PM
Mrs. Alura and I had sex on our first date, so we may not be the best ones to ask. :)


Hubby and I had sex on our first date too!! So, I'll have to side with Mrs. Alura in that we might not be the best ones to ask, but why not...

:fun:

The first couple we actually hit if off with we didn't do anything on our first date. I think because it was our first time and we were unsure of what the first move should be, but I think if we had all known what we were all thinking we would have on our first date.

Our second date brought an awesome nite! There was a no intercourse rule, but we full on swapped partners and it was HOT!!

JustAskJulie
06-02-2008, 10:53 PM
So far all of our experiences have been at clubs and we have played on the first meet each of those times.

Texasfuncouple
06-02-2008, 11:47 PM
We never plan to play on the first date, as we feel it just puts up too much pressure and can make thngs akward.

We have, on the other hand, played on first dates before when the chemistry feels right. We find, for us, this works out well!

sweet_tna
06-03-2008, 12:15 AM
We'd known the couple who popped our swinger cherry for over three years, so there never really was a first date. But we have played with other couples on first meeting. For the most part, either you hit it off or you don't.

=)

nhcpl1968
06-03-2008, 06:27 AM
We have swapped on first meet but, prefer not to till we know the couple more

funcpl4life
06-03-2008, 06:57 AM
We'd known the couple who popped our swinger cherry for over three years, so there never really was a first date. But we have played with other couples on first meeting. For the most part, either you hit it off or you don't.

=)

Ditto for us. Is please for to get out of my head now. :)
Mr. FC4L

cplhere48612
06-03-2008, 09:13 AM
For us at times it all depends on how comfortable we feel after the 1st 10 mins an if :facelick:BOTH seem game for play as well as BOTH of us and then there are times where we just want to get playing by the first strangers that we connect with at that Function (which is very rare).

HedoBuckeyes
06-03-2008, 09:43 AM
After first meeting the couple a local restaurant, we set up a second date. It lasted all night long. That was our first and only time with full swap. Looking to finding that magic again.

two42lovers
06-03-2008, 10:04 AM
We almost always host and play on the first meeting. The only exceptions are people we choose not to play with at all. We do (most often) meet new people for a drink in a neutral place first, and always without expectations, but we tend not to meet people unless we feel there is a strong likelyhood we will all be compatible. Never know till you meet, but we try to choose carefully.

Biggest reason is most couples we've met live out of our area. (We live on the central coast of CA - very rural.) If you have to drive hours each way, it makes it less attractive to meet for a drink with the advance understanding there will be no play. (As it happens, the only couple we've agreed to meet on that basis, we never heard from again. -lol!) If someone is coming through, and can easily meet us at a nearby bar, great, but you can't realistically expect someone to make a long drive just to meet for a drink.

SAMnTINA
06-03-2008, 10:36 AM
Of course we do. We had sex on the first date, and may have only had a second date because we had to get out of bed long enough to get some food and go to class, otherwise we would of just kept going at it. LOL

Now if we just wanted frineds to hang out with we could go to the PTA social or hang out a the Kiwanis club. But since we are looking for people to have sex with why not find out if a second meeting is worth having by getting naked and having some fun. Besides how can you really know any one you have not done yet.

screaminggood
06-03-2008, 11:01 AM
We also had sex on our first date in college...and probably every other date after that...why do you think he feel in love with me?!

We started off in the lifestyle with me exploring my bi-side...so I played with women for several of our first trips to clubs. When we decided to expand to couples, we played the first time.

N&G
06-03-2008, 11:16 AM
We know within a few minutes whether we want to invite someone back to our house and have no problem playing on the first meet if everyone is comfortable. We can go to a hotel or house party and have sex with people that we have never met before so why should it be any different with a couple that we meet for drinks or coffee. We've also found that most of the time if we don't play on the first meeting we never play at all. After a month or so of trying to schedule a time when we are all available they disappear and are never heard from again. Of course maybe they never intend to play and just like to meet people.

good times
06-03-2008, 04:14 PM
We swapped on the first meet the first time we played.

We are in the camp of the people who believe you either have mutual attraction, or you don't. And if we are all mutually attracted, why wait.

For us, if we don't play on the first meet, we usually never will. Not always, but that is usually the case.

cplnuswing
06-03-2008, 04:45 PM
We swapped on the first face-to-face meet for our first time. But, because of the distance involved, we had done a lot of phone/chat before actually meeting in person. But, we've also swapped at the club with a couple we had just met.

We don't have a problem playing on the first date, nor are we adverse to getting to know them better first if that seems to be their preference and we enjoy their company. Time is limited for us though, so that usually isn't an option.

Malachista
06-03-2008, 05:39 PM
Yes, for the longer I wait and befriend people first, the more reculant am I to have sex with them - No matter how attracted I am to them

lookingfornow
06-03-2008, 05:53 PM
Our very first time we played on our second meeting. Since then, our view has change. We can tell very quickly if we are interested in playing. When we are interested, we like to play sooner rather than later.

Tia Vampire
06-03-2008, 07:26 PM
When we were new to it all, No!, we would not play on the first date. Now it does not matter. We will play on the first date if we feel that everyone is attracted to one another.

gatorvol64
06-03-2008, 09:29 PM
Yes, we played on our very first time out. And everytime afterwards but one. We live in a rural area I guess you could say. Travel time could have made a difference in this but I'm doubting it right now. Even the one time we waited until the second date, we would have on the first one.

Vol

Hot Raleigh Cpl
06-04-2008, 06:10 PM
YES! We pretty much agree with aspects raised by cplhere48612, two42lovers, N&G, good times, cplnuswing, Malachista, lookingfornow, and gatorvol64.

Basically, you've usually assessed potential playmates ahead of time, so you know you're likely to be compatible. You know withing minutes -- often seconds -- of meeting folks whether you want sex with them or not. And (let's face it) we're in this for sex. There are soooo many reasons to not wait.

BUT . . . it has to be something that works for all four and that all four want. If any one of you isn't interested, don't do it. If you all are, why wait?

If the vibes are right, we almost always play with folks the first time we get together with them. Usually, if it doesn't happen the first time, it never will. We don't require a long get-to-know-you session. It's about the vibes we all have with each other.

But that's what works for us. You should do what works for BOTH of you and for your playmates.

We hope you enjoy your first time as much as we did ours. We on the board will be every interested in hearing how it goes for you.

S and L, Hot Raleigh Cpl

LFM2
06-04-2008, 06:19 PM
We didn't. We were the noobs who had to go home and think about it for a while. Plus, it was in our "then" rules. :D

magnum
06-05-2008, 01:25 PM
I am a single guy, I meet a couple for the first time out for drinks, after we talked and had a couple drinks, the wife "liked" me so we went off and got a room and played...MFM...So it does happen.