Are we being approached to swing?

Maybe you have already done this......

But you guys ( you & hubby ) should also bring this subject up while in the bedroom playing. Talk about what it would be like for one another to watch each other with some one else in any combination ( except M on M, that would definately be a turn off )and see if it really fires you guys up!!

Thats how mrs naughty and I got into the whole idea. The bedroom talk about what we would like to see each other do sent us through the roof. The more we did this the more comfortable we got with actualy making it a reality. If either one of you find this kind of talk in the bedroom a turn off rather than a turn on I would suggest you stay away.

Just my opinion.


Oh, By the way,

I think they were DEFINATELY feeling you out!!

At least she was anyway.

[strings]

Interesting Thread! However, I have a slightly different take on the conversation so far.

You mentioned that your friend's husband was turned on when she had sex with other men. There is no mention so far of a suggestion that you swinging as a couple. We don't even know if her husband wants this.

Her 'confession' might also be construed as an overture to you that you OK her having it off with YOUR husband, with no reciprocation.

Had you thought about that as a possibility?

[Spoomonkey]

Can I just say that two women having a talk about intermarital sex in the restroom of a strip club is pretty much the culmination of every perverse dream I've ever had!



The world is a much better place because there are such incredibly sexual and liberated women in the world. I am lucky as hell to have found one of my own in Mrs Spoomonkey...

We went with maybe, leaning toward probably - and we have agreed with everything written so far - especially Mr Alura's posts. Miss Piggy made a great point - some people you tell because you are interested, some people you tell because you are about to bust if you don't. It isn't always motivated and it is quite possible that a strip club atmosphere just makes the conversation easier to have without there being much premeditation.

Consider yourself lucky that your husband respects you enough to let you have a significant say in the decision. Some folks can get pushy to the point of abusive about it. But one thing I'd like to point out - intermarital sex isn't about less love between you two - it is (and should be) about more. And there will always be a sliver of... I don't know... guilt, doubt, worry? that one of you is swinging just because the other one wants it. I still have it, even though I know it is foolish. I allow that to stay because I always want to be aware that my marriage is first. But as long as you guys are on the same page, and communicate almost TOO much about it all - then fantasy can be a wonderful reality!

I've enjoyed reading this thread! Good luck!

Spoomonkey

[imsnowman]

Mrs. IM came up with a different angle. Since the other couple thought that yall were already swingers she may have been looking for a woman's perspective on having one's husband playing with another woman. Not expressing interest in playing with yall particularly, just looking for advise on how to handle her feelings if her husband played with another woman.

It's also possible that since you two and the other couple have been friends for years she felt that perhaps she would feel more comfortable with you being with her husband rather than some "stranger".

These two points don't really change the advice the others have given you. Just makes it doubly important that you question the other woman diplomatically.

[Miss_Piggy]

WOW! Look at what we can do when we put our heads together.

Looks like we have come up with the following possibilities:

The woman is just telling you because...

... she's excited about swinging and wants to tell someone. She's not feeling you out.

... she thought you were a swinger and she thought you two might be able to give each other support and advise. She's not feeling you out.

... she was feeling you out because she wants to have sex with you and then tell her husband about it.

... she was feeling you out because she wants to hanve sex with your husband and then tell her husband about it.

... she was feeling you out because she wants you to have sex with her husband and then her husband can tell her about it.

... she was feeling you out becasue she and her husband want to swing with you and your husband.

Did I miss any? Surrender

The only way to know for sure is for you to feel out the other woman (figuratively speaking of course)


Good Luck

~Piggy

[imsnowman]

Originally posted by Miss_Piggy
WOW! Look at what we can do when we put our heads together.

SNIP
The only way to know for sure is for you to feel out the other woman (figuratively speaking of course)


Good Luck~Piggy

Brilliant!!!