instant turn-offs when meeting new people

[2newbies]

what are some of the things that drive you crazy when you meet other swingers? things you don't like that they may do, say, look like, etc....


want to make sure i don't do them...lol.

k and g

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[JustAskJulie]

I'm sure the answer to this question is going to vary from person to person. Something that might annoy me might not bother the next person at all.

Some basics that I can think of that might bother me with someone that I don't know at all:

Too much physical contact too soon. Constantly putting their hands on me (even if it's just my arm or shoulders). Maintain some personal space.

Non-stop talking. I think this is a nervous habit for many people. They are nervous and feel that the silence isn't golden so they feel the need to constantly find something to talk about, often putting their feet in their mouth becuase they aren't thinking about what they are saying.

Just be natural, be yourselves. When it comes down to that's the best thing you can do. You can't fake being yourselves and if you start off being yourselves it will stick. Rather than trying to pretend initially for them to later find out that wasn't the real you.

[biblonde]

H'mmmmmm

Turn offs....Well I get real tired of meeting couples where the guy thinks on the first meeting he can walk up and plant a huge kiss on my lips!!! And i dont like loud women..those that look like "ladies" in the pics then open their mouths and it is all about them!! Annoying!

And if you are in a resturaunt i dont like discussing this lifestyle and who who have been with were everyone around can hear!! I dont think everyone needs to know about why we are meeting and how many couples we have been with and what we did with them.

I prefere someone to be themselves...dont try to impress us....act as though we are friends getting together for dinner. Relax and enjoy yourself. No one bites! LOL (well maybe a little..he he he)

my 2 cents for the day....s

[NorCal Nites]

Our big gripe:

People that taste like an ashtray! NASTY!!!

We KNOW you're addicted to nicotine, but freaking lay off! We don't want to taste NOR smell like you when you just cannot stop going outside.

It's such a cop-out, too... smokers will use the excuse "I'm stressed" or "I'm relaxed". MAKE UP YOUR MIND! Which are you?

YUCKY YUCKY YUCKY, just don't do it when swinging with non-smokers or when attending events. It's NASTY!

[hmr]

Finding out the people can type better than they can talk! Please be halfway intellegent, and able to carry on a decent conversation!

Boisterous loud mouths, and know it alls really get under my skin. People who smile and come across as a fake ('ya know what I mean?). Just try to act natural, no false airs.

People who try to move to fast, pushy... let's take a little time here folks...we have all night, or the next time! Especially if this is a first time meeting, never talked before type thing!!!

If it is someone we have already met and set up a date with, it really annoys me when someone talks constantly during sex! It really really annoys me if someone trys to tell ME what to do while having sex. Trying to give me orders while I'm concentrating on the ectasy taking place inside my body. Real turn off!! Just shut up and let it happen!

mrs hmr

[OhioCouple]

Originally posted by biblonde

And if you are in a resturaunt i dont like discussing this lifestyle and who who have been with were everyone around can hear!! I dont think everyone needs to know about why we are meeting and how many couples we have been with and what we did with them.

This is probably my biggest pet peeve. Back when we were meeting with couples from our Ad site...OMGoodness, the vast majority of the number of couples that we met with wanted to discuss the lifestyle at what seemed liked 'intercom' levels. I constantly felt like we were being watched.

The over dousing of cologne. We met with one couple who had two conflicting scents on and my eyes watered the entire time. I actually kept having to leave the table to get fresh air.

Anyone who tries to physically invade my personal body space on the first meet. One guy actually slipped out of his shoes and attempted to 'toe' me beneath the table in the restaurant we were in. All the while giving me this googlie eyed up and down raised eyebrow look which seemed to be saying "Does that feel good?" I was totally freaked, excused myself to go tot he 'comfort' room and when I returned I had Mr. O sit directly across from the male. Had we not already ordered dinner, we would have left immediately.

Those that purposely attempt to engage me in sexual fantasy talk via IM's when Mr. O is not around and they know it. I find that disrespectful to say the least.

Hmmmm....thinking. I'm sure I'll come up with more.

