How does a guy know when women are interested?

[LOL_OMG]

Hi Tybees! In my observations, some people are more aggressive than others...I'm a flirt and have actually been out-flirted by a few men at times. On the other hand, I've actually given someone a lap dance and they started watching the big screen...so I sat down

Mrs LOL

[Tybee Swing]

Originally Posted by LOL_OMG

On the other hand, I've actually given someone a lap dance and they started watching the big screen...so I sat down

Mrs LOL

OMG! Did you check that man for a pulse? I can guarantee that Mr. T.S. would not have missed your "clue"!

Mrs. T.S.

[LOL_OMG]

Well actually I asked Mr LOL if I was doing something wrong or looking stupid, he was sitting right there (next to this guys wife) and he said no, it was HOT. So, I dunno....maybe I'm just not his type.

[robel12550]

If someone's keep a scorecard, you can push another peg over for the "bag of hammers" here. Apparently I've (Rob) been checked out (primarily in my youth) more than I knew and things really haven't changed too much. Never thought much about it most of the time. And when it does happen, it's like, "What's wrong with that lady?" Had one gal rubbing her hand up and down my leg once before thinking of the "swinging" lifestyle (and probably more than anything, without my wife being around) and the only thing I was thinking of is "Where's my wallet?"

There was one gal at work once who my wife thought was after me since when I introduced them once, the lady at work supposedly gave my wife a "If looks could kill" glance. (Mr. Oblivious here was looking somewhere else.) But my wife kept saying that she was really interested in me. Well when circumstances occurred that the division in the company was being phased out and we were moving on to the next steps in our lives, I asked the lady in somewhat a sensitive manner whether our relationship was anything other than business, which she denied. (Of course.) But she would always take me out to dinners when we had to work late and asked me to help her shop and drag me out to clubs, whatever. (Ah, the good old days!) It might have been that she felt that was the closest she could get to me because I was married. Whatever. It was just weird somewhat. Now she doesn't return my phone calls or emails on her birthday like she use to so maybe it really was just "work". lol

So label me "clueless". And I'm not even blonde. (Can't wait to read the flames on that one. LOL)

[2jersey]

In a separate post, we related our experience as a couple, several years ago at a Jamican resort (not Hedo, but in close proximity). Two couples in the nude hot tub kept inviting us to join them back to their hotelr room. We had never swung and didn't catch on to the possibilities. We innocently expressed our view that there was no need to be holed up in a hotel room when we could enjoy the wonderful weather and ambiance. We were dense at the time.

On the subject of male density - Mr 2jersey was grocery shopping recently and had an attractive young lady lurking around him in the breakfast cereal aisle. There are about a million cereals to choose from. The woman said, point blank - "You tell me what you're looking for and I'll tell you what I'm looking for, and maybe we can help each other." Alas, she may have been talking about the cereal, but who knows? - Therein lies the dilemma.

[EvilMJ]

Okay I fell into that 'Bag of Hammers' catagory today.

I was busy at work, sorting out the plants for a particular job we were doing, when one of our competetors came along, picking up some stock off the truck that was delivering to me.

I told him that they couldn't block the driveway as one of our guys was waiting to pull in. He was very nice and promised to be no more than five minutes. I told him that was all he had before I had to beat him up.

Next thing i know he gets close to me and asks me to share why I am stressed today and we could compare our horror stories. All smiles, all touchy feely.

Then when they are done, he comes back over and gets close to me again and asks all sweetly.."you really weren' t going to get physical with me were you?". I laugh at him adn then he asks my name so he can call and report me. So I give him my name and tell him to go ahead they already know what I am like. He all smiles and chatty, while it is apparent the guys with him just want to get moving to the job site.

So he gives me another smile and uses my name and tells me to have a good day..etc.

Okay, I was in the middle of a crisis then, it wasn't until about half an hour after I thought back and thought, that guy was really sexy.....Wait...that guy was HITTING on me!

How the heck did I miss that one!

See women can bet thick headed too.

[TeamSoBe]

Guys here reading this: have you ever gone too far with being too aggressive with a woman and regretted it?

I'm also shy and overly-respectful and I have trouble realizing when a girl is waving landing lights at me. Lately I have been doing a few specific aggressive things that I have always been uncomfortable with, and the big surprise is that not a single woman has yet responded in any of the negative ways that I was always afraid of. My theory is that until that happens I'm still on the overcautious side.

I'm talking about simple little signals that people give off, I try to give them off when my body wants even when I'm not sure if it feels 'right' to my fine upstanding breeding and gentelmanly charm. Like if I see a woman at the grocery store who I think is hot and who is dressed to attract attention then I'll just let myself stare at her for a few seconds longer than I think is polite. Little teeny things like that. What do you know they never seem to mind, and when they notice me and interact back without acting uncomfortable that I was just checking them out from head to toe, well then I'm thinking that I'm going to start taking that as a signal.

Guys who have been too aggressive before and realized it after the fact: was it in a swinging context? It seems like in a swinging context there's virtually nothing that I can do that women take as being too forward. Which, [light bulb] is the whole point of hanging out with easy people isn't it?