Age differences among swing playmates

[cubnamy1995]

I gotta jump in on this one.

I have ALWAYS found older women much more appealing. I guess because my first sexual experience at age 18 was with a 34 year old woman. While the younger girls are pretty to look at, they are hard to play with. Women in their thirties and fourties know exactly what they want, and are not shy about telling you. We are both in our early thirties, and my wife just keeps looking better and better. As a rule, we do not discriminate whatsoever with age. In fact, most of the couples we've played with have been between 5 and 10 years older than us. Fine by me!

Give me a woman whose had years to perfect her talents. Give me a woman who will grab you by the back of your head and say "Fuck me!" You can have your little barbie dolls. My wife and I will take the real women anyday!!!

On a more serious note, I do agree that younger people do not usually have the emotional maturity to handle this lifestyle. Even though I'm pretty young by everyones standards (33), I know that as little as 5 years ago, I couldn't have done this. Neither could the Mrs. who is 31. It's amazing how much can change in such a short time. Even though neither of us are far removed from our twenties, neither of us would want to play with a couple in their twenties. Too much risk of drama.

We have played with couples in their fifties, and even though they were old enough to be our parents, we never thought of it that way, and we have always really enjoyed it. We've learned far more from the more experienced folks. We have never been snubbed by an older couple and have always felt super-comfortable. Maturity and experience are very, very sexy.

[Thrax]

Originally Posted by SW_PA_Couple

J and I went to a private party last Saturday evening. The party was mostly attended by a bunch of us over-fifty people. But there were one young couple who had been invited – late 20s or early thirties was my guess. Well, one of the 50s babes got out her blood-sugar testing kit and the next thing you know, everybody was laughing and giggling and wanting to test themselves and compare their blood sugar levels. This spectacle scared the hell out of that young couple. The young woman pretended to get a world-class cramp and made that her excuse to leave the party. I believe I would have done the same.

M

Ummm, I'm 50 (almost 50 and a half [gasp!]) and I think I would have followed that young'un out the door, if I hadn't preceded her by at least several seconds.

Blood-sugar-testing at a swing party? It's entirely my opinion, but for ANY age that's just weird if one hopes to attract others sexually.

To each their own though...

Thrax

[flkeyscouple]

with Thrax. I'm 50 too - and I can't imagine doing the blood sugar testing while at a party - I've never blood sugar tested before ANYWHERE. What is the excitement in that?? Weird - but to each their own!

Sarah

[Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by Thrax

Blood-sugar-testing at a swing party?

Yup...

Weird...

But not everyone 50 and older is Wilfred Brimley

Spoomonkey

PS - I found that link through google and dumb luck. It is funny as hell.

[pontifex27]

We are both in our 30's. I have found that physical attraction means more then age. I have seen some really hot older men and older women and then I've seen cpls who are younger and just not attractive. We tend to look at pix first then profiles. Of course we've found cpls who were pysically attractive and mentally not stimulating...thats the biggest turn on once we've found a cpl we're interested in. If you can give us good "head"...the brain has to be stimulated Don't limit yourself...there are a lot of "older"couples who can be a LOT of fun as well as a learning experience.

[SW_PA_Couple]

Originally Posted by Thrax

Blood-sugar-testing at a swing party? It's entirely my opinion, but for ANY age that's just weird if one hopes to attract others sexually.

Blood sugar was not, of course, tested to attract others. It was just one of things that simply happens. I am beginning to wonder what might happen when we Boomers are having our Octogenarian Swingers' Parties. Someone, I could imagine, being arrested for assault with a dead weapon.

[sexyshelby]

Originally Posted by Spoomonkey

But not everyone 50 and older is Wilfred Brimley

Spoomonkey

PS - I found that link through google and dumb luck. It is funny as hell.

OMG Now that was just disturbing!

~SS

[SuAndBud]

Age is a wierd thing. The older you get the more confusing it gets (it seems so easy when you're young).

A year ago, the "kids" dragged us off to a disco (showing my age calling it a disco - lol). Su's eldest son walked in with his wife. Su's younger son walked in with his girlfriend. I walked in. Su got stopped and was asked to produce her ID to show she was over 21. She was furious (the doorman wished he'd never been born!) until I pointed out what a compliment that was.

The year previous, a 23 year old gorgeous barmaid at our local asked Su (as the bar was closing) if she wanted to go out to a nightclub with the bargirls. Su replied yes. Good, said the barmaid. You go to the nightclub with the girls and I'll take Bud home with me.

She meant it, too.

This barmaid was out of my league when I was 23!!!!

Maybe we swingers are more young at heart? Maybe that shows, somehow? I don't know. I do know it seems to get EASIER not harder, the older we get.

Funnily, rather than pursuing young 'uns. We are so much more at ease with those around our own age when it comes to seeking playmates.

