swinging and age, how big a gap is too big?

[wildwife1010]

We are thinking about meeting a new friend but have one issue that bothers me. I am 39 and he is 54. Questions, when is the age gap to big to cross?

[sexyshelby]

It all depends on what you are comfortable with.

I know that doesn't exactly answer your question, but this isn't a question that we can answer for you. You need to figure out what you are comfortable with.

~SS

[JTcamp05]

Can't imagine that would be a problem at all...... Sometimes in swinging the age difference is a turn on...... It is something new and exciting!

[havefuninsun]

It's about Variety -- the youngest guy I've met is 10 years my junior; the oldest is probably 15 or so years my senior. Mr. Fun's youngest playmate was 10 years younger too, and I don't think any of his playmates have been older.

I think if a couple looked like my parents that would be a line I just couldn't cross. Otherwise -- what the hell. Have fun!

[The Fuse]

Dito It's all in what moves you and what doesn't.

I'm 40. I've been with 21 all the way to 51. We don't have kids, so the youngsters don't gross us out. I didn't have much to talk about with the 21-year-old, but there was a 23-year-old couple we could have spent a lot of time with if he hadn't shipped out to Iraq. Compatibility is as much about common interests than about age.

[des1re06]

I agree that compatibility is ageless. I've met gentlemen from 20's to 60's that were sexy. I prefer a first date somewhere we can dance. If we slow dance well together, then that's my indicator.

One thing I do is ask their wife what their style is. Most wives I've talked to don't mind telling you about what their husbands are like in bed. I know I don't mind. It gives me an indication of our compatibility before we get naked and find out too late. For example: he likes to bite and tie me up. Nope, not going there.

Good luck with your date. Have fun and don't focus so much on age.

Mrs. D

[good times]

Well, if their is such a thing as an age gap limit, nobody bothered to tell us that rule. I am 48 and my wife is 43, we have played with people that ranged in age from 23 to 65. All we really care about is whether the person we are with turns us on, age is not a factor by itself.

[Nudesailing]

Our limits are we dont want as young as our kids or as old as our parents. Right or wrong that is the way we feel.

[DBL D]

Try not to set your limit on what someone else says about themselves. You must make that call. If you find someone who feels the same, hopefully they came to their conclusion the same way.

Age really isn't important. Maturity is. One reason that you might not feel you have anything to talk about with a younger or older person may be that you just aren't that inquisitive, but I've known a lot of young people who have the gift on making good conversation.

Personally, I am always open to the option of being with any age that suits me (and my playmate). My cock doesn't look 51 years old...but then, it's been moisturized more often than any other part of my bod.

Male D

[VegasLee]

We used to have the rule that they had to be older than our kids but our kids have got much older so the new rule is they must be older than our grandkids.

[scott17201]

age shouldnt matter as long as you are attracted to them. about 2 yrs ago i was 32 and the woman was 49. i dont think i was much older than there kids. the husband was 49 also he enjoyed watching us. her and i had a good time. age is a number.

[daisy girl]

Yes, it depends on what you are comfortable with. I know 50 year olds that are "old" and I know 50 year olds that are oh-la-la. Currently, I am playing with a very very sexy 50 year old. I am 35. I will say...he has taught me a lot...

[DBL D]

Originally Posted by VegasLee

We used to have the rule that they had to be older than our kids but our kids have got much older so the new rule is they must be older than our grandkids.

That's the Spirit, Vegas!

M.D.

[Tybee Swing]

Originally Posted by daisy girl

I know 50 year olds that are "old" and I know 50 year olds that are oh-la-la.

Ditto that! It's not the number of years, it's the person.

[iapr]

If you have had good emails back and forth and have seen pics and find him attractive then good ahead and meet. If there is attraction, chemistry and comfort then age is just a number and it really has no relavence at that point. Even if there isn't attraction and such it may not have a thing to do with age.