Age Differences within Couples

[sexypairca]

I am 30 and he is 35. Not a big gap but when we met he was quite surprised to find out that I had just turned 20 , I have always looked older than my age.

Annette

[Botcpl]

Originally posted by Misty&Todd
Hubby is 6 years older than me im 25 and he is 31, the only prob per say is that he has hit and passed his sexual peak and i peaked at 18 and havent come down yet (i dont forsee comming down at all) :evil:

Okay, "kids", I am going to have to slap you around a little bit. I'm about to turn 52 and V is about to turn 49. Maybe you can pick something up from our experiance.

You are just begining or sexual journy. Your husband is comming into the prime of his life. If he is in decent shape, the next 15 years will be his most productive phsically, financialy, emotionally and sexually. This the time when men, also, push themselves the most; they start businesses, they move up the ladder at work, raise families, coach soccer and baseball AND have a terrific sex life. And for the female, your really just beginning to find out what you can do with your body and your mind. Lots of women don't really get going until their mid to late 30's.

But, you can blow it in a minute.

You can get hurt, you can get sick, but for the most of us, we get out of shape and we can't do the phsical things we used to or as long; we get tired! It's a lot of work to lug an extra 30-40 lbs around ALL THE TIME! It's great exercise if you only do it for an hour every other day, but you have to recover.

I was 48-49 when I went to see my doctor; for the first time, I was really sick, I was tired, I couldn't sleep, it hurt when I did this or that. I told him I felt this way for a year or two, I thought that's how you feel when you get "old."

He chewed my ass out. He said I had another 20 years before I should start feeliing old, I was sick. Now take these pills, let the nice nurse poke you in the arm with sharp needle five or six times and start taking 30 minute walks.

Three years later and I've been walking, bike riding, ect. four or five days a week; I'm within 15-18% of my ideal body weight and I feel as good as I did in my late 30's. It is as if I have been given the last ten years of my life back to live again. I'm very lucky, others are not.

You are not at the peak of your lives and starting the downhill slide, but rather, you're just shifting in to third gear; you've got a ways to go before you max out.

P.

PS: Sorry for the rant here, but this is a subject that really hit a chord with me.

[Lorrie]

I'm older by three years.

[1freakincpl]

My wife is 13 years older then I am and we dont have any problems with communication or anything else. Im a 28 year old man and she is the woman that I fell in love with

[fredandwilma200]

My husband and I have a 14 year age gap between us. He is going to be 41 soon and I just turned 27. We dont think of it much however, some people ask if he is "loaded" LOL if only they truely new..LOL
The one problem that we did have is that my step kids and I are closer in age. My step son is only 8 years younger then I and my step daughter is only 9 years younger then I am. So this has caused some problems in the house. I.E. step son no longer lives with us or his bio mother. Step daughter doesnt like it because she thinks I should be more of a friend then telling her what to do...but she no longer looks at the situation that way..she now sees me as some "old" lady..LOL

[TxCouple98]

Well he is 54 and i am 25, so we are one with a real age gap here. I met him when i was 19, and been together almost 6 years now. My family took the news pretty good, but his family did and still does have some issues with the age diff. His kids have been the main issue, but they are coming around. His daughter is actually a few years older than me and his son is a year younger than me. I know for some that they might freak at something like that and think it is wrong, but no harm has been caused to anyone. We have no issues on talking about things or having things in common. We realize the issues that are related to haivng that big of age gap and have talked and delt with them. We do get some interesting looks once in a while, but oh well! Mostly older women will give a dirty look, and most older guys give amused looks. My friends at first were a lil surprised but got over it. Still have friends my own age and go out and all that stuff. I guess over all i look at it this way, you don't pick who you fall in love with. Also, have nothing to complain about in the sex dept. Just cause a guy gets a lil older doesn't mean everything goes down hill. We do a good job of wearing each other out!

[zebrahead7557]

My husband is 19 years older than me(I'm 29,he's 47) & we have been married for two years. Allot of people think he is about 34 so it has not been a big deal with us. He is the first guy I have been with that I have a large age gap with. I have always date guys that were between 3 to 6 years older than me since most guys my age can be so immature, doing whatever their friends tell them to or just can't handle being with a confident woman who knows what she wants. I also like how my husband is well educated & has experienced life because he teaches me things & has an open-mind. Plus he can handle my confidence & not look at it as a threat.

