Think my roommates want to swing with me, not sure how to find out

[eager4more]

Originally Posted by sensuality

I do have to say that it would seem to me in order to maintain some kind of self-respect...don't boink someone in the arse just to get a piece of that girl's pie...so to speak.Sounds to me like someone is trying to see how much of a fool you are willing to be for this girl. :rollseyes

I did not read arse-boinking-just-to-get-some-pie anywhere in what Dr. Digital wrote...

And I agree completely with Confunktion's last post. Dito

BTW what are "Koopa-Troopas"?

[Miss_Piggy]

Originally Posted by eager4more

BTW what are "Koopa-Troopas"?

They're from Mario Brothers for Nintendo. I'm pretty sure they are the bad guys who look like little walking mushrooms... or are those goombas? I guess they must be the other bad guys who look like chickens with turtle shells on their backs... it's been a while.

[DrDigital]

Well, quick update. It was just me and the girl in the house today, and I told her pretty much everything. My reasoning, etc etc. She is for it. I told her why I was at this site (since she saw it in my history) and then went from there..worked out well. I guess the day we were in the snow fort and she said "So lets go inside and have a threesome" she was semi serious, is what she told me. Basically she said that she said that to see what HE would say, because she already knew how I felt. She says she HAS discussed it somewhat with him, but hasn't mentioned MY views on it yet. She says she kind of shares the same reasoning as me. A learning experience? Me getting to know the guy better as a friend, and her as well. So, she says the 3 of us should talk today. Still waiting for him to get home from school. This could be interesting...

Whew.. Butterflies in my tummy..but whatever. That MUST be natural.

[Miss_Piggy]

Wow!

(To tell he truth I hadn't actually read this whole thread when I made my above post - I promise I have now )

I know you're really excited and interested in the prospect of venturing onto something new here. Do think about the remification of what you're planning. Once you jump into bed with these friends you can't take it back. You probably feel like you've got a pretty good head on your shoulders and you can handle your emotions pretty well - and maybe you can. AND, even if you can, you can't control the reaction of your friends. You have to decide if it's really worth the risk. Once you've had the threesome will you expect to be able to do it again? Will you be able te revert to a nonsexual relationship? I think this is important to consider as these are good friends of yours who live with you.

I'm not saying it's a bad idea - or a good idea. Just that you really should think about the consequences. However, from the sound of it, you've done as much thinking as you are willing to do and you're at the point where you want to do this no matter what I post here So, I'll just say good luck to you and keep us posted. On the positive side: threesomes are fun, you're taking the right approach of open communication, you've got a really good resource here on the board to help you out if you get confused.

Have fun.

Piggy

[Miss_Piggy]

Originally Posted by Miss_Piggy

They're from Mario Brothers for Nintendo. I'm pretty sure they are the bad guys who look like little walking mushrooms... or are those goombas? I guess they must be the other bad guys who look like chickens with turtle shells on their backs... it's been a while.

Okay, this was bugging me as I couldn't remember. So I found a picture. They are the chicken/turtle things!!!

[DrDigital]

Yeah i've definitely thought of the ramifications, but I know them pretty well, and if anything happens I think it'll be fine afterwards, even if it turns out to be wierd for us. We'll most likely just laugh about it after if it was wierd, and decide to not do it again. We've still got to discuss it, but we planned to tonight. So we'll see.

[corkwan]

i'm not sure if you've checked out this website, but it may be more relevant given your existing love for your room mates:

http://www.sexuality.org/polyamor.html

i hope everything goes well for you. do remember to respect their relationship.

i think there is a bit of a blur between swinging and polyamory. it seems most of the threads involving heart-ache on these boards are because someone crossed the line of 'emotional monogamy'... i see this line as a little hard to spot. but if you can define your relationship with them clearly, and aren't greedy, perhaps you can see where the line is.

[eager4more]

Originally Posted by Miss_Piggy

Okay, this was bugging me as I couldn't remember. So I found a picture. They are the chicken/turtle things!!!

Thanks! from the-Video-Game-Challenged

Dr. Digital - what happened last night?!

[DrDigital]

Haha nothing happened. We haven't discussed it yet. We're planning to though. We'll see what happens. I'll definitely tell you if anything happens.

