Do you have an age limit

OhioCouple · 10-31-2003, 07:31 PM

We generally tend to gravitate to those that are socially compatible with us. As we choose to make friends with our play mates, we have found that those in the 40 plus group better fit our requirements. I'm not saying that someone younger may not, however most younger couples don't have the same life experiences that we have had and we need to share more than just sex. It's pretty awesome when you can get together with your swing friends and there doesn't have to be an expectation of swinging. We just enjoy each other's company. That's what works for us anyway.

darling · 11-01-2003, 06:53 PM

We prefer 10 years either side if our age of 41. I think a lot of it has to be with same interests also.

**Alura** · 11-01-2003, 08:47 PM

There is a fifteen year difference between our ages. Maybe that's why we don't set age restrictions. Who knows who we may meet?

Come to think of it, though, over the past 23 years we've had five partner-couples, all of whose ages fell between ours at the time. As we have aged, so have our playmates.

Mr. Alura

Elusive BiFem · 11-01-2003, 08:53 PM

It strikes me that almost everyone has an age limit for those they feel most comfortable with. For most social interactions, including but not limited to swinging, I really prefer people close to my own age. That isn't to say that younger people...even really young people ...aren't super and terrific and valuable. They are! However, I simply have more in common with those in my age group. Music, life experiences, goals...all those sorts of things...energy levels.

I have some much, much younger "friends." Probably more along the lines of casual acquaintances...and I can enjoy socializing with them for short periods of time, but then I want to go find my "own people." And I'm certain my younger friends are about ready to get rid of me at the same time!

Would I respond to an e-mail from a younger couple? Yes...I would politely decline any invitation. Would I e-mail a younger couple? No.

- EBF

BettyAnnMBSC · 11-02-2003, 09:05 AM

I'm 26 and he's 41. We've got a pretty wide age range already. His oldest is almost 22 and often calls me "mommy" - now that's "wierdness feeling".

We've never set an age limit other than the 18 year old minimum. Most often, couples we play with are closer to his age than mine but there have been more than a few in the low 20s range.

Generally, if I bring home a playmate it's someone pretty close to my age and if he brings home a playmate it's someone close to his. That has more to do with who we each know.

We've only met one other couple with a similar age range to both of us (15 years apart). It seems we're meeting more 30 something couples now than we were when I was 18-21.

Attraction wise, for us it's more about personality and lifestyle choices than about looks or age. We're not stoners or heavy drinkers so that crowd holds little interest for us. We enjoy the symphony and ballet - and that crowd tends to be a bit older in general.

gsu22 · 11-03-2003, 01:32 AM

I've just recently become involved with a couple.....we're in the very early stages of everything....anyways they're both 31 and I'm 22. And I love it!!!! When I first set out looking for a couple, my first thought was a couple that was a little older than me......... around 30 or so and I happened to hit exactly what I was looking for!

***JustAskJulie*** · 11-03-2003, 06:12 PM

Not physically but mentally yes....lol. Mental age determines a lot more... so many people neither look nor act their age (I like those people...lol). Others look and act much older than they really are.

YoungCoupleInMinneapolis · 11-08-2003, 01:54 PM

Its real simple. If they appear closer to our parents age than ours, we shy away. There isn't much worry about finding younger couples, (in fact, I wish that WAS a worry- we're both 24,) so looking up, if they could've gone to high school with mom n' dad, it just doesn't feel right. I guess that puts the age limit at approximately 15 years older, give or take. Of course, finding a couple with like interests and instant chemistry overrules any age limits......

js2sm · 11-08-2003, 05:56 PM

My husband and I have never swung, but would like too soon, but I think that when we get into it our age group will also depend on personality. I wouldn't want to be with an 18 year old that still acts like a high schooler or a 35 year old that acts like she has one foot in the grave already, so it would really depend. We would like to find someone that is attractive to both of us and right now given that we are both 25, generally it seems to be females in there 20s or early 30s.

nc_couple_28304 · 11-08-2003, 09:30 PM

Most of the cples we meet our older than us, we are 27 & 28, and we prefer it that way, as we seem to find that we have more in common with cples older than us then we do with people younger than us. Our maximum is about 40 and Our mini is 25.

We set our minimum to 25 after having several bad encounters with cples that were in the 21-24 age range.

thump29 · 11-08-2003, 11:00 PM

I am 26 and my husband is 30. We usually go no younger than 25 and no older than 46, although we prefer older couples because we seem to have more in common with them rather than younger couples or people our own age.