[flkeyscouple]

I thought I'd bump this up. It's been a long time since it was 'active'. It's interesting to see how the age difference effects the different people.

We are just under two years apart. Pretty 'normal' I guess.

Sarah

[richdon03]

Interesting. My wife is 9 yrs younger than I am. My sister-in-law is 9 years younger than my brother. My wife's sister is 9 years older than her husband. My mother is 12 years younger than her current husband. My youngest brother is about 11 years younger than his life-partner. In our family, sizeable age gaps as well as a healthy dose of
"jungle fever" are normal. This is not something we given much thought to. Though I do admire those guys in the lifestyle who are 50 and married to 20 or 25 year olds.

[Menage_a_Trois]

Mr. Menage is 45 and Mrs. Menage is 30 with The Other Mrs. Menage being 44........so we have the age gap going as well but they have never experienced any problems as a result of that and I haven't seen it since we've been a triad.

The Other Mrs. Menage

[Mrs.PaganLovers]

I am 10 years older than Mr. PL. Been married for almost 12 years and we are still on our honeymoon There isn't a day that goes by that he doesn't tell me, many times, how much he loves me, and he is the love of my life. I am one very lucky woman!!!

Blessings
Mrs. PL

[rpu3]

I am 11 years younger than my spouse, although there are some days I swear he's 30 years younger than I am, and he'll swear I'm 30 years older than he is.

[menher1559]

We've found that age differences in couples usually doesn't come into play until the later years of the older partner. My mother recently lost her husband. He was 19 years older than she. When they married, it wasn't a big deal, but as he aged, the difference really began to show. He was almost 80 when he died, mother is only 59.

I guess all that boils down to the committment you're willing to make to the relationship over the long haul

[aahours1]

I have not found anyone in the same or longer span of age than myself and my fiancee. I am 56 y/o and she is 36 y/o. Not a problem here, at all. Her ex husband could NEVER bring her to a big "O" he just thought of himself. I get her going, squirting and screaming ALL the time along with her lady friend, with her permission. But 20 years different here and we own a swingers club also in Michigan

[Tybee Swing]

Great thread!

Going all the way back to the OP's questions:

Originally Posted by Roxysbayou

This is just an observation, I don't mind it as long as they don't remind me of my dad...lol. But I see a lot of 30 year old women with 45 year old men, or similar. I guess that my question is...do you find this to be true?

We see it sometimes, but not that often (a large noticeable age gap, that is). Our experience goes along with the results of the poll, with the great majority being within a few years of each other's age. Now, if the older of the two with an age gap was taking great care of him/herself and didn't look their age, that wouldn't be a noticeable age difference, and we wouldn't know anyway!

Originally Posted by Roxysbayou

Or are you a couple with an age gap? If so have you found any negatives or positives from such a gap?

In my case, my first husband was 13 years older than I was. The marriage lasted for many years, but mostly by my sheer will and determination to not get a divorce. I'm sure he married me because he perceived a much younger woman as being malleable - he could make me into who he wanted me to be. The more I grew up through the years, the less he liked it. We did not swing together - he was a stick-in-the-mud about most things, and sex was no exception. It never would have happened with him. If he was the type to swing, and I picture the two of us as a couple again ( ) and in the swinging community, I don't think we'd fare very well as a couple. I've aged very well; he hasn't. He easily looks like my dad now. I believe that the couples I know and am attracted to wouldn't be interested in him.

Mr. Tybee and I are in our 40's, but constantly mistaken for younger. Our age difference is only a few months apart. We look and act like a matched set. He and I have so much more in common, it's ridiculous! Having experienced both sides, I can't imagine going back.

Personally, I'm not attracted to significantly older-looking men. Note that I didn't say older, but rather older-looking. If a somewhat older man is very well-preserved, fit and healthy, young-at-heart and full of stamina, that sounds fine to me. I think that too much of an age difference would be a deal-breaker for me in swinging, though. I just wouldn't be attracted.