Not sure how to ask guys for MFM

[itbus69]

New couple here from Tn. we are looking for the right place to be into mfm
not sure how to meet guys we have picked out but lost are nerve to ask guys around are house so far i love this board

[Tybee Swing]

It's very easy to find a man to join you for a MFM threesome. All you need to do is place a profile on an adult site, and you'll get all kinds of men writing to you, including locally. You'll be amazed how many guys are looking to get with a couple. You can be as choosy as you want.

A lot of people here use SwingLifestyle.com, and like it. We like and use Swappernet.com, and we're also currently using AdultFriendFinder.com. Are you familiar with these types of sites? Good luck!!

[ohash01]

Finding single men is definately NOT a problem. Like tybee said. Just post a profile and in the subject put "Looking for a single man". And you will get BOMBARDED. There's a ton of them.

And another good thing is you can choose the one that's perfect for you. There is sure to be atleast one out of the 50 that will probably be perfect.

[itbus69]

We did the adult web site thing but got some off the wall reply and did not seem real will look at some others

Thanks

[riswingcpl]

Originally Posted by itbus69

We did the adult web site thing but got some off the wall reply and did not seem real will look at some others

Thanks

Be patient and give it some time. You will get a ton of responses, with all different varieties...good, bad, smart, stupid, classy, classless, clueless...you'll see them all. Take your time, sort through them, and pick a couple that look best and write back to them.

You could also be more pro-active and write to a guy who's profile you find and like. There aren't a lot of single guys who wouldn't be receptive to a couple contacting them.

Above all...be choosy, figure out exactly what you want in a guy and don't settle for less.

M

[ViSexual]

It sounds like you're really wanting to find someone near your home, that maybe you already know, right?

And that can be tricky but it's not impossible.

First, make sure you trust him totally. Ask youself, "Would I confide in him about something, very important, nonsexual"?

Then, let the wife flirt just a little with him. If he's married make sure it's always when he's not with his wife.

Then the husband talks about his wife with the man. Nothing blatently obvious but just how cute she is, how flirtatious she is, and how much the husband enjoys her.

It'll take it's own course by this time or you'll know he isn't who you're looking for.

Good luck and have a ball!

Rich

[Tybee Swing]

Originally Posted by itbus69

We did the adult web site thing but got some off the wall reply and did not seem real will look at some others

Thanks

Don't worry, that's to be expected. Just delete or ignore the freaky, rude, crude responses to your profile. There will be many, just expect that. You have to pull a lot of weeds to find the flowers. We've communicated with and met many really GREAT single guys who are sexy, fun, smart and classy. Keep looking.

Personally, and I'm sorry to be so objecting, but I strongly disagree with Vi (Rich's) advice about flirting up a married man you know when his wife isn't around. 99.9% of the time, he'll be misinterpreting this as thinking you're trying to screw around behind your spouse's back. It won't be interpreted as swinging, but rather cheating. Also, most swingers don't pull in a married man for MFM and especially not behind his wife's back....least of all from their own friends & acquaintences!!! It can be risky trying to seduce your own friends, neighbors, co-workers, etc. It could backfire, and has the potential to get weird and uncomfortable. Sometimes, it can even be disastrous. Yes, sometimes it can work, but it has risks, too.

Going the route of personal ads, you can be sure of one thing right away...the person you're making contact with is very interested in MFM, and isn't offended at your invitation. They'll understand about discretion, and if you share your boundaries, they're likely to understand that, too. Chat with guys to get to know their personality, and talk about your likes/dislikes. I'm sure you'll find what you're looking for.

[singleagain]

I attend a club with my new girlfriend. We have a simple rule. If someone hits on either one of us when the other is not present we tell the person hiting on us that we would like for them to meet our significant other. If they go for it its usually cool. If not, its bye...not good bye...just bye. Now if you want to find out if I can swing with you ask her...not me. And if you want to swing with her ask me. All will be cool...how do you ask? Here's the best way to get either of us to talk:

"Hi my name is_________ (you fill in the blank). You folks look really hot to me/us and if you feel the same way then lets talk about it and any thing else that will give all of us a comfort level and create chemistry."

Unless you are spug ugly or have rotten teeth or are "cheating" on your spouse/friend that two sentence statement is guaranteed to get a favorable response. We don't care about body weight or "average vs great" looks. We like to know if you are intelligent, witty, sensous and willing. After all, its swinging, not a lifetime committment. Loosen up, have fun, enjoy life. There are a lot of couples where the female is just like my girlfriend who want me to have just as great times as she does. If she likes you she just might share me with you.

I have found that the majority of swinging couples respond well to us and when I go to a club by myself that lets single guys in I always find that the people I have met there welcome me with open arms, thighs, and other parts of the anatomy that are fun. She has the same experiences when she is by herself.

[nmgrrrl]

we have in fact found our 'third' online. i contacted him and we talked and then he & nmturfman started chatting. then came the coffe thing. now,we have made a good friend and very soon, when we twist the sheets, he wont be a complete stranger.

[intuition897]

Originally Posted by ViSexual

Then, let the wife flirt just a little with him. If he's married make sure it's always when he's not with his wife.

Rich

OMG. Do you have a death wish? http://www.swingersboard.com/forums/...achmentid=1037

You know what they say about a woman scorned. And men react physically and sometimes people end up dead because of it. We got into swinging to get away from this kind of insanity. It defeats the purpose when we stick our noses in somebody else's pile of bullshit.

I would advise against seeking play partners locally, especially avoiding work, church, neighbours, etc. Screwing up a swinging relationship with someone otherwise involved in your life can cause you some SERIOUS problems, and we find that it's just not worth the risk. But then that's just us.

As weedy as it is, I'd still recommend online ads/sites. Just look for sanity. It's rare, but it does exist. Good luck!

[bigjoehd]

Originally Posted by itbus69

We did the adult web site thing but got some off the wall reply and did not seem real will look at some others

Thanks

Yup,you will get tons of off the wall responses & even some that are sickeningly filthy but there are real people out there & you will find the right one,just keep looking.

The thing to remember about adult web sites is that most members are people who are bored or just fooling around with no intention of ever meeting anybody,we only talk to members who pay for their membership,no standard members,a person or couple who is willing to lay out some cash for a real membership is more apt to be serious,the same applies to couples who are looking for a 3rd party to join them.

[kandlestick]

hello all making this very short ,, looking forward to making new friends i.m very honest and i think that ie very important in this lifestyle.

[itbus69]

Thanks for the help we are using SwingLifestyle.com, and finding some nice guys/couples

[lil devil 37]

Hi..I agree with everything that was said by everyone..like they say, "It's a crazy world, and that's what makes it go round." I can not offer anything different other then my services..I live in San Antonio, Tx. and if you should ever visit here, you can be sure of a very discreet and enjoyable time..Would love to meet/meat you..

[KenRachel]

I generally agree with vi, except for the not flirting around the wife thing. If she isn't comfortable with the 2 of you flirting, she is not going to be comfortable with more.

We haven't tried a MFM with a man from a couple, only singles. You have to take the initiative some, but it isn't that hard once you get your courage up. If you trust him to keep quiet (and you should if you're doing this), just drop a hint.

I guess it was a bit easier for me because I had a bit of a wild past. My first time it was with someone that I had know for a long while and was close with. Shading the conversation closer to sex wasn't abnormal. Some flirting got things going more. Once he was good and excited, no problem popping the question and getting agreement.

Rachel