Letting them know we are interested

[CuteCouple2004]

Just wanted to post a note to introduce myself (speaking of which, this is the female half of CuteCouple writing). My fiance and I have been talking about swapping with another couple for a while now and we're both very turned on by the idea and can't wait to do it, to be honest. Going to a swing club intimidates us at this point, but there is a certain couple we are friends with and we're very interested in (and yes, they are definitely full-fledged swingers) We're not close friends, but I email the male half of the couple once in a while (not often...just once every few months at the most) and we're on a friendly basis with one another. We've met them once in real-life at a party, but we've known them for about 5 years or so (both my fiance and I and this couple have our own amateur porn websites, so that is how we know each other). I have a huge crush on both halves of the couple and my fiance has always liked the female half of the couple.

My questions for you guys is this....how do I let this couple know that we are interested in them? I'm totally unsure of the proper etiquette for a situation like this and I don't want to make myself look like a moron, lol. My fiance and I are a little bit on the shy side (yes I have a website with my naked body on it, but in real life I'm a little bit shy) and are just a little unsure of how to proceed. We would really like for this to happen. A few years ago, we sorta joked about it with the other couple and got the impression that they were interested in us too...but that was a while ago and we haven't mentioned it since. Any suggestions?

Thanks!
CC

(both my fiance and I and this couple have our own amateur porn websites, so that is how we know each other).

My questions for you guys is this....how do I let this couple know that we are interested in them? I'm totally unsure of the proper etiquette for a situation like this and I don't want to make myself look like a moron, lol.

My answer to your question lies in the first quote I put in this post.

They are abviuosly open people.

Ask them if they want to be in an amateur video with the two of you.

Oh Yeah,

Welcome to the board!!

[CuteCouple2004]

Originally Posted by Mr&Mrs-naughty

My answer to your question lies in the first quote I put in this post.

They are abviuosly open people.

Ask them if they want to be in an amateur video with the two of you.

Yes, that is the obvious thing...but we sorta wanted our first time to be private, since we're a little nervous and we already share so much of ourselves with other people (I'm not sure if that makes sense, but I hope so!). Down the line, we would be totally open to taking pics/vids, but for the first time, we're not so sure.

Invite them out (or over) for dinner.
Since you have so much in common the subject should come up pretty easily.
You mentioned the subject sort of came up before & they seemed interested. Take the first step. If they are not interested then there isnt much lost since you guys are not all that close anyway.

Just my thoughts.

[JustAskJulie]

I used to have my own site so I think I know what you are getting at. Sometimes you get the feeling that others (and some think this of you) share everything online. That the only time they play is when the camera is on. I get the feeling that you are worried that if you ask this couple to play they will expect it to be on camera?

Oddly, the above is one of the things that pushed me out of that side of the business as I was encountering more and people who really did get to that point, and I didn't want to go there.

SO what do you do? You simply talk to them and ask if they'd be open for a camera-FREE night of erotic fun and see what they say. If they push to have cameras there and only seem to want to go in that direction then you know. Hopefully, though, they will be more than happy to enjoy such an evening with you.

[CuteCouple2004]

Originally Posted by Mr&Mrs-naughty

Invite them out (or over) for dinner.
Since you have so much in common the subject should come up pretty easily.
You mentioned the subject sort of came up before & they seemed interested. Take the first step. If they are not interested then there isnt much lost since you guys are not all that close anyway.

Just my thoughts.

Thanks for the reply We're all going to be in the same city in a few months, so maybe we could work something out then. Do you think asking about things like this in email is too impersonal, or should we just wait to see them in person again?

[CuteCouple2004]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

I get the feeling that you are worried that if you ask this couple to play they will expect it to be on camera?

Julie, you hit the nail on the head....thanks for understanding Do you think we should wait to talk to them about this in person? Or do you think it's ok to try to 'feel things out' via email?

[CuteCouple2004]

I forgot to mention....when we see them in person, it is at a very hectic event (I'm sure you know what I'm talking about Julie, lol....vegas in january...need I say more? lol), so I'm worried everyone will just be too busy then and that is why I'm thinking it would be smart to try to talk via email first.

[JustAskJulie]

Originally Posted by CuteCouple2004

Thanks for the reply We're all going to be in the same city in a few months, so maybe we could work something out then. Do you think asking about things like this in email is too impersonal, or should we just wait to see them in person again?

If the "same city" thing is for Internext or the like, that is probably a really bad time to "plan" for something like this to happen. Typically those who do shoots with others (and I'm guessing they do) are doing just that practically sun up to sun down (or is it the ohter way around - whenever they are awake anyway). Any non-camera activity (and it does happen) is typically the spur of the moment post-party type thing. So while you could get what you want, chances are it won't be because you planned for it. And even if they were willing to try to plan for it, it's very likely the plans would fall through and you'd be dissapointed.

If the "same city" thing is something completely different you may have a chance tho.

As for the email, I don't think it's too impersonal, but if you do talk on the phone with them and have a chance to bring it up, I'd go that route.

How far apart do you live?

[CuteCouple2004]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

If the "same city" thing is for Internext or the like, that is probably a really bad time to "plan" for something like this to happen. Typically those who do shoots with others (and I'm guessing they do) are doing just that practically sun up to sun down (or is it the ohter way around - whenever they are awake anyway). Any non-camera activity (and it does happen) is typically the spur of the moment post-party type thing. So while you could get what you want, chances are it won't be because you planned for it. And even if they were willing to try to plan for it, it's very likely the plans would fall through and you'd be dissapointed.

If the "same city" thing is something completely different you may have a chance tho.

As for the email, I don't think it's too impersonal, but if you do talk on the phone with them and have a chance to bring it up, I'd go that route.

How far apart do you live?

LOL, yup the event is Internext, which is a problem. We live about 1,500 miles apart unfortunately.

[JustAskJulie]

You answered my question regarding Internext and like I said, chances of "non-camera" fun happening there is VERY slim. Most amateur folks go there with the intention of getting content. That's their sole reason for being there.... and if non-camera fun is going to happen it's not going to be planned for.

If it is at all possible, I'd try to make it happen some other time/place. But you can let them know you are interested and just hope things work out. There really is a lot of non-camera sex amongst the website folks during that week, it's just not planned for.... and it's usually a hell of a lot more fun than the planned for stuff...lol.

[CuteCouple2004]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

If it is at all possible, I'd try to make it happen some other time/place. But you can let them know you are interested and just hope things work out. There really is a lot of non-camera sex amongst the website folks during that week, it's just not planned for.... and it's usually a hell of a lot more fun than the planned for stuff...lol.

LOL, thanks for the info Who knows...this is basically our ultimate fantasy, so we'd really like for it to happen, but I just don't know if it's do-able. I guess we will try to talk to them sometime in the next few weeks to try to feel things out and then go from there. Thanks for the advice

[TNT]

If you are both interested in having something happen (after you have discussed it via e-mail or phone) and are both going to the same event, why not arrange to arrive a day early to have time together before the event starts.

Teresa

[littlebit54]

Originally Posted by TNT

If you are both interested in having something happen (after you have discussed it via e-mail or phone) and are both going to the same event, why not arrange to arrive a day early to have time together before the event starts.

Teresa

What a good idea Teresa. I mean, after all; where there's a will, theres a way, right?