Chatting with Couples Online

[WesternSwing]

I think my tone is quite the same whether I am chatting with a couple or just the one of them, unless it is just the male half of the couple, where the conversation seems to be more "guy" oriented stuff. But I wouldn't say anything to a wife alone that I wouldn't say to her with her husband present.

If I'm chatting with a single male that wants to meet us I do tend to be a little more direct though, maybe I get a bit protective.

I have noticed though that some do have a different tone to their chat depending on who they are talking with. A husband I have chatted with on and off with for a while IM'd me the other day and we chatted about common interests such as motorcycles. He was also IM'ing Mrs. WS at the same time, and since we work together we each know everything that is going on. With her he was much more about flirty and tease banter. I don't think he knew though that she tells me everything he said. It was kind of a turn-off for her because he was so different. It was like a double personality.

Mr. WS

[2jersey]

Originally Posted by Randies'

Mr. Randies' here. I can guess that;
1) As a rule MEN don't type as quickly as some women, o.k. I will admit that.

2) MEN DO NOT enjoy engaging in the sharing of feelings.

3) WOMEN DO enjoy sharing feelings. Women seem to feel that that this is the way to live life.

4) Men are problem solvers not feelings exploiters. Men are normaly more mater of fact than women.

Men are stimulated with the visual, we need it.

Have the Men chat with the Men and the WoMen chat with the WoMen and all feelings will be good.

We agree with Randies' views here - there are significant differences in the way males and females normally communicate. No need to elaborate.

When it comes to chatting online, we always arrange to have everyone present, males and females (we like to have a quick simultaneous phone call just to keep everyone honest). If the other couple desires, we will let the women chat privately (by phone) - but we have found that the couples who insist on this arrangement tend to focused on female bisexual play - so it has become a yellow flag for us.

Mrs 2j communicates with enough males in her business life that she understands and respects the differences in the way men interact, and she doesn't judge men harshly for being more concise and goal oriented.