[The Fuse]

No, I don't say "ew"... I look at the profile or the email they have written, or talk to the couple if we're at a party, and see if I think they are emotionally mature as people and as a couple. Being able to talk to people is very important.

I'm 40, and was very surprised last year at 39 when a 23-year-old buff military guy (and his very sexy fiancee) were interested in me and my husband. Even more surprised when a couple of good-looking 21-year-olds wrote to us. They were very focused people, had a plan for their lives, and knew what they wanted -- which was to swing with people our age. They felt more comfortable with us than with people their age, and after meeting them (the same week I turned 40) we saw that they were mature way beyond their years. I didn't like turning 40, but consoled myself with the compliment their interest represented.

I also play with someone who's 51, but man he has stamina.

I don't think I could pass for much younger than my age. (Have you ever heard anyone (over 20 or 23) say how much older than their age they pass for?) I get the occasional comment about looking younger, but they are probably just being nice.

I just think that some people don't care if you have a large age difference, and some people do care. I wouldn't get insulted or try to change their minds.

[sexcupid]

First of all...Tybee and Spoo...wow. I would have never taken you or the spouses for the ages you are quoting. You guys look great.


For me personally, I've pretty much always been attracted to those older than myself. First serious BF was 5 yrs older and current BF is 14 yrs older. I'm 28 and he's 42.

Our profile has an age range of 25-50. Depending on the person, that can be flexible. Personally I don't want to play with anyone younger than myself. Jeff is probably less picky about age and would be ok as long as they are over that age of consent. *lmao* jk

If someone responds to our profile that is outside of the age range, would I be rude enough not to respond or tell them "Sorry, your're 51! No can do"? No I wouldn't. But then again, I read profiles first and look at the pictures 2nd, so maybe I'm not the best person to ask? If the profile doesn't catch my attention for the 2 minutes it will take me to read it, then I'll move on. I also have an issue with only showing pictures of the female half of the couple as well. But that is a rant for another thread.

Anyway, HTH answer the OP.

Maria

[Tybee Swing]

Hi Maria, thanks for the compliment!

Originally Posted by sexcupid

I also have an issue with only showing pictures of the female half of the couple as well.

It seems like a huge percentage of profiles only have the woman - maybe even 20 pictures of just her. If those couples write us, I ask right off for a picture of the husband, too. If they won't share it, that's it. It's unfair to use the wife as "bait" to get couples, and not share at all what the husband looks like.

[Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by sexcupid

First of all...Tybee and Spoo...wow. I would have never taken you or the spouses for the ages you are quoting. You guys look great.

Just to clarify, I am only 37. I'm what they call in the business a "boy toy".

But - once again at the club last night a couple that was my age thought Mrs Spoo was younger than me. It is kind of funny that one of our favorite games with people is "guess her age". Me - they get pretty close all the time; with her they miss it by at least a decade.

But - if we fall outside of someone's stated ages on their profile - we don't contact them. We don't want to be one of those couples that assume that we'll be an exception to a couple's rules. That is also why the club works better for us than the internet. Face to face with Mrs Spoo and 50 never enters your mind

Spoomonkey

PS - I completely agree with you on Tybee... I am not shocked, since I have a wife with the same "anti-aging" disease. But she doesn't look close to her stated age (I'm not calling you a liar, T )

[Tybee Swing]

Originally Posted by Spoomonkey

PS - I completely agree with you on Tybee... I am not shocked, since I have a wife with the same "anti-aging" disease. But she doesn't look close to her stated age (I'm not calling you a liar, T )

Awww, thanks Spoo! I kind of get a kick out of seeing the funny looks on people's faces when I tell them I have a daughter in college. A couple of years ago, my daughter and I were in the waiting room at the dentist for both of our appointments. Hygenist came out with our two charts in her hand. She looked at the two of us in the lobby, looked back at her papers, glanced back and forth at us and asked, "Where is your mother?" Oh, and this one is rich: we're going to be grandparents in the spring (Mr. Tybee's son is the expectant parent). My 20-something co-workers say, "That baby's going to have one hip granny!"

[Mr. Truelove]

Originally Posted by The Fuse

I don't think I could pass for much younger than my age. (Have you ever heard anyone (over 20 or 23) say how much older than their age they pass for?) I get the occasional comment about looking younger, but they are probably just being nice.

After reading that I perved your profile to see if what you said was true. I can't tell without seeing your face, but I must say. You've got a "kickin" body. facelick I wouldn't doubt you passing for younger.


That being said I've seen Mrs. Spoomonkey before(very young looking). I saw a picture of Tybee around one time (very young looking) and it just seems that everytime I meet someone in the lifestyle they seem so much younger than they claim!

"New research finds that a varied sexlife can reduce the effects of aging!"

[gatorvol64]

Originally Posted by Mr. Truelove

"New research finds that a varied sexlife can reduce the effects of aging!"

I certainly hope you know what you are talking about. It is a nice thought anyway.

Vol