[DrDigital]

Well. It's been... looks like about a year now since I originally made this post. Nothing ended up between the 3 of us. We're still good friends though. The house we lived in back then is no longer ours. I now live in an apartment with my friend, and the couple who I am good friends with live in an apartment about 5 minutes from my own. For a good long while our schedules had been very wierd, making it hard for us all to do much together. I had been away from the internet for a while too. Recently, I just started a new job, as did my 2 friends. Our schedules are great, and we now hang out every day, just the 3 of us usually. So, we're all hangin out the other night, me and the guy putting back a few beers and just chillin. Eventually the girl puts some music on with her computer and we start all singing it. Was a good time, anyhow. Then yesterday, it's just me and the girl hanging out before a movie and a get together with some people. When we're on our way out the door, she's gathering her things and she goes "You know... me and (boyfriend) were talking about how when the 3 of us were singing the other night it really sounded good and we should have a threeway." So I blink and look over and i'm like "Oh? A threeway?" and shes like "Yeah, you know." So I say "oh, you mean like one of those acapella groups where its 3 or however many people doing vocals." She laughed. I'm pretty sure they want to have a 3-way. She usually doesn't bring up things that happen (like the singing thing) and talk about them like that. Seemed like an invitation to see how I would respond. I mulled it over when we were in the car and just casually was like "Hmm.. That's a pretty good idea though.. starting a threeway group. I have microphones and everything. We could put out a demo tape." you know... Just kind of trying to make it clear that i'm ok with the idea. She laughed a bit and the night went on. Gonna meet up with them tonight and hang for a bit. I guess i'm still a little dumb, as I don't know if I can tell if they want to talk about it, or what signs I should be looking for, or what signs I should GIVE, if any.

[SweetTXCouple]

I would recommend you put away the shrooms for a little while so you all can think clearly. I couldnt even follow your post very well and I am COMPLETELY SOBER. By the way hows things in Portland? Hubby and I are originally from Bangor. Hope you get things figured out soon.

[lovedoctor]

Originally Posted by DrDigital

It's had no long term ramifications. ...I practice being very safe and making sure everyone else is very safe.

You're not being rude, just naieve.

I would have you ask the kid who did them and ended up on the transplant list, but unfortunately, he died before he could get a new liver.

Happens all the time. In Behavioral Psych courses the feeling that youths have that they are safe while doing something innately dangerous is a combination of intellectulization and a phenomenum called "personal fantasy."

Enjoy sex safely. But stop the drugs.

[MoonLightKiss]

Originally Posted by DrDigital
It's had no long term ramifications. ...I practice being very safe and making sure everyone else is very safe.

Mhmmm...Well here's my $.02 worth, and an apology ahead of time if I offend anyone.

I believe it was in August of 1995 when I woke up in a house belonging to someone I did not know, with people I don't remember ever seeing, and no idea how I got there. Why, you may ask? I was higher than a 747 plane. Coke was my drug of choice. Never got a taste for shit that makes you see stuff that isn't there and I personally hate needles. I walked out of the house, and had no idea what town I was even in. I weighed in at a grand total of nearly 80 pounds. Which was about 30 pounds too little. It was then I realized I hit bottom. And all the little statements of "I control it, not letting it control me, and It doesn't have any long term ramifications..." I realized was a bunch of BS.

I signed into rehab. Cleaned up and have been clean since. And yet there are long term ramifications. It is a battle. I fight it daily. My husband who loves me doesn't understand how hard I have to fight to stay clean. I realize it may get easier but it never goes away. No long term ramifications?

Three years ago, I was sent in for extensive testing on my heart. Luckily it was severe anxiety. But I learned from my doctor, that cocaine weakens heart muscles, and that any time something like this happened, I needed to see him. I could be looking at a heart attack at 40 for something I did at 15. No long term ramifications?

I have to tell each and every doctor that treats me I cannot receive any narcotics, at all, for fear of relapsing. Which means if me and a friend are injured in a car accident, they can have morphine, I can't. It can cause a severe relapse. So I get to sit there in pain. No long term ramifications?

So, if you want to fool yourself into thinking that its "safe" to use, go ahead. In fact, do whatever it is that makes you feel good today. But everyone must grow up one day. I just hope you have no regrets or "long term ramifications" like everyone else I have seen that used.

Okay, off my soap box now, thanks for letting me vent that one out.