Expected Behaviour & RULES for Using The Swingers Board

[JustAskJulie]

We only have a few major rules on this board.
1. No Spamming/Advertising of any kind. That means coming to this board and advertising goods or service (whether or not you are making a profit from doing so), whether it is directly or indirectly. Spammers will not receive a warning and will have their privileges revoked on the first offense.

This includes Club Owners/Hosts. The forums are NOT for advertising your clubs. If someone is looking for info on clubs in your area in the Club Requests forum you may provide your information. Any other advertising of your club(s) in the forums is not allowed. Club information may be posted in the Club Listings section. Once your listing is approved you will be given access to post your event info to the Events Calendar. We do now have a forum for NATIONAL (multi-day) events (conventions, hotel take-overs, get-aways,etc).

2. No flaming/trolling/personal attacks. We do our best to remain a friendly group here. If you are mad at the world or even a small part of it, this is not a place to vent your frustrations. If you have a problem with swingers, don't come in here looking to pick a fight.

3. No Political Posts/Threads. - in order to keep harmony on the board, we are not allowing political threads/posts. Any political comments, posts, threads, signature lines, etc will be removed. One of our mods has set up a forum strictly for the discussion of politics, if you wish to discuss politics or topics that are political in nature, please feel free to visit Brad's Place and discuss them there.

We are here to share question, information and ideas in a friendly manner. If you can do that, then welcome to the board. If not, then please move on and find another place to call home.

Welcome to the board. The best way to jump the hurdle from being a lurker to actually getting involved is by posting an "Introduction". Tell us about yourself and your interest in the lifestyle. The faster we can get to know you, the faster we can make you feel at home here.


We do ask that you follow a few general guidelines when making this your new home. They are really no more than simple netiquette. To some the info below will seem to be common sense, but others who are new to the internet may not realize some of the finer points of communicating in an online forum.

- Please turn off your CAPS LOCK. Typing in all CAPS is considered yelling/shouting when conversing online. There is no need to shout here, we can read you just fine.

- Do not cross-post. Please post your question/topic in only one forum. Duplicate posts will be removed by the moderators.

- Consider those around you when you type. We don't expect anyone to have the best spelling or grammar skills (unless you are an English major), but at least take the time to make sure your posts are readable. If you know that you are a terrible speller or extremely poor at grammar then perhaps take the time to type your message into a word processing program and check it before posting it. At the very least, take the time to throw in a period here and there, and capitalize the first letter of your sentences.

Keep in mind that the easier you make it to read, the more people will read your post and therefore comment on it. If people have a hard time reading it, they are very likely to skip it altogether.

- Show common courtesy. Remember that if you are new here, people don't know you YET. But we do want to get to know you. It is best when you initially start posting to do so in a manner as to not offend anyone. Many people don't take too kindly when you get too friendly on the first few posts. We don't know you yet, so we may not realize you are joking and we may feel uncomfortable if you start treating us like you are our best friend. Start slow, we'll get to know you and we'll all share a mutual respect and admiration in no time.

- Before you do anything else, I'd highly recommend reading through the "Archives". We have moved a lot of older questions there that apply to most everyone. Reading through the archives will most likely help you to answer a lot of your questions.


- Use the "Search" feature. At the top of every page is a button that says "search". Clicking it will take you to a search page, where you can type in a word or phrase and search all the messages on the board for it. When you are dealing with a specific question this can be very helpful to you, as you
probably find that your question has already been asked. It is also helpful to those who have been on the board for a while, so that they don't have to keep answering the same questions.

- Signatures - Signatures are limited to no more than 100 characters & 3 Lines. URLS in signatures must be approved. Any non-approved URL in a signature will be removed and an infraction given.

- Pictures - Any pictures posted should be no more than R rated (no genitals showing). Pictures are welcome in your Intros and in the Personal Ads forum but please refrain from posting pictures in each post/ thread that you make. Pictures posted inappropriately will be removed by the staff.

- Avatars - Once you have at least 10 posts you may use your own image as an avatar. While this is not a rule, we do prefer that you not post animated images as avatars as they can be rather distracting when you are trying to read a thread and something is bouncing around next to it.

INFRACTIONS - We have now implimented a system of user infractions. AKA a warning system. Here's how things work.

If your first post is spam you will automatically be labeled a spammer and be banned from the site.

Beyond that.... any spammming/ flaming/ abuse / political postings will result in an initial warning. Each time you misbehave you will be sent an infraction notice detailing your infraction. If you recieve 3 of the same type of infraction within a 1 year period, you will be banned.

(this post has also been copied and posted to the "about this forum" topic in each forum on the board. If you have any comments or questions on this, please post them here.)

[JustAskJulie]

I wanted to bump this up as I felt that everyone needed a reminder.


Above all else, respect for other users of the board is key. Please remember that.

[Elusive BiFem]

In response to Julie bumping this back up as a reminder...I wanted to say a couple of things.

1. When we post...when we read a post...and especially when we respond to a post....I think we all need to remember that we are offering and being offered opinions, suggestions, ideas, thoughts.... based on what has worked for us or those we know. As far as I know, there isn't a "Swinger's Certification" or a grad school for swingers. Thus, there are no "experts."

2. Swinging is not "one-size-fits-all." What works for one does not necessarily work for everyone. That is the exact reason the diversity of opinions is so valuable. We can read a bunch of stuff and take from it what is important or fitting for us.

3. Remember the medium in which we communicate. Blank pages...and we fill in some words. Try as hard as we might, things don't always come across the way we really intend. We may sit behind our keyboards with a big smile on our faces when we hit submit...or literally laughing out loud...but when those words are read the smile and laughter isn't seen or heard. Instead of firing off a defense, give it a little while...or even just ask...better that than hurt feelings. And if someone says, "I'm sorry," accept it. After all, you might be the one saying "I'm sorry" one day soon.

Early morning musings....EBF

[JustAskJulie]

Expected Behaviour Updated today to clarify questions on links in signatures. To clarify this rule. ANY links in your signatures that do not go to your own personal homepage/profile (including SLS external profiles) MUST be approved by the admin (that's me) prior to being included. Any links not previously approved will be removed without warning.

That said, I am currently going through profiles now and checking signature links ensuring that they meet the above criteria.

[JustAskJulie]

The Expected Behaviour has been updated. Please make sure to read through it.

[JustAskJulie]

Please note that there has been a change to the rules regarding the use of URLS in signatures. Please take a moment to read the above post regarding expected behaviour and rules for use of the Swingers Board - even if you've read it before, a refresher would not be wasted.