If you didn't like the pictures, would you still meet?

[lauralee]

would you still meet?
We have found a couple online who seem totally cool & laid back & live relatively close to us.
The thing is hubby & I are both attracted to the female, but the male *ahem* leaves something to be desired
Part of me say 'no way!', but a bigger part of me knows how I can look bad in pictures sometimes; plus once you meet someone their personality shines thru & you get much more of a complete picture of the person.
So would you still meet even if you weren't attracted to the initial picture? They are a very laid back couple, just want to meet for drinks, no pressure or anything.

[bugaboos]

Lauralee,

We did this once, because the couple seemed great and you know what.. you're right about personality shining through. I consider this couple to be one of the cutest we know, physically and otherwise. I'm glad we took the opportunity to sit down and talk because both hubby and I were giddy after they left. I don't think there's any harm in getting together for drinks to see how everyone feels. Best of luck

[fun_pairTX]

Pics to us are only a means of identification, Lord knows I have cracked a lens or two..............

[SexhoundDog]

I agree with the others, lauraleee. If you feel there is no pressure from them in just wanting to meet for drinks, that's already a good sign.

Unless he's a total turnoff from the pics and you know that an in person meeting couldn't change that, take a chance. I'd guess that 75% of my pictures don't portray me as well either as I am in person.

[4Beauty2C]

We always like to have pics when it comes to swinging. We want to see whom we are talking too. We always ask that the pics are at least a year old because too many times we have been stuck with a few couples who send pics that show them five years younger and when in person the total opposite. That thrill on wanting to see them when that happens goes downhill.

[Alura]

We don't ask for pictures. Sometimes folks we've met on this board have sent them to us. When that happens, we usually send ours to them.

We'll have dinner, at least once, with any couple from this board. We don't do ads and visit no other swinger websites.

Mr. Alura

[yawanna]

If it's just drinks and no pressure...ya we'd go. At the very least, you may have a drink with a nice couple and maybe new friends to socialize with We meet new people all the time, usually at private parties lately, and we can talk and have fun and not do anything more with some, and do more with others. It's all good.

[biblonde]

I think personality can make a plain looking guy very very sexy. I like it if they can make me laugh. As for pic...not all guys or gals for that matter take good pics. My hubby hates his pics...although i think he is sexy as ever and all the ladies we have meet adore him. So if it is just drinks and no pressure to proceed...I would take um up on it!! You may just find that he is more appealing than ya think!! best of luck to you !!!

my 2 cents for the day!

[Elusive BiFem]

Like others...I would meet the people. I'd never put any stock in pictures unless those pictures left no doubt they were people I was not even remotely interested in. Lots of people are less than photogenic and really, personality counts for a great deal.

- EBF

[DandS]

Too funny...just had a conversation with the Mr about this very subject earlier today.

We recieved pics from a couple on SN today and based on the pics he didn't seem to be to interested in wanting to meet with them. I reminded him that we liked their profile, we need to be open minded, not everyone is photogenic (I'm certainly not).

Then I asked him to think about some of the couples we have met at the club and how much fun we have had with them....then think if he had only seen their photos without meeting them first would he have been interested? He laughed and realized that couples we had already met and are great people he would have turned down if he had just seen a photo.

So....to make a long story short....yes go meet them, get the complete picture and see if there is any chemistry between you...at least that's what we decided to do.

Mrs DandS

[tazzie_n_truck]

We would have to agree with the main sentiment here. Personality can really be a deterimining factor with us. We have been with some people who we personly don't find the most physically attractive, but their personalities made them very sexy to us.

They were not ugly looking that they made us sick by the sight of them by no means, but they were physically not what we find normaly attractive, but once we met them in person, we got a better picture of them especially through their personalities.

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[Elusive BiFem]

Good points, Mrs. DandS! Made me think of this...so many of us talk about the benefits of friendships, etc., so sometimes I don't understand why someone might not want to meet based only upon a picture. Like I said earlier...if it is someone that you are absolutely and totally unattracted to, or if you don't have time, that is one thing. But to base a meeting only upon a one dimensional (or is it two dimensional - I can't keep it straight) photo kind of seems to negate the idea of the lifestyle friendships we so frequently talk about.

I was lucky enough to find one of my best and dearest friends in the entire world after a MeetUp! Wrnakedru!

And Mr. and Mrs. Fun_Pair, too. The Aluras...OhioCouple, BradandJanet...RMRx2...all people that I feel I can count on and people I've grown to care about.

And no...none of these friendships were formed based on pictures and meetings with the intent to swing, but it is similar. We met just because of our common interest and have found lots of reasons besides swinging to remain friends.

Just thoughts....- EBF

[Vjklander]

And the opposite is also true, great pics don't necessarily mean a great date.

[b_and_sc]

have to go with the flow here...no pressure means at very least you might make some new friends...go to dinner and see what happens


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[SnSnLex]

Dito Like everyone says, meet them in person for drinks and/or dinner and see what you think then. First impressions on the computer, pics and/or IM's never let you really know how people are in any aspect. If you still feel the same way, let them know right then, no point in wasteing peoples time if you really aren't going any farther.

BTW... In pics my better half is an 8, I'm a 4, but in real life she's still an 8 but I'm a 6 Not everyone looks the same in pics with the way they crop, compress, and resize on sites.

Have fun
SnSnLex