Dealing with age gap

[bear_n_bunny]

Originally posted by alabamafuntonig
I was not so much mad at the tiny lies it was the tiny lies that were everywere. ok so alabama a girl can have sex at 16 ..he not a staatory rapist. still gives me the willys that he lied. and did so for 3 months. as far as knowing the diffrence between 3-4 years no i would not have , but he also said d+d free , I wonder if he was its just a small lie right?

Lied about what? Their ages and where they lived? (I'm still unclear on what difference 20 miles makes. But then, I live in Texas, where an extra 20 miles here or there does not mean a whole lot... What else did they lie about?

This goes back to what I said before; everybody lies, especially in swinging, at one time or another, and were the lies malicious or not?

But that is a judgement only you can make. At the end of the day, just follow your gut instincts.

Bear

[alabamafuntonig]

bear
sure everone tells white lies from time to time. I do not make a point of telling lies evertime i open my mouth. I guess its a character thing. 20 miles means a lot when you want to travel less than 45 minutes away fom your kids. not 1 hour plus. some things are important to me and mrs bama.

[bear_n_bunny]

Originally posted by alabamafuntonig
bear
sure everone tells white lies from time to time. I do not make a point of telling lies evertime i open my mouth. I guess its a character thing. 20 miles means a lot when you want to travel less than 45 minutes away fom your kids. not 1 hour plus. some things are important to me and mrs bama.

It appears you still don't get it regarding the white vs not-so-white lies issue, but that's OK. I'm sure a man of character such as yourself will figure it out eventually.

As for the distance limitation, I don't know how you met this couple, or routinely meet any other couple, but assuming you have a profile out there somewhere (such as on swinglifestyle.com, etc), I would make sure that in it you spell out in no uncertain terms that you and the Mrs. are not interested in meeting anyone who lives more than x miles away from you, so that you will not be too far from your children. This assumes you have not already done so. Likewise in any other venue (club, party, chat room, etc) where you might meet a potential play couple, be sure you do the same. I would emphasize this because, as you may have noticed, some people can be, um, dense about some things...

Bear

[alabamafuntonig]

good point bear. we do not advertise as such but do make it a point not to respond to people that are too far away . as far as the white lies. this is one of those 50/50 debate we could debate for hours on the do and donts of white lies . your right on your point everone does. some things just grab me strange when you lie right off the bat to someone you know about such trivial things.