BradAndJanet · 11-09-2003, 11:17 AM

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Originally posted by JustAskJulie
Not physically but mentally yes....lol. Mental age determines a lot more... so many people neither look nor act their age (I like those people...lol). Others look and act much older than they really are.

I love this answer and that's what we would say. We don't have any absolute age limits. If we hit it off with someone and are attracted to them, we're not going to get hung up on age (as long as they're adults, of course,

)

-B

js2sm · 11-10-2003, 05:36 AM

Since I have yet to have my first experience with another woman or a threesome, could you guys give me the heads up as to why it is easier with older people, or what kinds of problems you have had in the past with people in their early 20s? Thanks!

Elusive BiFem · 11-10-2003, 07:00 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by js2sm
Since I have yet to have my first experience with another woman or a threesome, could you guys give me the heads up as to why it is easier with older people, or what kinds of problems you have had in the past with people in their early 20s? Thanks!

I don't think it is necessarily "easier with older people" or that people have had problems with people in their 20's, but more along the lines of common interest factors. For many of us, there is more to the lifestyle than just the purely sexual aspects.

Additionally, for many younger people, the idea of sex with people old enough to be their parents is an immediate turn-off, and the same holds true for older people. As you read through this thread, you will see that most people prefer others about 10 years on either side of their own ages...and of course, there are always exceptions. Nothing is written in stone. As you read through the various forums, you will find several threads on age differences and the reasons people prefer one age group to another.
- EBF

nc_couple_28304 · 11-12-2003, 09:49 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by js2sm
Since I have yet to have my first experience with another woman or a threesome, could you guys give me the heads up as to why it is easier with older people, or what kinds of problems you have had in the past with people in their early 20s? Thanks!

I can only speak for our experiences and choices...but we prefer cples our age or older due to the following..Hubby and i have been married for 10yrs, we have a 9 yr old and a 6 yr old...I am 27 & he is 28... We have found that a lot of the cples we have met that are 25 or younger.. Have not been together as long and have children that are a lot younger than ours or just none at all, however cples out age or older we just seem to have more things in common with.

As far as experiences, to name a few, one younger cple we were with ended up very badly...The wife half ended up getting very possesive as if myself (female half) and I were dating.

The second couple we met, proceeded to want to walk hand in hand with hubby, and ended up very possessive with hubby.

All of the couple were 21 & 22, had not been together very long and were really new to the experience themselves...Now i am not trying to accuse all cples of being that way...We have just not have any of these problems with cples our age or older.

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10-31-2003, 07:31 PM	#16 (permalink)
OhioCouple Retired Mod Join Date: Dec 2001 Posts: 6,619 Location: Ohio Status: Married Female	We generally tend to gravitate to those that are socially compatible with us. As we choose to make friends with our play mates, we have found that those in the 40 plus group better fit our requirements. I'm not saying that someone younger may not, however most younger couples don't have the same life experiences that we have had and we need to share more than just sex. It's pretty awesome when you can get together with your swing friends and there doesn't have to be an expectation of swinging. We just enjoy each other's company. That's what works for us anyway. __________________ Remember that human beings are complicated creatures. We like our bedtime routines but dislike routine in our bed times. - Sallie Foley, M.S.W.

11-01-2003, 08:53 PM	#19 (permalink)
Elusive BiFem Retired Mod Join Date: Dec 2002 Posts: 3,401 Location: Texas Status: Single Female	Sure do..... It strikes me that almost everyone has an age limit for those they feel most comfortable with. For most social interactions, including but not limited to swinging, I really prefer people close to my own age. That isn't to say that younger people...even really young people ...aren't super and terrific and valuable. They are! However, I simply have more in common with those in my age group. Music, life experiences, goals...all those sorts of things...energy levels. I have some much, much younger "friends." Probably more along the lines of casual acquaintances...and I can enjoy socializing with them for short periods of time, but then I want to go find my "own people." And I'm certain my younger friends are about ready to get rid of me at the same time! Would I respond to an e-mail from a younger couple? Yes...I would politely decline any invitation. Would I e-mail a younger couple? No. - EBF