[Elusive BiFem]

I think my biggest irritation and turn off is meeting people who look like they have just come in from working in the yard or something. Ok, we all look like crap from time to time. For all of you November in Tulsa people...I guarantee you would not even recognize me many evenings when I walk the dogs! Some days I have to even wait until after dark to take them.

BUT! When I'm meeting people for the first time, I always try to make a nice impression. And that goes for all situations. Come on...take a bath, shampoo your hair, wear clean clothes, a little make-up. Not that difficult, is it? And dirty fingernails? Yuck!

And I'm like Mrs. O in the department of talking. Tho' we may be meeting to discuss swinging, it isn't necessary that everyone in the restaurant know the subject at hand. Show a little decorum and class.

And Mrs. O...as for some man taking off his shoes and trying to play with me under the table...I suspect I would have done more than excuse myself to go to the comfort room and swap places with Mr. O. More likely, Mr. O would be following me out of the restaurant...IF he wanted to go home with me.

- EBF

[fredandwilma200]

Just curious if anyone has any big turn off's? Ours are
1. Anyone that will send a photo with them and a child.
2. Anyone that thinks they will leave us a message and we are going to meet and get it on that night....(we want to learn about people first.)
3. Single men that think because you are willing to meet "select single males" it is them that will be the "perfect one".
4. this is the biggest to me even though my husband says dont worry about it.....this statement.
(Im more man than you can handle, no reason for your husband to join, we can have our own fun) Give me a break...
Looked like the board needed something to chat about so figured I would add something that is close to home!

[Spoomonkey]

1. Tranquilzer darts
2. peepel woo cant speel or axe, "How R U Doin?"
3. Folks who want to e-mail for weeks and then get offended when you bring up the topic of (gulp!) swinging
4. Single men who are "very oral" - I mean, what the hell does that mean, exactly? Does that mean they talk too much or do they reallt think they are literal tongue gods?
5. Couples where the wife is "still trying to figure out how she feels about all this, but says it's okay for me to swing without her."
6. Girls who think they are prettier than I do
7. People who take the pool table WAY too seriously
8. Dian Fossey
9. People who ask "what do you want me to do now?" more than twice
10. Folks who don't understand why we don't want to "meet halfway" when halfway is still nearly 100 miles away.

Spoomonkey

[Mrs Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by Spoomonkey

9. People who ask "what do you want me to do now?" more than twice
Spoomonkey

In addition to that we were once with a couple where the female kept asking me what Mr Spoo liked . . . Hmmmm, let me see, "He likes to cum!"

If we wanted exactly what we get from each other then why would we be swinging and having sex with other people? Could it be to experience new things, new techniques, new sensations?!! :rollseyes Just do what you do best and everyone will have fun.

Mrs Spoomonkey

[fun_pairTX]

This is relatively easy

1. Liars, either by deception or omission.
2. Humorless people.
3. People that take themselves too seriously.
4. Husbands that speak for their wives and vice versa. If I ask someone a question in the course of conversation I want to see THEIR lips move when I hear the reply.

[BradAndJanet]

1. Cheaters
2. Arrogant people who are full of themselves
3. Bigots
4. Obnoxious drunks
5. People who don't ever smile
5. John Ashcroft

Hey Spoo, what'cha got against Ms. Fossey? She turn down your offer for some Jungle Lovin'?

-B

[Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by BradAndJanet

Hey Spoo, what'cha got against Ms. Fossey? She turn down your offer for some Jungle Lovin'?

Actually, she was the one with the tranquilzer darts...

Ever wake up in a bed of you own filth, smelling of some Liz Taylor perfume and insect repellent - your fur is sticky and your boxers are on backwards? Then to see your picture published in a book - and she has the audacity to call it "research"... Yeah - right... If you can call being topless, wearing leather chaps and a kid size cowboy hat while spanking the Spoomonkey "research" - then I guess you can pretty much get away with anything...

Spoomonkey

[BodyScape02]

ROLF!!!! You all kill me!!!! LOL