How do you feel about really young couples?

[katie_n_josh]

Hi all-we're new to the scene (just agreed tonight that we'd like to try swinging). I'm 19 and he's 18 and we were hoping to find some kind words of advice from the more experienced members of the board. Are most people turned off by the idea of such a young couple, and if so, where might we look to find people that are OK with our age? Also, we'd both love to be watched while making love-how does a couple go about finding an audience? (can't imagine just asking our friends) Thanks in advance for your help guys

katie and josh

[Tanman aka Mike and Marie]

Hi !

Marie and I are softswingers (haven't gone "all the way" yet) mainly because we haven't met someone we wish to do that with yet.

There is no age limit to this as we have seen and met people from their early 20's into their late 60's.

I don't know that people are turned off by a couple so young as yourselves involved in the lifestyle as much as they are possibly surprised that you are getting into the lifestyle after knowing each other a short period of time (assumption). Most of us older folks (I'm 43 today...boo hoo, wife is 42) have taken awhile to build trust and security in our realtionships to accept seeing the other in sexual situations with someone else. Also jealousy is a big factor many of us had to overcome (lots of communication). Maybe starting younger is the key ?

We have been to many clubs and I rarely see couples as young as yourselves there.........that doesn't mean they have never gone or just maybe to clubs other than the ones we have been to. I would try some clubs in your area to see if you see anyone there in your age range. Also you can search websites like : swinglifestyle.com , adultfriendfinder.com, or lifestylelounge.com or many others to run a search for other young people you could possibly connect with.

As far as being watched , also called watching and being watched. This is a softswing activity that some people ask for and search for other couples to do this specifically with. Again look in some other swingers databases for this activity. I know on aff.com you can specifically search for other couples for exhibitionism/voyeur activities.

Good Luck in your search and have fun

[naughty A]

Hello and Welcome.

I am meeting more and more couples in their early 20's these days so I don't think that meeting couples your own age will be the problem it once was.

The biggest hesitation that people have in dealing with young swingers is do they have the maturity to deal with the various issues that come up.

I think that you are on the right track... checking things out before you jump in.

You need to consider what the rules for the swing clubs in your state regarding age of admittance?

As for the watching being watched, lots of couples start out that way and it can be a lot of fun. and no I can't imagine asking regular friends... well I can imagine it... but I can't imagine continuing to be friends after .

Good luck, hope you find lots of useful information here and I think you are off to a great start.

Naughty A

[katie_n_josh]

The only clubs I've been able to find here in Sarasota,FL are 21 and up. We're allowed to vote, darnit, why can't we swing.

about to check out the links you gave. Thanks a million

[OhioCouple]

Originally posted by katie_n_josh
The only clubs I've been able to find here in Sarasota,FL are 21 and up. We're allowed to vote, darnit, why can't we swing.

about to check out the links you gave. Thanks a million

I agree with you here, if you are old enough to be held accountable as an adult with adult consequences then you are old enough to participate in any activity that you desire in my opinon.

I agree with what both Tanman and Naughty A said. Do though make sure you do a lot of reading around the board here. There is a bundle of info in the New Swingers section that will help you as you move ahead.

Good luck!

Lori

[JustAskJulie]

Age is as much a factor as anything else when it comes to swinging. You will find that many people will say that they won't swing with a couple as young as you for a variety of reasons including the feeling that you

1. aren't mature enough
2. aren't established in your relationship enough.

Here are a few links for you to previous threads on this topic that you might want to read through:

Does Age Determine Your Maturity To Swing?

Young Swingers

Age

Young Couples

As you can tell from reading these, you aren't the first young couple to be interested in swinging or the first to have your questions. Hopefully, these topics will help you answer some of those questions.

[we2cpl]

Hi, we're a mature cpl in our late 30's with very little experience swingin'. Have had some fun times, but now we're ready to make some new friends.... Any sugestions?

[kittycat11]

We get some emails from some pretty young couples too and I just for the life of me, can't entertain the thought of having sex with "kids" who are so close in age to my own "kids"!! It just feels incestuous; maybe we are nuts but it's the truth and I'm honest in my response to them. My maternal instinct crops up too and I want to email them a "lecture" because, frankly, I do think some of these kids are too young to be jumping into this lifestyle; not enough life experience behind them and I wouldn't want my daughter doing it at this age. Just my thoughts, whatever they are worth!

[kittylikesmfm]

I absolutely agree with Julie's comment about security in the relationship. You really need to discuss the topic inside and out, upside down and backwards before you swing; monogamy isn't the societal norm by accident. There are alot of big landmines in reliquishing the implied sexual ownership of your chosen mate. Online has really opened up folks ability to explore this world and fantasy non-comittally, and it's great that you're taking advantage of that.
As far as exhibition, my husband and I like to show on our webcam in the adult chat rooms on the free messengers....(yahoo specifically but didn't want to appear to be spamming). I think there are lots of options out there for that though. Just at ya'lls age, be very careful about personal info and location please. It's a pretty fun, non commital way to see how each of you react to the inclusion of other people in your sex life, however removed.
Good luck

[GerdOEvert]

If you were my kids, I would say, "Hey, wait for a while . . . "

But I am sure that you can find people who would swing or swap, by putting advertisements in papers, etc.

There is no reason to advertise your age.

If you have a nice body and you are curious, someone else will say :let's go".

But I agree. A little young.

Otto

[BiloxiCouple]

As long as both of your understand and communicate what you are doing you shouldn't have a problem. Openly discuss anything with each other and LISTEN! No means no even with the both of you.

Age isn't a problem with us. We know some 40-somethings that act pretty young. Just don't act too old either. Be yourselves.

Have fun, we do.

Billy
Billy&Elaine

[DnS535]

I thought we were the only ones..I am 18 and my boyfriend is 19. We have the same problems..completely new and don't know what to do. We can support eachother..lol

[BiloxiCouple]

It's a very small world. You are never alone in your problems. Almost any situation/problem that has been had, has probably already been done!