11-02-2003, 09:05 AM	#20 (permalink)
BettyAnnMBSC Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jun 2003 Posts: 261 Location: Myrtle Beach South Carolina Status: F half of bi cpl	I'm 26 and he's 41. We've got a pretty wide age range already. His oldest is almost 22 and often calls me "mommy" - now that's "wierdness feeling". We've never set an age limit other than the 18 year old minimum. Most often, couples we play with are closer to his age than mine but there have been more than a few in the low 20s range. Generally, if I bring home a playmate it's someone pretty close to my age and if he brings home a playmate it's someone close to his. That has more to do with who we each know. We've only met one other couple with a similar age range to both of us (15 years apart). It seems we're meeting more 30 something couples now than we were when I was 18-21. Attraction wise, for us it's more about personality and lifestyle choices than about looks or age. We're not stoners or heavy drinkers so that crowd holds little interest for us. We enjoy the symphony and ballet - and that crowd tends to be a bit older in general. __________________ ~~~~~ N'essayez jamais d'enseigner un porc à chanter. Il perd votre temps et gêne le porc.

11-03-2003, 01:32 AM	#21 (permalink)
gsu22 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Sep 2003 Posts: 244 Location: Atlanta, Georgia Status: Single male	I've just recently become involved with a couple.....we're in the very early stages of everything....anyways they're both 31 and I'm 22. And I love it!!!! When I first set out looking for a couple, my first thought was a couple that was a little older than me......... around 30 or so and I happened to hit exactly what I was looking for! __________________ " A girl's legs are her best friends, but the best of friends must part". -R. Foxx

11-01-2003, 06:53 PM	#17 (permalink)
darling Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 180 Location: Ohio Status: Couple	We prefer 10 years either side if our age of 41. I think a lot of it has to be with same interests also.

11-01-2003, 08:47 PM	#18 (permalink)
Alura T-Town Playmates Join Date: May 2001 Posts: 6,639 Location: Tulsa, Oklahoma Status: Widower	There is a fifteen year difference between our ages. Maybe that's why we don't set age restrictions. Who knows who we may meet? Come to think of it, though, over the past 23 years we've had five partner-couples, all of whose ages fell between ours at the time. As we have aged, so have our playmates. Mr. Alura

11-03-2003, 06:12 PM	#22 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 25,857 Location: In my House Status: Female Swing Lifestyle Name:swingersboard Blog Entries: 81	Not physically but mentally yes....lol. Mental age determines a lot more... so many people neither look nor act their age (I like those people...lol). Others look and act much older than they really are. __________________ Julie - your hostess The Swinger Manual - all the info from the Swingers Board in one convenient book

11-08-2003, 01:54 PM	#23 (permalink)
YoungCoupleInMinneapolis Active Member Join Date: Aug 2002 Posts: 10 Location: Minneapolis, MN Status: Married Couple	Its real simple. If they appear closer to our parents age than ours, we shy away. There isn't much worry about finding younger couples, (in fact, I wish that WAS a worry- we're both 24,) so looking up, if they could've gone to high school with mom n' dad, it just doesn't feel right. I guess that puts the age limit at approximately 15 years older, give or take. Of course, finding a couple with like interests and instant chemistry overrules any age limits...... __________________ John & Kim

11-08-2003, 05:56 PM	#24 (permalink)
js2sm Registered Join Date: Nov 2003 Posts: 6 Location: Southern California Status: M. Female	My husband and I have never swung, but would like too soon, but I think that when we get into it our age group will also depend on personality. I wouldn't want to be with an 18 year old that still acts like a high schooler or a 35 year old that acts like she has one foot in the grave already, so it would really depend. We would like to find someone that is attractive to both of us and right now given that we are both 25, generally it seems to be females in there 20s or early 30s.

11-08-2003, 09:30 PM	#25 (permalink)
nc_couple_28304 Active Member Join Date: May 2003 Posts: 13 Location: nc Status: couple	Most of the cples we meet our older than us, we are 27 & 28, and we prefer it that way, as we seem to find that we have more in common with cples older than us then we do with people younger than us. Our maximum is about 40 and Our mini is 25. We set our minimum to 25 after having several bad encounters with cples that were in the 21-24 age range.

11-08-2003, 11:00 PM	#26 (permalink)
thump29 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Apr 2003 Posts: 333 Location: okeechobee, fl Status: couple	I am 26 and my husband is 30. We usually go no younger than 25 and no older than 46, although we prefer older couples because we seem to have more in common with them rather than younger couples or people our own age.

11-10-2003, 05:36 AM	#28 (permalink)
js2sm Registered Join Date: Nov 2003 Posts: 6 Location: Southern California Status: M. Female	what problems? Since I have yet to have my first experience with another woman or a threesome, could you guys give me the heads up as to why it is easier with older people, or what kinds of problems you have had in the past with people in their early 20s? Thanks!

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