How do you ask people to play?

[Southern Lady]

Where do most of you meet a couple on the first date? For dinner, coffee, a bar ? We have a couple that want to meet us but I want it to be fun, so we don't have the awkward lulls in meeting. We to have a busy schedule but don't want to be pushed into performing.

[djjwp]

Somewhere you can talk that is not crowded with people who may overhear your conversation. We like restaurants with bars as we can eat and then get drinks if interested and want to talk more. If not interested, we just "have to relieve the sitter" and go.

[MrSnozzberryBlu]

All the posts you have gotten so far are great!

First of all, establish whether or not you and your partner feel a connection and attraction to the new couple. My wife and I have a signal..one leg squeeze for "I really like them" and two squeezes for "We're out of here" LOL

We have a general rule to not swing on the first date, but have ignored it if the chemistry is right.

The way we have always approached play with a new couple is to ask questions like "We really feel like we are clicking with you...how about you?"
Once that is established...then you can move on to..."Are you interested in getting together tonight?" But you definitely don't want the other couple to feel pressured, so wording it in a way that lets them know it is only a query is best. No hurt feelings, no obligation, no expectations.

Just make sure that all involved feel comfortable about any decisions to play or not.